During the recent health crisis of my mom and her hospital stay, I was reminded of this chapter that I contributed for the Extraordinary Woman Book. Here’s what I wrote:
She riseth while it is yet night and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. Prov. 31:15
The memory is so clear in my mind, even though the event took place when I was only eight. My mother had gone to the hospital for surgery, requiring her to be away from home for a week. She left plans for our meals, school outfits, and personal needs in the careful hands of our loving dad. He did all she had instructed him, and we had no immediate wants unmet. However, her very bodily absence left such a void in my young heart that I felt desperate for her presence. Having no way to remedy the situation, I made my way to the front closet where all our coats were hung. Finding my mother’s coat sleeve with the fur cuff, I buried my face in its soft comfort and cried tears of longing for the one who made our house a home.
The remembrance of that event brings tears even today, as I recall the short-lived pain that was so real for a child. I wasn’t used to not having Mom home, and it was a happy reunion when she was well enough to return to our house where she would make everything right again.
It is God’s plan for us as women to make our residence more than a four-walled existence. In verse fifteen of Proverbs 31, we see The Extraordinary Woman stirring about very early in the morning. Her pre-dawn rising allows her time to prepare food for the day, taking careful efforts to provide for each member of the family. I imagine her household, still comfy in their beds, hearing her stir in the kitchen preparing breakfast, and that truth alone bringing a smile to their sleepy faces.
It’s a sweet comfort when families know that all is well at home because we are there. Ladies, we are the homemakers; the ones who create a place of warmth, welcome, acceptance and genuine Christlike love. There are simple ways to accomplish that.
Be there. There are times and situations like my mother’s surgery that temporarily remove us from home, but for the normal days, we need to be there when our children are there, if possible. We need to be ready to greet our husband with a hug and kiss when he walks in the door. A full house can’t echo, and an empty house cannot embrace.
Be prepared. Stress is relieved with early preparations. Creating a meal plan will allow us to know what we need at the store. We will also be able to prepare food early in the day. There will be time to create a simple, but inviting place for the meal with table settings that include silverware, napkins, a centerpiece of flowers, fruit, or candles to bring warmth. Imagine the conversations had while dirty dishes wait and silver flickers of candlelight illumine beloved faces. The visions and aromas of even a simple meal prepared are treasures homemakers can provide. Without preparation, it’s just supper; with care, it becomes an event!
Be aware. It’s easy to be disconnected in this day of constant accessibility, even when are at home surrounded by those we love most. Everyone can get caught up in their own little world, like caged mice running on a wheel. No one is talking or engaging. Someone must care enough to look up and into faces of the family for signs of need. That someone is us, the homemaker. Home is the place for making time to dig into God’s Word together, to pray, and to find answers. We’ll never have the opportunity unless we are alert, and that opportunity comes with the discipline of saying no to self as we put others’ needs before our own leisure.
Be the homemaker that creates the atmosphere your family would miss – even if you were absent for just a week.
- What would your family say about the atmosphere in your home? Are you there enough?
- Are you well prepared for meals? What do you need to add to make mealtime more inviting?
- Do you take time daily to look carefully at the needs of your husband? Your children?
Refresh you home today by being the homemaker your family needs.
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