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The Blurry Vision of People-Pleasing


Yesterday I picked up my new glasses.  I hadn’t had my prescription updated for three years.  I wear contacts most of the day, so it didn’t affect me that much – until recently.  I knew it was time to make the change when I had my last exam and he told me my eyes weren’t working together and that a prism would fix the problem. “Well, let’s do it!” I was fitted and the order was made.

Yesterday when I got home with the new glasses, I took my contacts out and put the new frames on my face.


It literally reminded me of when I would visit my grandma – she would set her glasses down and I would slip them on.  I couldn’t see a thing then and I sure wasn’t seeing yesterday!  It felt like one eye was going one way and the other eye the complete opposite!  I was trying to figure out where to look so I could even read. Right now I’m wondering if my brain is ever going to adjust to this!

This reminds me of another area of my life that gets completely out of focus – it’s that of serving “as unto the Lord.”

You see, I get double vision.  The desire to please people and the desire to please God often have a tug of war in my members.

My heart says, “Please God!”

My brain says, “What are people thinking?”

Oh how I hate it when I realize how important it is to me that people applaud, yet it is there.

“Did she see?”

” Does he approve?”

It’s in my heart far too often, and it goes against everything we read in Scripture, for our labor is to be done, not as men-pleasers, but as servants.

 For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10

The fear of man bringeth a snare… Proverbs 29:25

Trying to please people will ensnare me.  It traps me into trying to fit into a person’s mold, rather than my Savior’s.  It fills me full of fearing…

  • Not being good enough
  • Not doing enough
  • Not measuring up to what someone thinks I should do
  • being rejected
  • being disliked

Yet, my Savior served to please only His Father.  Christ went against everything man would have done.  He was unconventional in His methods and only had the desire to obey the Father.  Why then, do I worry about what others will think?  Why am I concerned about my reputation, when Christ gave me the perfect example to follow?  Why do I fear when He tells me what to do, how to do it, and then even gives me the strength and ability?

Last night I Googled, “Getting used to prism glasses.”  The encouragement was to “put them on and leave them on and don’t go back to your old lenses!”  How did they know that’s what I’m wanting to do?  They are comfortable.  I’m used to straining and making the adjustment!  But no, I must follow what the doctor has prescribed.

So too, I must keep on the lenses of servanthood, rather than trying to please people.  It will take adjusting my attitude, but in time, my spiritual eyes will see correctly, and I’ll have my eyes on Christ and no one else! That’s spiritual vision that is 20/20!

Do you ever realize that you’re being a men-pleaser?   Look only to the Lord, for He that sees will also reward us when the work is done for Him!


Any typo you find in this post is a result of… you guessed it – these new glasses! The words are literally jumping all over the page! :0


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