Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Twelve Things I Do to Keep My Marriage Strong

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Hilarious, picture, right?!  Bear with me – I’m reminiscing!

I can still remember the day of our wedding rehearsal on June 19, 1981.  We were so excited about our wedding that would following on the next evening!  The rehearsal for the second best day in my life (the first being my salvation!) was a really special occasion!

This was in the era when rehearsals were a pretty big deal – you dressed up pretty nice, went to the church and learned when to come in, where to stand, when to hold hands, when the vows would be repeated and when it was time to run down the aisle together!

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Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Grace in Marriage

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We are so thankful for God’s grace to us in our daily lives, aren’t we? We know what it looks like – grace forgives, helps, restores, equips, guides, and restores. But what would grace in marriage look like?  Let’s put it in a practical light of how you and I can practice grace in our marriage relationship today.

  • Pray daily for your mate – Find Bible passages to pray for him and watch how God answers!
  • Regularly learn about him – Things are constantly changing. What do you need to learn?
  • Find new ways to serve him – Be the one with the biggest servant’s heart. If you want to be great, serve.
  • Look for ways to surprise him – Find something that would be a blessing and do it when he least expects it.
  • Withhold criticism about him – Keep it from your thoughts, conversations to others or him.
  • Touch him – No one else but you can.
  • Respect him – To his face, behind his back, tell others why you respect the man you chose to marry.
  • Affirm him – Remind him that you’re on his team, no matter what.
  • Forgive –Call a truce in a disagreement – Hold out both your hands to him, look him in the eye and say what you would want to hear…”I’m sorry. Let’s make up.”
  • Be cheerful – Be the reason he’s glad he came home!

You may have screamed, “He doesn’t deserve __________.”  That’s why it’s called grace.  Do it for him like God does it for you.

As I close out this blogging week, I’m going to share with you the first broadcast from Refresh Her that aired on WHCB Radio last Saturday.  You can hear the broadcast live each Saturday at 3:45.  This is 15 minutes long, so  find the best way to take the time to listen – perhaps on your phone while you’re doing another task or getting ready for the day.  Click below to listen!

Is this broadcast something you might like me to post each week?  I’m curious if there would be enough interest to find a way to post the broadcast after it has aired on the radio station.  Let me know your thoughts in the comments!

Also, how will you show grace in your marriage today?

denise a

Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

When Your Marriage Hits “Hopeless Highway”

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I’ll never forget one of the first big disagreements my husband and I had shortly into our marriage.  I truly don’t even remember what the issue was over, but I do remember that my heart was crushed.  I was sure we were in a desperate state.  It seemed like we were miles apart. Icy words had been spoken.  A wall had been erected and I wondered if Continue reading “When Your Marriage Hits “Hopeless Highway””

Marriage · Refreshment in marriage · Wife's Role

Positive Thoughts About Your Spouse

 

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Roses brought home to me for no reason – these are the things I need to think about!

I’m totally not a believer in the Positive thinking mentality of “Just think beautiful thoughts and beautiful things will happen to you.”  Living in a fallen, sinful world means we will deal with fallen people and sinful situations – no matter how positively we think!

However, there is an area of  marriage in which positive thinking will indeed bring about change.

Thinking on positive attributes about your spouse can change your heart about them, which then has the potential to improve your marriage!

When we rehearse the negative characteristics about our mate all day long, in our own mind and in the ears of others, we are only magnifying those issues.  If a wife stews for hours about how she disdains that her husband dresses sloppily, when she sees him at the end of the day in his comfy clothes, those mental magnifiers will jump to attention! It won’t be easier to deal with –  it will be more difficult because she’ll feel justified as she finger points in his “messy” direction.

Think how much sweeter it would be to think of ONE POSITIVE THING for which we could thank the Lord all day long.  Perhaps it would be ~

  • his thoughtfulness
  • his work ethic
  • his provision for your family
  • his attention to detail
  • his love for God
  • his skills
  •  his calm nature

Write it down.
Thank the Lord for that in your prayer time.
Write him a note telling him that you’re thankful for that area of his life.
Tell others both when he is present and when he is absent.

When we make a habit of rehearsing negative issues we’ll only feel overwhelmed and in despair.  But when we trade those thoughts for the positive traits in our spouse, we can’t help but grow to love him more.

Let me set the example – I have a husband who is a romantic at heart.  He is so great about doing the things to touch my heart.  He brings flowers.  He remembers our engagement anniversary.  He is loves to surprise me with gestures like bringing me breakfast while I’m having my quiet time.  He is such a special blessing in my life!

What one thing could you say today about your spouse?  Why not start by sharing it in the comments?

Refresh your marriage with positive thoughts!

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