Marriage · Uncategorized

Five Gentle Reflections After 40+ years of Marriage

After more than forty years of marriage I’ve learned that

  1. I will never be finished working on my marriage! Having a happy, fulfilling marriage where Christ is exalted, requires that we work on our marriage every.single.day. Yesterday I was intentional in pouring into our relationship with little things – I fixed Dale’s breakfast and took it to his study where he was having his Bible reading. I put toothpaste on his toothbrush when I put it on my own. I left him a note at the bathroom sink to thank him for something he did this week that pushed our family to the Lord. All these were small things, but they were investments.
  2. I must be in God’s Word and prayer each day. Without this time, I would be operating in my flesh, and trust me, that’s not pretty! As I read Proverbs 19 yesterday I read that the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. The rain was coming down when I read that, so I had a visual of what my “drippy complaints” and grumbling look like in my marriage! God’s Word convicts, guides, instructs and teaches me how to live in my marriage. My prayer time gives me a place to take my concerns. I have a choice to leave them at the Savior’s feet, rather than slinging them at my husband! Jesus is the only One Who can remedy the issues, so I know wisdom is to take them to Him! My heart that has been refreshed in God’s Word, serves to refresh our whole home!
  3. My presence sets the tone for our home. I’ve found that turning on soft instrumental music, lighting a candle, and having a cheery disposition (See point 2!), and other touches that create an inviting atmosphere makes a difference in how our home operates! It also helps Dale’s attitude when his wife is hopeful, happy and helpful to him!
  4. Treat every day like it’s our last, because one day it will be. I often fall into bed exhausted and as I am drifting off to sleep I ‘ll have the thought – “We didn’t kiss goodnight yet!” Then I’ll reach over and we kiss goodnight, pray and then sleep peacefully. I don’t want to miss the opportunity to say “I love you” before he leaves the house, to hold hands in the car or take his arm as we walk. These are gifts each day, and I don’t want to neglect them!
  5. Dale will never meet my every expectation, but Jesus does! That means I can let that hope go! He can’t read my mind, know my needs or supply each one! Psalm 62:5 has been in my mind often when I “feel like he owes me something!” He doesn’t – because he’s not my savior – Jesus is!

I pray these five reflections will help refresh your marriage today, too!

Dinner · Lunch · Meal planning

Menu Monday

After a few weekends on the road, we’re home for a couple weeks. That means that my empty fridge needs to be stocked! The eggs, butter and condiments are lonely in there!

I’m still making my way through my pantry and freezer, but it’s scaled back enough that I’m purchasing a few items outside the “perishable only“ category.

I pulled up my Pinterest inspirations and made up my menu for lunches and suppers. These are mostly all new recipes to me! This will be spread out over the next two weeks with other freezer staples being used as well.

I created this menu on my phone while driving home from North Carolina, then took a screen shot to show you. I also made my shopping list on my phone while I created the menu. I usually do this in my planner when I’m home, but where there’s a will, there’s a way!

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Love · Valentine's Day

Letters For a Valentine

This winter I enjoyed reading Jan Karon’s newest book, My Beloved. In the story, Father Tim decides to write his wife a letter as his Christmas gift to her. He painstakingly chose words and phrases to describe his love for her. Then the letter gets lost and the rest of the book describes where that tender post travels and all the people who read his personal sentiment!

As I read the book, I was struck with the impact that a hand-written expression of love can make.

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cakes · Cookies · dessert · Love · muffin · Pie · Valentine Treats

Five Sweet Valentine Treats

Since Valentine’s Day is approaching, I thought I’d share a line-up of sweet treats for you to make for a sweetheart, a child, your Bible study friends or whomever you may want to shower sweet kindness on!

You may be tempted to buy one of those big cookies in the mall, but this first recipe is every bit as good, is so easy and only costs about $2, $3 to make!  It is so yummy!!

Colossal Chocolate Chip Cookie

1 cup chocolate pieces – chips or M&M’s – Pink and Red Valentine would be pretty, or you could use just chocolate chips
1 1/2 Cups all-purpose flour
1/2 tsp baking soda
1/4 tsp salt
1/2 cup butter or margarine, softened
1/3 cup granulated sugar
1/3 cup brown sugar
1 egg
1 tsp vanilla

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.  Reserve 1/3 cup candies for decorating.  Set aside.  Combine flour, baking soda and salt; mix well.  In another bowl, beat butter and sugars until creamy.  Add egg and vanilla; beat well.  Add flour mixture; mix well.  Stir in 2/3 cup candies.  Place dough in center of a 13″ or 15″ round pan and spread out to sides.  Decorate with reserved candies.  Bake 16-18 minutes or until light golden brown.  Cool completely.  Cut into wedges to serve.
Yield:  10 servings

The following recipe is one I made my husband  on Valentine’s Day when we were dating.  He loved it so much that I’ve made it over and over on subsequent Valentin’e s Days! We all know the way to a man’s heart!

Sweetheart Fudge Pie
1/4 Cup butter or margarine
3/4 cup brown sugar, packed
3 eggs
2 cups semi-sweet real chocolate pieces
2 tsp instant coffee
1 tsp vanilla
1/4 cup all-purpose flour
1 cup coarsely chopped walnuts
9 inch unbaked pastry shell
1 cup whipping cream
2 Tbl chopped maraschino cherries

Cream butter with brown sugar; add eggs, one at a time, beating well.  Melt chocolate over hot, not boiling, water; add to creamed mixture with coffee and vanilla.  Stir in flour and walnuts.  Pour into pie shell.  Bake at 375 degrees for 25 minutes.  Cool.  Whip cream stiff (I like to add about 1/4 cup powdered sugar).  Fold in cherries.  Spread on top of pie; decorate with chocolate or candy hearts.

Red strawberries are perfect for Valentine’s Day.  Here’s a treat so start the day –

Strawberry Citrus Muffins

1 1/4 Cups chopped strawberries
3 tbl. margarine, melted
2 tsp grated orange or lemon rind
2 large eggs
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 1/4 cups sugar I reduce this to 1 cup – it’s plenty
1 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp salt
Cooking spray
2 tsp sugar I like to use the coarse sugar on top
1/2 Cup strawberry jam (optional) But why wouldn’t you?!

Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

Combine the first 4 ingredients in a bowl and mix just until mixture is blended.  Lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups, and level with a knife.  Combine flour, 1 cup sugar, baking powder and salt.  Add strawberry mixture to flour mixture, stirring just until mixture is moist.  Spoon the batter into 12 muffin cups coated with cooking spray ( or you could use pretty heart-shaped liners).  Sprinkle with 2 tsp sugar.  Bake at 400 degrees for 20 minutes or until muffins spring back when touched lightly in center.  Remove muffins from pan immediately.  Serve with jam, if desired.

More Strawberries…

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Lite Strawberry Shortcakes

Ingredients

  • 3 1/2 cups halved strawberries, divided
  • 1/3 cup sugar
  • 1/3 cup orange juice
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
  • 1 teaspoon lemon juice
  • 1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
  • 3 tablespoons sugar
  • 1 teaspoon baking powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/8 teaspoon salt
  • 3 tablespoons chilled stick margarine or butter, cut into small pieces
  • 1/2 cup low-fat buttermilk
  • Cooking spray
  • 6 tablespoons frozen reduced-calorie whipped topping, thawed
  • Whole strawberries (optional)
    1. Combine 1 cup strawberry halves, 1/3 cup sugar, orange juice, vanilla, and lemon juice in a bowl, and mash with a potato masher. Stir in 2 1/2 cups strawberry halves. Cover and chill.

    2. Preheat oven to 425°.

    3. Lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups; level with a knife. Combine flour, 3 tablespoons sugar, baking powder, baking soda, and salt in a bowl; cut in margarine with a pastry blender or 2 knives until mixture resembles coarse meal. Add buttermilk, stirring just until moist (dough will be sticky).

    4. Turn dough out onto a lightly floured surface, and knead lightly 4 times with floured hands. Pat dough into a 6 x 4-inch rectangle. Cut dough into 6 squares. Place 1 inch apart on a baking sheet coated with cooking spray. Bake at 425° for 12 minutes. Cool on a wire rack.

    5. Split shortcakes in half horizontally using a serrated knife; place each bottom half on a dessert plate. Spoon 1/4 cup strawberry mixture over each bottom half. Top with shortcake tops; spoon 1/4 cup strawberry mixture over each top. Top each serving with 1 tablespoon whipped topping; garnish with whole strawberries, if desired.

Lastly, think about anything you could cut into a heart-shape, using a cookie cutter.

  • Toast
  • Biscuits
  • Pancakes
  • French toast
  • Brownies
  • Cookies – Here’s my favorite Sugar Cookie recipe

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Here you go, friends!  I hope you have fun baking up a sweet treat for someone you love!

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Daily Life,

Productive Days

Recently a friend texted me at the end of the day and asked,

Did you have a productive day?

As I considered what I had accomplished in the day, I concurred, that, yes, it was! I continued to contemplate what I would consider a “productive day.” Actually the Proverb that I had read that morning truly describes a life that is full.

My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments:

For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee.

In verse two, “length of days” is actually referring to “fullness of days.” It’s a fulfilling life to walk with God and do His bidding each day. There’s truly no better way to live than to follow His Word!

As I considered what my productive days look like, I realized that there are six areas that I try to accomplish each day. There are often lots of other things that come into my schedule, but a day at home looks like this ~

Connecting with God. This is my first goal for each day. Time in God’s Word and prayer directs how I spend the rest of day. It keeps my thoughts on the right track. It allows me to lay at my Savior’s feet any burdens or concerns.

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