Dates · Refreshment in marriage · spring

Springtime Dates

It’s warming up pretty consistently here in East Tennessee.  These are perfect opportunities to have a fun date with your spouse!  Need some ideas?  Here are a few fun ones to get you started:

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  1. Get outside and work in the yard together.  Clean up any leaves from fall.  Mow the grass, sweep the sidewalks and driveway.  See if you could use some new shrubbery.  Celebrate the beautiful yard with a Frosted Lemonade at Chick-Fil-A or an ice cream cone at Dairy Queen!
  2. Take a bike ride on one of the local trails.
  3. Go for a breakfast picnic.  Be aware of the morning dew and take a towel or blanket to sit on or wipe down the table.
  4. Take a hike on a mountain trail.
  5. Take a drive in the country with the windows down.
  6. Go to Lowe’s or any other paint store and pick out a color for a room in your house or a piece of furniture that needs some refreshing. Do the project together.
  7. Build a fire in the fire pit in the evening.
  8. Play a yard game like croquet, Frisbee, or badminton.
  9. Wash the car together.
  10. Go to the park and fly a kite.
  11. Sit outside and watch the sunset from your porch swing.
  12. Take a walk around the neighborhood hand in hand.
  13. Go to a local drive-in like Sonic and enjoy lunch in the car with the windows down.
  14. Go to yard sales and find items you need to make your porch inviting!
  15. Find a little town you’d like to spend the day investigating and have a whole day away shopping, having coffee, and just walking its streets.

There are some ideas to get you started!  What springtime dates have you planned?  Remember, most times together won’ just happen!  You have to be intentional!

Happy Spring Date night!

Dates · Valentine Treats · Valentine's Day

ABC’s of Sharing your Love

Looking for some ways to express your love to your husband this Valentine’s Day? Here are 26 ways to love him all year long.

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Admire his physical characteristics.
Buy him his favorite candy bar, snack or treat.
Call him on the phone while he’s at work just to tell him you love him and are thinking about him.
Dress up for him – look your best when he comes home!
Express the reasons why you love him – write it on the bathroom mirror in dry erase marker.
Find a picture of the two of you that brings back a special memory.
Greet him at the door each night when he comes home.
Have your own signal to say “I love you.” A tug of the tie, a secret number code, etc so you can express your love even in a crowd.

Initiate a date and take care of all the details.
Joke and tease with him like you did when you were dating.
Kiss him before he leaves the house!
Leave notes for him – in his car, on his pillow, in his brief case, in his Bible…
Make his favorite dessert and serve it by candlelight in your bedroom after the kids are in bed.

This cake is perfect for Valentine’s Day!


Note on a large-blocked calendar things your husband has done for you. Keep track all year, and then give the calendar to him as a journal of sorts.
Openly share your love for him in front of your children. They need the security that Mommy and Daddy love each other!
Poems are creative ways to tell your husband how you feel. If you can’t write one, find one that says what’s in your heart.
Quips and cartoons are fun love notes to leave. Read the comics and the “Love is” cartoon in the paper and cut out one that is appropriate for him.

Run an errand for him – even if it’s out of your way.
Share a special treat together – a milkshake or a small personal-size pizza.
Tell him what you admire about him – this is different than why you love him…this is about who he is – not what he does.
Understand his need for space.
Vanish away together! Plan an overnight trip and surprise him.
Wash the car for him
Xtra loving care.
Your attitude can change his bad day. Make sure your heart is right with the Lord so you can encourage him!
Zest for life can make a boring marriage an exciting one. Do something new together!

Share your ideas of ways you express your love here in the comment section.

Lovingly,

Dates · Refreshment in marriage · The Scenic Route

Stress-Reliever Scenic Route Date

I’m so thankful for a husband who is my sounding board. He listens so patiently as I share the things that are burdening my heart. This week I said,

I’m feeling really stressed over several things that are coming up in the next few weeks. I’m really going to need your help to think right!

He nodded, knowing already the truth that I had just shared. He lives with me. He knows what triggers my wrong responses.

That night after supper, I asked if we could go for a ride. We live in the country, and we often just hit a country road, enjoy the scenery, watch the sun set and come home refreshed. We jumped in the car and he headed towards the interstate. Hmmm, this was no “drive in the country – I sensed we were having a Scenic Route Date/Adventure!” We headed towards Bristol, Virginia, about 30 minutes from where we live.

After driving into town, we headed downtown where all the cute shops are, but also our favorite local bakery – Blackbird Bakery! Excitement was building!!!

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Dale parked along the street and we made our way into the bakery where we carefully deliberated over their expansive dessert selections. Their donuts are outstanding, so my husband had one with Peanut Butter filling and a Chocolate glaze. I enjoyed a cute little chocolate tart filled with a light, fluffy mousse and topped with a raspberry.

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Here’s the Mousse I enjoyed.
(Picture from Blackbird Bakery site)

Taking our treats to a small table, we settled in where we carefully enjoyed each bite of our treats. Then my husband pulled a small cardboard box out of his pocket that contained a game. My heart melted at the fact that he had thought ahead to bring a game! It was Scrabble Slam! A card version of Scrabble. It’s face-paced and of course, “wordy” and so much fun. We played the first round. I won. The second game delighted him because he beat me! So of course we had to have a tie breaker!

Scrabble Slam Cards

We were there about 45 minutes before we headed towards home. It was such a fun time, and a great diversion! I enjoyed it so much that I failed to even snap a picture! The date was relatively short and very low-key, but it was just what I needed, and just what our marriage needed. It’s proof that it doesn’t take lots of planning or lots of money or time to invest in your relationship. It was also a reminder to me about how much I need my husband and what a treasure he is to my life!

Oh, in case you’re wondering about the tie-breaker Scrabble Game, let’s just say, it was close, but my love for words won out!

What fun, yet simple outing could you and your spouse enjoy this week? Perhaps he’s the one who is a little stressed. Your response to him could be the blessing my husband’s thoughtfulness was to me. Take the Scenic Route and enjoy a simple date together!

communication · Dates · Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry, Part 2

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I watched the sweetest couple get married last weekend.  It was precious to observe.  I saw heads bowed together, hands clasped, endearing looks and tears at the vows shared.  One word you couldn’t use to describe the wedding would be dry.  No way!  It was flowing with love!

No one gets engaged with the thought, “I wonder if my wedding day will be dry and boring?”  But how many couples end up eventually looking at one another and sensing a dryness?  Too many.  Sometimes it comes in spells.  Sadly Continue reading “Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry, Part 2”