Continuation of the book, Adorned, Lesson #6. You can listen to this post (that has even more) here Refresh Her podcast.
What would you say is the easiest way to determine a person’s character?
Listen to them talk.

Our Savior said that what is in our heart will come out of our mouth.
As we continue through Titus 2, we read, The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers .
Our last lesson spoke about being reverent in our behavior. Could a woman have behavior that is reverent – realizing that God is present and acting in a way that reveals His character – and also be a false accuser? No, of course not. Another type of speech a false accuser uses is slander. To slander someone is to simply spread harmful information or lies about another person.
Slander is so harmful. It hurts the one we’re speaking about, and it will also harm or discredit our testimony as a woman who should be adorning the Gospel.
Often we run another person down, perhaps sharing something we perceive about them, but don’t know to be true. We might also share something that is true about them, with an intent to make ourselves look better, or to discredit their reputation.
If you’ve ever been the one talked about, you know the pain involved, yet we must admit that we are guilty. Where does this come from anyway?
The word “malicious gossips” or “false accusers” is the Greek word diabolos, from which we derive our English word diabolical. This word refers to Satan. In other words,
Slander is devilish.
The first time we meet Satan in Scripture is in Genesis when he is speaking to Eve, and what kind of speech is he using? Slander. Against Whom? God.
Genesis 3:1 Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?
2 And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:
3 But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.
4 And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:
Satan slanders God to humans. It’s one of his tactics. Have you ever had him tell you things like, “If God loved you, this wouldn’t be happening!” Or “Why didn’t that happen? God is not on your side!”
Satan also slanders believers to God. In Rev. 12:10 John called Satan the accuser of the brethren. He constantly brings slanderous accusations about us before the throne of God.
Here are three questions to ask ourselves before we share information:
- Is it true?
- Is it kind?
- Does it need to be said now?
All three questions need to be answered affirmatively before you should speak it, and even then it might be best not to let it from your lips.
Wow, slander is easy to speak, but its damage is widespread, both to ourselves and the precious Gospel. Let’s ask the Lord to set a watch before the door of our lips so that our words adorn the Gospel and speak of our much of our Savior .
You will find all the posts in our study of the book, Adorned, by Nancy Wolgemuth.
Ask the Lord to refresh your speech so it will run from slander in any form.
P.S. I shared a story on the podcast about a time I shared something that was so embarrassing. What’s your embarrassing story?!

I found your blog through your daughter’s blog. I find your blogs peaceful places. To answer your question my story is less embarrassing and more convicting. My latest tongue mishap was when a neighbor was gaslighting me and falsely accusing me of not being a Christian. To defend myself, I untactfully told her some honest opinions of her like she is “arrogant”. I am a quiet person in nature, like I am not talkative, so I don’t have a lot of practice. I never saw it as a sin before, but more just responding honestly. The Holy Spirit has really been convicting me though of my words need to build up and not tear down. Honesty is a good thing, but I need to use it to be helpful (edifying) and not condemning no matter what people say to me. At least I am convicted so I can go forward, but I need lots of practice. Everyday I have an opportunity with my husband to practice. I’ll take those.
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Laura, thanks for your transparency. This is an area we all deal with – hence so many verses in Scripture about our tongues! Praise the Lord for the conviction He brings, right along with the forgiveness when we repent.I love hearing how you respond and then move forward in God’s grace. I’m sure those around you are witnessing this as well.
Thanks for stopping here to read and share. I’m so glad my blog is a place of refreshment for you! Thanks for being a blessing to me today!
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