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Don’t Stress; Simplify Summer

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School’s out and the kids are wildly excited! Their moms, however, are shrinking back in the corner, an Iced Mocha in one hand and their other hand on their forehead in an effort to calm the storm they feel coming.  It’s called Summertime.

Are you dreading the coming months with your children at your feet?  Are you a little Continue reading “Don’t Stress; Simplify Summer”

Motherhood · Truth About Women

My Child Owes Me!

Christa Threlfall from Brown Sugar Toast asked me to contribute to her blog series on Lies Moms Believe, and this is one of the first lies that came to my mind because I’ve seen its devastation wreck its havoc in families.  See if you can relate…

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We might not ever really let the words come out of our mouths, but moms can often feel entitled to something from their child from the time they’re young or especially into their adult years. From appreciation, obedience, or regular calls and visits, we can have expectations that don’t line up with the kind of love our heavenly Father has for us. It’s a lie to think that they owe us anything! I’ve watched this lie choke my own heart at times, and I’ve seen other moms suffer the agony of this lie that destroys healthy relationships.

You can read the article here on Christa’s blog, and you’ll find the remedy of the Truth that we need to apply in order to be fulfilled instead.

After you read, why not come back here and leave a comment about whether you ever feel tempted to believe this lie, and if so, in what way?

Refresh your heart with truth, Mom!

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Encouragement · Help for busy moms · Motherhood · Overwhelmed · Priorities · Refreshment · time

How Am I Supposed To Get Everything Done?

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The week before Easter was one of those overwhelming kind of weeks.  There was so much to do, so much to prepare for, so much to finish up – on top of all my normal daily routines.  I felt like I needed to jump out of bed and start to work in order to accomplish it all!  I wondered as perhaps you often do –

How am I supposed to get everything done and still have time in God’s Word?

That question truly drove me to my knees in prayer, because I knew there was no way that I could come up with a plan that would work.  Yes, I added one more “thing to do” by stopping at my chair to read God’s Word, then drop on my knees to talk to the Lord about my busy day/week.  Continue reading “How Am I Supposed To Get Everything Done?”

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The Roller Coaster of Motherhood

If you’ve been a mom for more than a day you know it’s exhilarating and exhausting, fun and frustrating, joyful and jolting, breathtaking and back breaking – sometimes all in the span of 24 hours!

On my frustrating mommy days, it was helpful for me to get my focus.  Why was I doing this?  What is my goal?  Where am I headed?  What am I supposed to do each day?  It’s all in God’s Word and I found Proverbs 10:4 convicting and Deuteronomy 6:4-8 especially helpful.

This video will tell you  what I gleaned from these passages about how to survive the roller coaster of motherhood!

When are you most likely to want to turn in your “Mommy Badge?”

Refresh your role by reminding yourself of God’s plan for this season,

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Help for busy moms · Marriage · Motherhood · Overwhelmed

Six Suggestions for Stressed-Out Moms

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Sticky floors, piles of laundry, emotional meltdowns, food battles, dirty diapers, frequent illnesses, limited outside activities, bedtime squabbles and marital strain all point to one thing —-

an overwhelmed mom.

Did I just describe you?  How did I do it?  I’ve been there.  I remember the days of wondering Continue reading “Six Suggestions for Stressed-Out Moms”

children · Motherhood · Parenting

Why Talking Isn’t Enough In Child Training

Imagine yourself walking along with your child in a grassy field.  As you walk across the deep growth, you hear a noise.  You look a few feet in front of you and see the source of the sound – a rattle snake shaking its tail, ready to strike a venomous blow.

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You stop your child, point towards the reptile and say,

That is a rattlesnake!  Rattlesnakes are poisonous.  They can hurt or kill you.

Then you proceed forward with your planned walk, leaving your child and yourself open to true danger.

You’re shaking your head right now because you know you would hever do that.  You know that on sight of the poisonous snake, you would REMOVE both your child AND yourself from its presence just as quickly as possible.  Even if your child didn’t understand what was happening and didn’t want to leave, you would drag him off, knowing you were saving him from sure disaster.

Now let me ask you – if you would do that with a snake, why won’t you do that with your child’s sin?  What is keeping you from doing whatever is necessary to get them away from their sinful/deadly behaviour?

So often I see parents look at their child after they’ve disobeyed, spoken disrespectfully or been defiant and say something that sounds like the parent describing the poisonous snake –

That is not nice.

Those are ugly words!

You are not obeying!

Then they continue to walk towards “the snake.”  No action is taken to stop the forward movement – the continuation of their sin!

Proverbs 29:15 reminds us how to train a child to “run away from the snake.”

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.

You can use words to teach, but it needs another element added to it to get the lesson across – it’s a rod, a paddle.  Loving, firm discipline connnected with teaching them what God’s Word says about their sin is the only way to get them to understand the danger of going their own way.  Words alone will not get the job done because children are foolish.

Proverbs 22:15 – Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

This is what God tells us! He made our children and He knows their sinful hearts.   Why do we think we can try to discipline another way – a way that eliminates a spanking?  No one enjoys having to spank their child, but the end result is rest (v. 17).

After the rod AND reproof are given, your child will be on the lookout for snakes himself because he doesnt’ want to “get bitten” again.

To really love your child, you must care enough to not only point out their sinful behaviour, but punish them when it shows itself.  Don’t leave that child on their own.  God gave them a parent to teach and train them…and that blessed person is YOU.  Be on the lookout for the poisonous snakes in their path!

With love,