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Refresh Your Family By Being the Homemaker

During the recent health crisis of my mom and her hospital stay, I was reminded of this chapter that I contributed for the Extraordinary Woman Book.  Here’s what I wrote:

She riseth while it is yet night and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. Prov. 31:15

The memory is so clear in my mind, even though the event took place when I was only eight.  My mother had gone to the hospital for surgery, requiring her to be away from home for a week. She left plans for our meals, school outfits, and personal needs in the careful hands of our loving dad.  He did all she had instructed him, and we had no immediate wants unmet. However, her very bodily absence left such a void in my young heart that I felt desperate for her presence. Having no way to remedy the situation, I made my way to the front closet where all our coats were hung. Finding my mother’s coat sleeve with the fur cuff, I buried my face in its soft comfort and cried tears of longing for the one who made our house a home.

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The remembrance of that event brings tears even today, as I recall the short-lived pain that was so real for a child.  I wasn’t used to not having Mom home, and it was a happy reunion when she was well enough to return to our house where she would make everything right again.

It is God’s plan for us as women to make our residence more than a four-walled existence. In verse fifteen of Proverbs 31, we see The Extraordinary Woman stirring about very early in the morning.  Her pre-dawn rising allows her time to prepare food for the day, taking careful efforts to provide for each member of the family. I imagine her household, still comfy in their beds, hearing her stir in the kitchen preparing breakfast, and that truth alone bringing a smile to their sleepy faces.

It’s a sweet comfort when families know that all is well at home because we are there.  Ladies, we are the homemakers; the ones who create a place of warmth, welcome, acceptance and genuine Christlike love.  There are simple ways to accomplish that.

Be there. There are times and situations like my mother’s surgery that temporarily remove us from home, but for the normal days, we need to be there when our children are there, if possible.  We need to be ready to greet our husband with a hug and kiss when he walks in the door.  A full house can’t echo, and an empty house cannot embrace.

Be prepared. Stress is relieved with early preparations. Creating a meal plan will allow us to know what we need at the store.  We will also be able to prepare food early in the day.  There will be time to create a simple, but inviting place for the meal with table settings that include silverware, napkins, a centerpiece of flowers, fruit, or candles to bring warmth.  Imagine the conversations had while dirty dishes wait and silver flickers of candlelight illumine beloved faces. The visions and aromas of even a simple meal prepared are treasures homemakers can provide. Without preparation, it’s just supper; with care, it becomes an event!

Be aware. It’s easy to be disconnected in this day of constant accessibility, even when are at home surrounded by those we love most.  Everyone can get caught up in their own little world, like caged mice running on a wheel. No one is talking or engaging.  Someone must care enough to look up and into faces of the family for signs of need.  That someone is us, the homemaker.  Home is the place for making time to dig into God’s Word together, to pray, and to find answers. We’ll never have the opportunity unless we are alert, and that opportunity comes with the discipline of saying no to self as we put others’ needs before our own leisure.

Be the homemaker that creates the atmosphere your family would miss – even if you were absent for just a week.

  • What would your family say about the atmosphere in your home?  Are you there enough?
  • Are you well prepared for meals?  What do you need to add to make mealtime more inviting?
  • Do you take time daily to look carefully at the needs of your husband?  Your children?

Refresh you home today by being the homemaker your family needs. Image result for tiny heart

denise a
P.S. The book I mentioned can be found in this link.  The distributors are having a buy one get one free sale right now.  They have many titles that would make great Christmas gifts!

 

refreshment at home · Thanksgiving · Uncategorized

Prep For the Day Before Thanksgiving!

I shared with you last week that my family had an early Thanksgiving.  We celebrated last week, due to a family need.  People are the most important part of our traditions and celebrations, so putting my parents’ needs first, simply meant we would celebrate the holiday a couple weeks early with our daughters and their families.

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You know what?  It was really great to be doing this holiday ahead of time!

 

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Fall · refreshment at home · seasonal decor

Touches of Fall Decor

Call it age, call it lazy, but I’m changing my game this year with my fall decor.  Instead of spreading fall leaves, pumpkins and corn stalks everywhere (well I never have spread corn stalks everywhere,  but for the sake of making my point I’ll add them!), I’m choosing to make a few groupings.

Here’s a peek ~

The living room touches:

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A little touch in the kitchen.  Remember my Dollar Tree box I made using the two signs?

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I set the dining room table in fall decor for a luncheon I had a few weeks ago ~

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I love the turquoise and gold together on the table!

Look how it sets off the food so beautifully…

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Then outside at my mailbox ~

This mum came back from last year.  It’s a whopper, isn’t it?  I’m loving it! It’s going to be stunning in a few days! I may add some real pumpkins in a week or so, but for now I think the flowers speak for themselves!

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I had the blessing of being in upstate New York last weekend where the colors were just beginning to turn.  It made me excited for fall to come to the south!

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I’m still changing what you see here.  Simplicity is what I’m longing for and maybe you saw a book here that is inspiring me in that direction?  I’ll keep you posted on how that turns out!

Do you decorate your home for fall?  If so, do you go all out or do you add only a few touches?

denise a

children · Motherhood · refreshment at home

Mom, Show Love To Your Child

This week were some great reminders to slow down and take one day at a time. Being a Gigi is a blessing because I can stop everything I’m doing and just be with my grandsons.  When my girls were home, it wasn’t possible to do that every day!  There were meals to cook, laundry to wash, floors to sweep, school lessons to prepare and a million other things!  I was a busy woman, just like you, Momma.  Do you ever wish it was different?

It’s easy for moms to wish away their child’s life.

“Things will be so much easier when she’s walking!”  “I can’t wait for her to start pre-school.”  “I’ll be glad when these terrible 3’s are over!”

And so on.  Each day as a mom is challenging, but you can’t imagine how fast it will be before you attend their high school graduation and are staring into the face of a young adult.

I’m not kidding.

Everyone tells you those things, and you nod and smile because you’re going home to a toddler who will have wet their pants for the fifth time today, poured their finger paints into the toilet, and refused to eat a bite of anything because they consumed a whole bag of potato chips while hiding in the pantry!  But trust me, friend, the years will fly by and they will be gone.  Graduated.  Married.  On their own.

And you won’t lose your marbles about all that IF you spent those 18 years or so loving them, spending time with them, and teaching them about your Jesus to the best of your abilities.  Oh, you will know that you made lots of mistakes, but you know those are covered by God’s grace, and with that, you are okay!

In the meantime, you have today.  What will you do with it?  How about just love on those little and big ones?  How?  Let me give you a few suggestions:

  • Show loving gestures – hugs, pecks on the cheek, a pat on their back, a hand squeeze
  • Spend time playing with them each day.
    • Play a game
    • Go outside and push them on the swings
    • Ride bikes with them
    • Play store, library, or Sunday school
    • Have a scavenger hunt
    • Bake together
    • Work in the yard together
    • Work on a dinner for Dad together
    • Take a walk
    • Jump rope
    • Blow bubbles outside
    • Help them with homework.
      Just be together each day.
  • Leave notes of encouragement.  Write on their mirror with dry erase, or leave a sticky note where they’ll find it.  Leave a note in their lunch.  Mail a card to them.
  • Allow one child to stay up late for time with both Mom and Dad once a week.
  • Have a bed time routine that is special.  Tuck them in.  Read a book or Scripture.  Sing a song.  Pray with them about their concerns.
  • Do a chore they are assigned as a gesture of love.
  • Stop and pray with them in the day about something that is troubling them.
  • Talk to them and sing to them about Jesus!
  • Love their daddy!
So love on those children God’s given you and enjoy the day.  You don’t want to regret tomorrow what you wished you had done yesterday!
How do you show your child you love them?
 
With love,

denise a

Refreshment · refreshment at home · Refreshment in marriage

Friday Refreshment

Refreshment comes in many forms.  Here are some recent things that have refreshed my life! I pray it will inspire you to refresh your life as well!

This has been a super-busy summer including lots of travel and time  away from home. However, on a recent and treasured day at home, I had the opportunity to really dig in and freshen things up around our house.  Oh my, it felt as good as getting the suitcases completely unpacked after vacation!

I find that when life gets busy, there are things that get done hastily, causing disorganization or carelessness to step in.  Here are a few areas that I took care of that might inspire you to freshen things up a bit on this Friday!

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The deep freezer.  In the rush of busy days, it’s easy to pull things or add things to the freezer, disturbing any previous order!  I took the time to: Continue reading “Friday Refreshment”

Crafts · Family life · refreshment at home · summertime

Fun Things Friday

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Let me share with you some fun things I’ve done during this very full week!

The biggest activity that was most time and thought consuming was Vacation Bible School.  Wow!  Our church blew the doors out with decorations, games, crafts, snacks and powerful Bible teaching!!  Jesus loves children and tells us not to forbid them to come to Him.  I loved that these children heard the Gospel over and over each night as the journeyed from the opening assembly, their class time, snacks, crafts and games.  What a blessing. It’s been exhausting, but we pray there will be spiritual fruit that will bring glory to our wonderful God!

Let me show you a few pictures.

My class of 5-6 year olds on the first night…

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Our group grew each night! I co-taught with another younger woman and we also had several others that were helping hands (they were all needed!)  What a blessing to have a room full of children.  Even though they stretched our abilities to control their energy, we are grateful for the blessing of sharing the Gospel with them!

We raced around the world to meet all the people in the human race, created in the image of God. How did we get to each continent?  We flew, of course!

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We learned about melanin, the coloring that gives us each a different shade of brown skin. The children saw a visual with colored cake batter, made up of the same ingredients, only with more or less coloring in the bowls.

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God sees us all the same and loves each person as much as the next!

We crafted…

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We ate foods from all over the world!

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We were so busy each day that my sweet husband made sure to help me get some rest so I’d be ready for 6:00 when we started another 2 1/2 hours of fun (and exhaustion!).  He took me to lunch one day, insisting that I was not going to cook!  We went to one of our favorite local fish restaurants (Riverside), asked for a table at the window, and got to eat lunch, spend time together and enjoy this view of a family walk just outside our window!

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I also managed to get a little craft done this week.  I needed a wreath for summer.  I found this cute little conversation bubble at Hobby Lobby and knew it would be perfect for a wreath!  It was 75% off, making it under $4!

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I added white fabric flowers to accent the coral door and the flowers that are growing in my yard outside.

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Here’s a close-up of the “wreath.”

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What other message could you say to your guests at your door but, “Hi!?”  If it’s nothing else, it’s unique!!

What fun things have you been up to this week?  Do you scour the 75% off aisle at Hobby Lobby for unique finds?

Refresh your weekend with something fun!

denise a

Fast meal · Meal planning · refreshment at home

Cook Once; Eat Two (or 3) Times!

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I love to cook, however, that doesn’t mean I like to slave in the kitchen every single day!  I love to eat good meals that are fresh and delicious, too, so that means when I AM in the kitchen, I like to make good use of that time in ways that will help me for future meals!

I thought I”d show you how I have recently cooked foods that allowed me to have DIFFERENT meals using things I cooked earlier. Say no to Leftovers! These are fresh, different meals each time they’re served!

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