Like any relationship, marriage can get into a rut. It sounds the same as when you hit those rumble strips on the interstate. It’s irritating, and it makes you move over, but often it’s not long before you hear that roar again. Why? Because you’re kind of daydreaming your way through your marriage.
It’s easy to “fall asleep at the wheel” and not make the efforts in your relationship that you used to make when things were new and fresh. But I have good news for you today! If you’re still breathing and your husband also has breath, things can change TODAY! Let me make three simple suggestions – all that are doable today and cost nothing except your intentionality!
- SMILE DAILY (use your lips and your eyes to smile!)
When he walks in the door. Smile.
While you’re listening to him. Smile.
When you’re telling him about your day. Smile.
When you see him across the room. Smile.
It’s easier to be too busy to even look up at one another. It’s easier to furrow our brows and scowl. SMILE instead.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine. Proverbs 17:22
- MAKE MORE DEPOSITS INTO YOUR MARRIAGE THAN WITHDRAWALS EACH DAY
Deposit a compliment instead of criticism. Instead of fussing about the negative thing you’re thinking about, give a compliment of something in which he made you proud.
Deposit help instead of looking to receive help. I believe husbands should help their wife, but what would happen if we volunteered to run an errand, lift a load, or do a chore for him? Would we look like Christ in our sacrifice?
Deposit affection instead of pulling away physically and emotionally. Put away that cold shoulder, little peck, or icy back. Pull the wall down with the warmth of your affection.
Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.
- PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND FOR AT LEAST FIVE MINUTES EVERY DAY.
Pray about the things that irritate you.
Pray about the weaknesses in your relationship.
Pray for his burdens, pressures and obligations.
Pray for your hearts to be knit together stronger than ever.
Luke 18:1 – Men (women) aught always to pray and not to faint.
Dear wife, I’m convinced that if we would practice these three initiatives DAILY we would have happy husbands, which would equal happy wives, and that boils down to a happy marriage! Try it and tell me about your results!
Refresh your marriage TODAY!
This past week I had two conversations that stuck in my mind and heart. One was when dear lady told me that after holding many responsibilities with titles, she was now “Just a housewife.” The other woman told me she was a part-time housewife and wished it was full-time.
Every woman probably has her own definition of what a housewife does and how she Continue reading ““Just a Housewife””
plural noun: nuggets
a small lump of gold or other precious metal found ready-formed in the earth.
a small chunk or lump of another substance.
Valuable items don’t have to be large to be worth much and the same goes for pieces of advice. Even little nuggets of advice can be valuable. That’s exactly what I want to share with you today!
- Do you remember this post from last week? I talked about appreciating the differences between ourselves and our husbands. My little preference was about the shower bottles’ lids being closed. I even said that my husband had no idea that that bothered me! Every day when I cleaned the shower, I would simply snap his shampoo and body wash lids back down, but I never said anything to him about it.
Ever since last Friday, his bottles have been shut tighter than a toddler’s teeth at supper time! Yep, he read my post and took it on himself to take care of that tiny issue! (How sweet is that?!) What did it take? Communication.
Nugget #1 ~ When there are things that bother you, speak up.
I’m clearly not talking about little pet peeves like mine; I’m talking about things that would really cause a rift in your relationship. Many times things go on and on simply because we don’t share it with our spouse. Either we think he should know it (!) or we’re afraid to tell him. Sharing what’s on your heart might not remedy the issue immediately, but at least you can get it out there where it can be discussed and prayed about, and possibly have a conclusion decided upon very quickly.
- When I was changing our sheets this week, I noticed that the top hem was really wrinkled. I started to continue to make the bed and then I remembered that I usually always iron the guest bed. Then I had another thought I needed to make our sheets pretty, too.
Nugget *2 – Never do for others and neglect your husband.
If he’s our priority (and he should be), we won’t want to forget to show him the special kindness that we do for other people.
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I go to clean the shower and find his bottles of shampoo and body wash with lids open like soldiers saluting their Sargent. It’s a tiny pet peeve that he knows nothing about. I snap the lids in place.
There are whiskers in the bathroom sink…again.
Continue reading “Family Friday – Enjoy the Differences!”
We’ve all done it – slammed our finger in a drawer or caused ourselves some sort of pain by a careless act. This morning it happened to me – I was getting ready for the day and I dropped my phone onto the top of my foot. All those little bones in there began screaming for attention and I gave it! I lifted my leg and while hopping on the other foot, Continue reading “Family Friday – Apply the Loving Touch”
Spite the fact that it’s hard for me to do, yesterday I posted some recent outfits that I’d worn. I hate putting myself out there. I’d rather stay behind the camera. So why do I do that? To help inspire other women. In a world that says we should just be comfy in our leggings and long t-shirts, I think it’s important that we “bump it up a notch.” I think this Continue reading “Family Friday ~ Dressing For Him”