communication · God's Love · Prayer

My Father’s Voice

The radio podcast on my phone was interrupted by an incoming call. I looked down to see the word, “Dad.” I was delighted to see that it was my father who was calling. I always enjoy getting to talk to my dad, but the increase joy in hearing from him was due to being concerned (okay, I was worrying) about a procedure he’d had done at his physician’s office the day before. Fearful of bothering him, I didn’t want to call, so I decided to wait for his initiation. Hearing his voice and him calling me by my nick name in greeting, made my face and my heart smile. I got to ask him questions about how he was doing, then, as is typical of him, he turned the attention to me instead. He encouraged me about some issues I shared with him, and he assured me of his prayers. We enjoyed a sweet conversation and I hung up the phone relieved and thankful for his thoughtfulness in calling. It was a sweet comfort to hear his voice.

Moments after the call had been finished, the Lord brought to my mind that hearing from my Heavenly Father is even more precious. There are so many burdens on my heart right now, and each morning as I open my Bible and my prayer journal to read and then lift those needs before the Lord, it has been so sweet to hear from my Father in heaven.

He comforts me.

He reminds me of the Truth.

He gives me advice.

He listens.

He encourages me. 

I rise from our time together, a smile on my face and in heart. He called and I heard His voice. Thank you, Father.

By fearsome deeds of righteousness wilt Thou answer us, O God of our salvation, who art the confidence of all the ends of the earth and of them that are afar off upon the sea. Psalm 65:5

What burdens are you carrying today? Sit down and be still. Open God’s Word and let Him speak to you there. As you sit in prayer, don’t do all the talking. Let Him “call” you. You will hear His voice and He will comfort you.

communication · Dates · Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry, Part 2


I watched the sweetest couple get married last weekend.  It was precious to observe.  I saw heads bowed together, hands clasped, endearing looks and tears at the vows shared.  One word you couldn’t use to describe the wedding would be dry.  No way!  It was flowing with love!

No one gets engaged with the thought, “I wonder if my wedding day will be dry and boring?”  But how many couples end up eventually looking at one another and sensing a dryness?  Too many.  Sometimes it comes in spells.  Sadly Continue reading “Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry, Part 2”

communication · Marriage

Family Friday – How To Keep Your Marriage Plugged-In

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It happens often – a guest walks into our house and then says,

“Your house always smells so good!”

It always makes me happy to hear that because I want my house to smell good!  There are some routines I do to help accomplish this, but I think the thing that contributes most to the pleasant aroma is that I have these Yankee Plug-in’s all over the house.

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I love them!  Some have lights and are a little fancier than others that have just the fragrance refill behind a decorative plug, but they all smell really good!

I have a sweet friend who works for Yankee Candle Company who keeps me stocked up in my favorite scents. She also keeps me from using fragrances that won’t mix well together.  Combining Vanilla with a Lilac might not be the best! The candle company calls this, Fragrance layering.  It’s adding just the right combinations to create a pleasant aroma.  I am blessed to have a friend who does the “mixing” perfectly!  I keep a check on the fragrance bottles so I know when the aroma is getting ready to disappear.  I want that fragrance to continue!

Last week when another guest mentioned how good our house smelled, the Lord brought to my mind that a happy marriage also has a wonderful aroma!  It’s noticeable to others, and it happens in the same way that my house smells good – we must stay plugged-in!  Oh, not to the wall outlet, but plugged-into one another, which just means, closely connected; in touch with what is going on; informed; involved.  Easier said than done with today’s “crazy-busy” schedules, right?  It may seem difficult, but let me give you a few ways that you and your spouse can stay plugged in!

  1. At the beginning of the day, share with your spouse what your days holds and ask about his day.
    1. Are there burdens on your heart that he could pray for while you’re apart?
    2. Where will you be going?
    3. How long will you be gone?
    4. With whom will you spend your day (or appointment?)
    5. Is there a decision that needs to be discussed before you leave – perhaps about finances or what an upcoming event?
    6. Never part without saying, “I love you” and giving a kiss.
  2. During the day, let him know if anything changes in your plans.  Call or text to keep him informed.
    1. Will you be late?
    2. Are you going somewhere else?
    3. Did something unexpected come up?
    4. Don’t just text about obligatory things!  You can flirt with him in your text – he’s your husband!
      One day last week when I was in the store I saw a Valentine that was perfect for him, but I already had one to give him.  I took a picture of the front of it and sent it via a text!
  3. At the end of the day, ask questions about his day – the demands he had on him, the appointment, the problem, the blessings that occurred. Be ready to share your day, if he asks.  If he doesn’t, realize that it’s all about timing.  Be patient.
  4. Routinely, add other means of care and communication. You might call this the fragrance “layering.”  It’s when you add more than one action or response to demonstrate your interest in his  life.
    1. Drop a card in the mail and send it to his work, if possible.  If not, leave it for him – in his dresser, closet, Bible, or by his coffee cup.  Let him know in the card that you care deeply about the things that touch his life.
    2. Keep your calendars in sync.  Whether you do it electronically or on a paper calendar, have a place where both of you know what is coming up in the future.  for example, vacation schedules, work trips, medical appointments, etc.
    3. Communicate all financial decisions.  You are a team.  Never make a purchase and hide it until later.  Be up-front and transparent.
    4. Praying together daily helps to share what’s really on your hearts.  If he doesn’t initiate it, sweetly ask if you could pray together.  If he says, no, just pray the Lord will move in his heart in the days ahead.  For the time being, regularly ask how you might pray for him.
    5. Be affectionate and loving.
    6. Look him in the eyes when he’s speaking.
    7. Touch him – hold hands, rub his back, put your arm through his when you’re walking. Touch communicates!
    8. Share with him the things you are learning in God’s Word and how it is changing you.
    9. When you are able to accompany your husband on an outing, an extra activity he has to do, or a fun venture he’s excited about, like a ballgame or hike (did I just say that?!) go!

I’m pretty sure we all want our marriages to “smell wonderful” because we’re plugged-in to our spouse!  Maybe today is a good day to check the bottle to see if you need to add a refill!

In what way do you purposefully stay plugged-in to your spouse?

My husband and I are headed to The Wilds today where he will be the speaker for the Sweetheart Overnight Retreat.  Pray for us, would you?  Thank you in advance!

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