Aren’t the old classic Christmas movies special to watch? A favorite of mine is It’s a Wonderful Life. This sweet story reminds me of what every wife should be doing for her husband – showing unconditional love and support. If you’ve seen the movie, let me remind you of a couple times when the wife, Mary, displays that…
After George and Mary get married, they are on their way to their honeymoon when there is a run on the bank money. George spends the rest of the day caring for his customers, half forgetting that he has a new bride. Though they have no money for an extravagant honeymoon, he finds that Mary has taken an old run-down house that she’s dreamed about living in and prepared a beautiful dinner in it for him. She hung up posters of exotic places they’d dreamed of visiting and created the best atmosphere possible for their wedding night using her limited resources and her love.
The last clip of the film shows George returning to his home and family. He quickly learns that Mary that has informed their friends and family that he was in trouble. She organized their support in the form of financial help and their presence. People come pouring into the house with money for them. George is overwhelmed at their kindness. All through this last scene, there is Mary, smiling, supporting her husband, loving him – no matter what. Through good times and bad, she gave herself to be the best wife to him that she could be, both behind the scenes and in his presence. She never belittles him; never criticizes.
No marriage is without hard times. It comes in all different forms over the years, and there must be a resolve to support our husband. We must be willing to sacrifice, lend our help, and continue to love him through the toughest of situations.
What hard thing is your husband going through right now? How can you show your support of him?
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
If a husband has a wife who will stand with him and love him through the hard times. I believe he’ll know how blessed he is…and it will be a wonderful marriage (life).
Refresh your husband with your unconditional support.
Recently at a marriage conference my husband and I were privileged to do, he preached a message that had some really great points that are just too good not to share! If your marriage is struggling (and we all struggle at one point or another!) these are great truths to tuck away and preach to yourself! Ready? There are seven of them…
- My past doesn’t define or confine me. Are you guilty-ridden? Have you messed up as a wife along the way and regretted your behavior, or attitude? Those things don’t define you – nor do they keep you from changing!! Old things are passed away and all things are become new! II Cor. 5:17
- We can live free from sin, guilt and condemnation. Remember point #1 when you might have thought about something hard? There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1
- Nothing done against me compares to my sin against God. When we feel we’ve been done “dirty” by our spouse, this truth is so crucial to remember! Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. I Peter 2:24
- I’m not dependent on my spouse for what I am or need. A husband can do lots of things, but Christ is ALL I need. Psalm 62:5 Oh my soul, wait though only upon God, for my expectation is from Him.
- I can obey all God has called me to do regardless of any situation. Submitting is hard. Asking forgiveness is difficult, but…It is God who works in us, both to will and do of His good pleasure. Phil. 2:13
- I can endure any suffering or hardship with the assurance that God is working all to my greatest good. God can take even ugly situations and turn them into blessings! Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
- God is always with me and always at work in my marriage, even when progress is imperceptible. Though I may feel alone, I am not. Isaiah 65:24 Before they call I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear.
After I got these truths home, I asked myself, “Where does the Bible tell me that?” then I found a verse that is the backbone of each of those truths. I would encourage you to do the same thing. Find Scripture verses that will remind you of God’s forgiveness, presence, work, plan and help for your marriage. Write it in your prayer journal and thank God for the fact that He cares more for your marriage than you even do!! God wants your marriage to succeed and bring glory to Him! You have His Word on it!!
Do those Truths encourage you like they do me?!
Refresh your marriage so you can refresh others!
Like any relationship, marriage can get into a rut. It sounds the same as when you hit those rumble strips on the interstate. It’s irritating, and it makes you move over, but often it’s not long before you hear that roar again. Why? Because you’re kind of daydreaming your way through your marriage.
It’s easy to “fall asleep at the wheel” and not make the efforts in your relationship that you used to make when things were new and fresh. But I have good news for you today! If you’re still breathing and your husband also has breath, things can change TODAY! Let me make three simple suggestions – all that are doable today and cost nothing except your intentionality!
- SMILE DAILY (use your lips and your eyes to smile!)
When he walks in the door. Smile.
While you’re listening to him. Smile.
When you’re telling him about your day. Smile.
When you see him across the room. Smile.
It’s easier to be too busy to even look up at one another. It’s easier to furrow our brows and scowl. SMILE instead.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine. Proverbs 17:22
- MAKE MORE DEPOSITS INTO YOUR MARRIAGE THAN WITHDRAWALS EACH DAY
Deposit a compliment instead of criticism. Instead of fussing about the negative thing you’re thinking about, give a compliment of something in which he made you proud.
Deposit help instead of looking to receive help. I believe husbands should help their wife, but what would happen if we volunteered to run an errand, lift a load, or do a chore for him? Would we look like Christ in our sacrifice?
Deposit affection instead of pulling away physically and emotionally. Put away that cold shoulder, little peck, or icy back. Pull the wall down with the warmth of your affection.
Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.
- PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND FOR AT LEAST FIVE MINUTES EVERY DAY.
Pray about the things that irritate you.
Pray about the weaknesses in your relationship.
Pray for his burdens, pressures and obligations.
Pray for your hearts to be knit together stronger than ever.
Luke 18:1 – Men (women) aught always to pray and not to faint.
Dear wife, I’m convinced that if we would practice these three initiatives DAILY we would have happy husbands, which would equal happy wives, and that boils down to a happy marriage! Try it and tell me about your results!
Refresh your marriage TODAY!
Sticky floors, piles of laundry, emotional meltdowns, food battles, dirty diapers, frequent illnesses, limited outside activities, bedtime squabbles and marital strain all point to one thing —-
an overwhelmed mom.
Did I just describe you? How did I do it? I’ve been there. I remember the days of wondering Continue reading “Six Suggestions for Stressed-Out Moms”
One of the blessings of using Labor Day to clean out the garage is filtering through all the “old stuff” and getting to reminisce. That’s exactly what we did last Monday. Old books, pictures, and memorabilia were uncovered with older hands and faces and with hearts that were happy to remember. Continue reading “Family Friday – Recreate the Fun”
I’m left-handed. I hoard chocolate. My dresser drawers are usually a mess. I have an identical twin. I have a reputation as a prankster. I’m dangerous around fire. I crave Mexican food. I’m dreaming about writing a book.
You will find the words above in the “Meet Denise” page of my blog. Go here for more of the facts about my life. I thought it was really important in this section of my blog to really let ladies know who is behind the computer. By knowing a little about me, you’ll know better whether my posts would benefit you.
Today I thought I’d give you a few more details and be a little more personal about myself and my blog. Continue reading “A Little More About Denise”
To continue with my theme of my 10th anniversary of blogging, I thought it would be fun to share highlights of my blog. Let’s start with food!
You don’t have to read my posts for long to know that I love to cook. We love good food made at home and it’s fun to find the best recipes to make for my friends and family. The recipe that has had the most hits on my blog is my recipe for Beef Enchiladas. That is for good reason, friends. This is probably my family’s favorite dish! You can find this recipe here.
Coming in as another sought after recipe is this one for Empanadas. Another beef recipe, this is a great do-ahead recipe that could be frozen prior to baking.
The blog post that has the highest readers was a post near and dear to my own heart. It dealt with how to know if your child is ready to be saved. Many parents struggle to know if their child is too young to trust Christ. Should they make them wait until they’re older? Do they need to know more before they pray? Here was my response to those questions.
Marriage posts are important to me because I know how the devil attacks the home and would love to destroy the union between husband and wife. Simple posts like this one on kindness in marriage shows that it’s really the little things that can make a big difference in a happy relationship.
This post on getting a toddler ready to sit in church must be a hot topic because it was another popular read. We all know that getting a 4 or 5 yea-old to sit quietly in church is like trying to corral kittens! I trust these ideas will help get those kittens to sit for a little while so Mommy and Daddy can hear God’s Word without having to leave the service (as often).
I trust that some of these most popular posts might help inspire you in your kitchen, your home and marriage, or your church service! Come back tomorrow where we’ll get a little more personal. =)