Yesterday a “hard question” was posted by a reader. It was as follows:
I’m struggling with how to help my cousin. She was saved a few months ago and of course, her life is completely different. She is, after all, a new creation. Her husband has decided he doesn’t want to be married and wants a divorce. She is heartbroken. I’d love to hear what scriptures my sisters in Christ would suggest to help her during this difficult time.
There were two excellent comments to help Vickie – we indeed must acknowledge the Lord in all our ways and let Him lead us – Proverbs 3:5,6. Also looking at the promises of God and reminding ourselves of His faithfulness will strengthen us when we are weak.
I’d like to add another thought to share with this young believer. I’m assuming that the husband is not a believer, and that’s part of the reason why he’s wanting to leave. There are two different natures living in their house now and they aren’t mixing! Peter instructs the saved wife in I Peter 3:1-4 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. The instruction is to submit to your husband in a sweet way and be a testimony to him of what God’s done in your life by living it before him. Serve him, pray for him and love him in the way that Christ loves you. Don’t come back at him with ugly words if he uses them towards you. Let the Holy Spirit control your tongue and be kind (Eph. 4:32).
You are not alone during this time. The Lord loves you and will not abandon you. Hebrews 13:5b-6 I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.
Pray for your husband’s salvation. God loves him and wants him to come to him. 2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
Spend time in God’s Word and prayer so you are learning more of Him and are reminded of His promises, as Whitney suggested. Commit to memory a verse of Scripture that you can repeat over and over each day when you begin to worry. Don’t go to all the “what ifs” that haven’t happened. Think on only those things that are true (Phil. 4:8).
No life is free from trials, Christian or not, but the blessing a believer has is that we have the Lord to instruct us and help us. We can also grow more like Christ through our trials (Romans 8:29); it’s not for naught. God can use even these hard things to make us mature in Him.
Thanks, Vickie, for giving us the opportunity to dig into the Word. This was a challenging situation, but there’s no problem too big for God! With God all things are possible! Matthew 19:26 We’ll be praying for your cousin and asking God for a miracle in their home.