I’ve recently shared on my blog that my church hosts a Ladies’ “retreat” of sorts every other year. I called it a “Refresher” because that’s what I was praying it would be in our lives. Just last weekend we enjoyed that great refreshment in so many ways! I thought you might enjoy getting a peek into our time together!
All those pretty planners that were sold in the month of December or January were so inviting. There were stickers and binders as well as pretty pens to mark up the dates. Did you purchase one? Maybe you got one from Target or ordered a special Erin Condren version. At any rate, how’s it going? Is it still in use? I think it’s easy to get started in those kinds of organizational tools and then let it slip off into the Ocean of Good Intentions.
Sometimes our feelings of being overwhelmed are due to over-scheduling ourselves. Over-scheduling can come from lack of planning, and a lack of planning comes from getting a bit careless. This is true of my own life. I’ll tuck my planner in the cabinet, then start the week off and realize I’m going in circles, and not really sure what needs to be done that day/week. The reason? I didn’t write it down! Why? I was just too lazy to sit down and do it.
If you feel overwhelmed and don’t have a planner, can I encourage you to try some sort of daily list? It can be written in a simple notebook. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy to get you organized. Here’s my strategy:
- At the beginning of the week, I fill in all the appointments and daily routines I know I need to do.
- Each day I add the other things that I’d like to accomplish, such as blog posts, cleaning, service to others, etc.
- As I accomplish each task, I check it off. This lets me realize at the end of the day, that even if some things were left undone, I did get some things completed!
If other things come in and keep you from doing what you’d planned, accept it as the Lord’s intervention and go with it! If you give each day to Him, your time is not your own and He will allow you to do what is necessary.
If you find you’re not getting things done and there was no “Divine Intervention,” make sure to look over your day and see where you’re wastitng time. You might want to
- Limit social media until after noon or after those tasks are completed.
- Get up earlier, if possible.
- Try to work on a time schedule – write out the time in the day when you think you should be on that next task.
Proverbs 28:19a He that tilleth his land shall have plenty of bread
Hard work pays off. If we forget to “till the land” (prepare for a future time) we will feel overwhelmed with everything that is left undone. A little tilling now will allow you to reap more than just bread! You’ll reap the blessing of a rested heart.
Do you use a planner each day or do you need to start one?
I am really good at staying busy. Are you? It’s to the point that if my family sees me just sitting on the couch they ask if I’m feeling sick. I’m not proud of that; it’s just true. But I’m learning to rest. God knew I needed it and He provided Sunday for our day to lay aside the normal activities and focus on worship and rest.
While Sunday is probably one of our busiest days because of being in the ministry, I have learned a few things that really help the day to be more worshipful and restful.
- Go to bed early on Saturday night. I try not to schedule anything for late in the day Saturday so I can get a good night’s rest.
- I take a “Media Fast” on Sunday. I don’t check Facebook, Instagram, or even my email accounts on Sunday. It’s a wonderful break from all the “stuff” of social media,” and it helps my worship to be more focused.
- Take a nap on Sunday afternoon. Even if it’s only fifteen minutes, I need this rest!
- I do no housework on Sunday, except cooking and cleaning up the kitchen. Laundry can wait – and so can all the dust and crummy floors.
- I don’t like to even do any shopping on Sunday. It’s a distraction to me.
- I attend the morning and evening worship services at church. This is God’s Day, and I desire to give Him the whole day. What blessings I would miss if I stayed home from any of the services !!
- Enjoy fellowship with others. Even if we just go grab a sandwich after the service, or have friends over, the fellowship with others is an added blessing.
I’m writing this at the beginning of the week so you can consider your Day of Rest that’s coming this weekend. How will you plan to use it wisely to make it all God wants it to be? I realize that work schedules make it difficult, but your day should prepare your heart for worship, and then have you ready for the busy week ahead. Perhaps one reason we’re running ragged is because we’re not utilizing this day as God intended.
Six days may work be done;
but on the seventh is the sabbath of rest, holy to the LORD:
Rest. Worship. We all need it. Why not make plans for them both this Lord’s Day?
Well friends, I made many more attempts at posting my bagel video, but Movie Maker is just not working at this time. So sorry! I’ll keep trying to get that video up.
In the meantime, and to end your week with a smile, I’m going to share a video that Google photos put together of some of the photos of my sweet kitty, Liza Jane. Enjoy!
Liza is my “praying cat.” Every single day when I get on my knees and start praying, she comes and sits beside me, reaching up to touch my face with her paw as if to say, “I’m with you!” If cats could go to heaven, I’m sure she’d have a place! >..<
Any other cat lovers out there? What do you love most about your feline?
Refresh your heart in church this Sunday!
If you’re a regular reader of Refreshher, you’re noticing a big change in the way my blog looks today! I felt it was looking tired and needed to be refreshed. So, with a bit of a nervous stomach (would I lose everything on my blog?!), I set out to change its appearance. I’ve been wanting to do this for some time, and I finally took the plunge.
I have to admit that I had help! Whitney, my daughter from Come Home for Comfort was here visiting and helped walk me through the process. She made it much easier to click the tabs that would bring about the change!
This blog is committed to helping others refresh their hearts, homes and lives.. With a brand new year before us, maybe it’s time to stop and look carefully around you and see what needs to be refreshed in your life. I’m not just talking about updating a blog’s appearance, but at the things that are at the very core of your life – your surroundings, your routines, the presentation of your home, for starters.
I remember that even the simple task of reorganizing tools in a drawer in my kitchen last year made baking so much easier! Sometimes just a small change can turn even the most simple things into pleasures! How could change in these three areas specifically help you in this new year?
- Heart – Was last year as spiritually deep as you wanted it to be? Did you find yourself more spiritually mature because of the steps you took to walk closely to God? Or does your heart need to be more engaged with the things of God’s Word, prayer and spiritual growth? If so, I encourage you to find a “Whitney” to help you. Get a godly friend/leader at church/mentor to be your accountability partner to gently and lovingly prod you to move forward and to help you make the changes you need to make to allow this year to be spiritually fruitful.
- Home – Is there an area in your house that you don’t love? Is there a space that isn’t being used adequately? A mess that needs attention? Ask a decorating savvy friend to come over and give a hand in rearranging the furniture, organizing a messy closet or redecorating a space that’s drab! Not only will they give you some inspiration, you’ll also have fun doing it with a friend!
- Life – Are there relationships that need work? Is your schedule so busy that you’re missing out on the simple joys God gives every day like cooking a meal for your family, enjoying a quiet evening at home, or reading a book just for the pleasure of reading? Do you have goals that you can’t seem to reach? Talk to a friend that manages their time well. See if they can help you get some balance in your world.I remember last year talking to two people about desiring to carve out time to write. I talked to both my husband and a close friend. They both gave some great input. I put their counsel into practice, and was able to accomplish so much!
Ask the Lord to bring godly, wise people into your path, and then glean from their wisdom so you can bring the changes that are necessary in 2018!
I get excited now when I open up my blog home page and see the new, fresh look! What changes are you ready to make?
P.S. Thanks for your help Whitney!! You always inspire me!
I love what Paul says in Philippians 3:17, 18 – ‘
Brethren, be followers together of me, and mark them which walk so as ye have us for an ensample. For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ.
This is a warning not to fellowship with the wrong people, as well as an encouragement to fellowship with the right people! Paul is saying, “Walk with people like me and steer clear of someone who will take you down the wrong path!” This is a reminder to me that we need the influence of strong believers in our lives.
What a blessing it is to get together with another Christian woman, who loves God, loves His Word, and loves doing the things that will honor the Lord! Can I encourage you to schedule time to get with a godly friend in the next week? Share a cup of coffee and talk about what you’re reading in the Word. Share your burdens with one another. Pray together. It will refresh your heart and hers!
Be refreshed by a friend,
What if everyone could hear your words? Would you be okay with that?
Imagine my horror recently when I discovered that my cell phone had been on “Record voice” mode for thirteen minutes to a group text!
It was just a couple weeks ago on a Sunday morning and I had been texting with a group of friends while getting ready for church. I slid my phone into the outside pocket of my purse and headed downstairs to make breakfast and finish my meal prep for lunch, totally oblivious to the fact that my every step and word was being recorded.
I set my purse down in the kitchen and made my way to my husband’s office where he and I had a brief conversation. Making my way back to the kitchen, I busied myself with my kitchen chores. About thirteen minutes later, I heard a notification on my phone. It was when I went to check it that I realized I’d been recording myself! I quickly sent a message to my friends to delete the recording, then I proceeded to listen to what I had accidentally sent. I heard footsteps, my question about what my husband would like for his breakfast, and my banging and moving about in the cupboards. Yeah, that could’ve turned out unpleasantly, but it didn’t, thank the Lord.
However, as I finished my work, I couldn’t help but think about how careful my words would be if I knew they were being recorded and replayed for all to hear! I wondered…
- What if that had happened on a day that I was being unkind to my husband?
- What if I had said something unkind about someone else?
- What if I had been griping and complaining?
- What if I had been going off on some rampage?
Yeah, what if? But of course the truth is, God always hears those words. My complaints, my hatefulness, my griping, my complaining, my slander. He hears it all.
For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, you know it altogether.
After that incident, I would start to make a comment, and then close my mouth, knowing that I wouldn’t want that recorded! Sometimes they were just words that weren’t needed. It was best to allow the silence to fill the room, instead of my talking. Other times they were words that shouldn’t be said. It was best to be still.
Wow. What a lesson that was to me, and one I pray I won’t forget.
Maybe asking yourself,
Would I want this to be broadcast for everyone to hear?
will keep you from saying what doesn’t need to be said.
Oh, and you might want to check your cell phone to be sure it’s off. I remember some time last year a friend going “Live” on Facebook without ever knowing it! It could happen to any of us, but if we guard our words, it won’t be a worry if it does.
Refresh others with your words!