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A Heart That Makes a House a Home

“Something Smells really good! My husband, Jeffrey exclaims every Friday night when he walks in the door. Most weeks, he has been around the world and back and when he walks in that door, I want him to feel that he’s really home. What he doesn’t realize is that what feels very casual, is, in fact, quite deliberate:: The music is playing, all the lights are on, there are flowers everywhere, and chicken and onions are roasting in the oven. 

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The Blessing of Building a Home

Just stepping inside the doors brought a rush of calm and the understanding that “everything was going to be okay.”  Welcoming us was warm lighting over plump sofas, the aromas of homemade baked goods, and soft music playing somewhere in the kitchen.  Familial hugs greeted us and our tired bodies finally relaxed. We were home and safe.  

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Refresh Your Family By Being the Homemaker

She riseth while it is yet night and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. Prov. 31:15

The memory is so clear in my mind, even though the event took place when I was only eight.  My mother had gone to the hospital for surgery, requiring her to be away from home for a week. She left plans for our meals, school outfits, and personal needs in the careful hands of our loving dad.  He did all she had instructed him, and we had no immediate wants unmet. However, her very bodily absence left such a void in my young heart that I felt desperate for her presence. Having no way to remedy the situation, I made my way to the front closet where all our coats were hung. Finding my mother’s coat sleeve with the fur cuff, I buried my face in its soft comfort and cried tears of longing for the one who made our house a home.

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What Would You Give Up Just To Have Peace In Your Home?

As a woman who loves to bake, I can tell you that there’s nothing more disheartening than baking up a new bread recipe then cutting a slice after it’s cooled only to find that it’s dry

Ugh.

It’s frustrating to go to all that trouble only to have dry morsels fill your mouth like so many tumbleweeds in the desert. But did you know that God’s Word tells us that there is a time when dry bread can be a good thing?!

Proverbs 17: 1 says

Better is a dry morsel with quietness,

Than a house full of feasting with strife.

There is nothing appealing about a dry morsel to our taste buds, but God’s Word says the blessing of quietness and peace is so great, that it makes a dry morsel more desirable than moist bread, dipped in Olive oil!

This passage is saying that peace in the home is beyond all other material blessings. A home full of feasting is wonderful, until that home is full of strife. Have you experienced how hard it is to take a bite of anything when there’s strife and contention around the table? We all have.

If peace is so desirable, then what keeps us from having it?  Why isn’t it permeating from our family relationships as it should?

There can be other causes, but ladies,  God’s Word gives us several pictures in Proverbs that point the finger of strife in our direction. It’s a hard picture to look at because it’s very telling. This is convicting to my own selfish heart.  Listen to ways we can destroy the peace…

A foolish son is his father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping. Prov. 19:13

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. Prov. 21:9

Prov. 25:24 It is better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

Prov. 15:16, 17 Better is little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure with turmoil.

Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, Than a fatted calf with hatred.

Listen to what is being traded in so that apeace can be found –

  • Strife
  • Quarrels
  • turmoil
  • brawling
  • hatred

What would a person take so they could enjoy quietness at home?

  • a corner of the housetop
  • a corner of the roof
  • just a little material goods
  • a dinner of herbs
  • a dry morsel

Love sweetens dry morsels

~Matthew Henry

If you’re realizing that there is little peace in your home, recognize that if you are a child of God, you have the Prince of Peace living in you! The Christ in you should permeate each relationship, allowing His peace to rule.

Ask the Lord if you’ve contributed to the strife by being contentious and quarrelsome. Be still and let His Spirit speak to you. Then humble yourself and make it right before God and also your family. Invite them to come in off the rooftop, and serve up some dry morsels, slathered with love. Peace will return.

P.S. It’s better for your pride to be hurt than your family destroyed.

Lovingly,