I have an adorable picture of my kitty, Liza, sitting in front of a door, staring at it, just like the picture above. It was taken just this past weekend. You see, she spends her nights in the laundry room. On Sunday morning, I let her out and then she happily followed me into the bathroom while I got ready for church. She was delighted to be out of the laundry room and with someone! She purred and could have done a commercial for Happy Cat, until I closed the door to keep her inside. When she realized that she was now behind another closed door, she began meowing, and peeking under the door. Then sat down and stared, as if her gaze alone could magically cause it to open.
What would have happened if I would have let Liza out and then closed the door behind her? Yep, she would have wanted back in. I think it’s called discontentment! It’s one thing in a pet, it’s a whole other monster when it is seen in a child!
Description of a discontented child:
- If they’re at home, they want to go somewhere.
- If they’re in the car traveling, they want out.
- If it’s summer vacation they want to know when school will be back in session.
- If they’re in school, they begin counting down the days until vacation.
- If you fix spaghetti, they want hot dogs.
- If you grill out at the picnic, they want Italian food.
On and on it goes until a parent can be driven to locking themselves in the laundry room with the cat! What is a parent to do?
- Stop the child when they begin to complain. Tell them they can say good things about what is happening right now, but if they complain, they may not talk for a certain time limit, say ten minutes. Then they may only speak again if they can do so without complaining. Stick to your guns!
- Ask the child to tell you three things they can thank God for about their current situation of staying home, being in the car, being on vacation, etc.
- Have them memorize verses on complaining and thankfulness. Phil. 2:4, I Thess. 5:18, Psalm 100.
- Teach songs about thankfulness. If the child starts to complain, have them go to their room and sing your thankfulness song out loud. (They’re spreading their complaints out loud, why not share the song too?!)
No one enjoys being around a complainer. Adults, we need to make sure they’re not hearing complaints from us. The weather, having to go to work, how long the church service lasted…all need to be met with a heart of gratitude that our child can learn from. Let’s set the example!
Do you have a method you use to curtail discontentment?
On to today’s Challenge:
Pastor Encouragement: Pray that your pastor will make wise lifestyle choices in order to protect his health, especially in areas of exercising, eating moderately, and getting sufficient rest. Pray for times of relaxation and renewal to balance the stress of ministry.
Husband Encouragement: Let’s get practical here. Is your husband a good lover? Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage. Realize that your husband wants intimacy with you . . . his desire is toward you.
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