Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Twelve Things I Do to Keep My Marriage Strong

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Hilarious, picture, right?!  Bear with me – I’m reminiscing!

I can still remember the day of our wedding rehearsal on June 19, 1981.  We were so excited about our wedding that would following on the next evening!  The rehearsal for the second best day in my life (the first being my salvation!) was a really special occasion!

This was in the era when rehearsals were a pretty big deal – you dressed up pretty nice, went to the church and learned when to come in, where to stand, when to hold hands, when the vows would be repeated and when it was time to run down the aisle together!

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Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Grace in Marriage

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We are so thankful for God’s grace to us in our daily lives, aren’t we? We know what it looks like – grace forgives, helps, restores, equips, guides, and restores. But what would grace in marriage look like?  Let’s put it in a practical light of how you and I can practice grace in our marriage relationship today.

  • Pray daily for your mate – Find Bible passages to pray for him and watch how God answers!
  • Regularly learn about him – Things are constantly changing. What do you need to learn?
  • Find new ways to serve him – Be the one with the biggest servant’s heart. If you want to be great, serve.
  • Look for ways to surprise him – Find something that would be a blessing and do it when he least expects it.
  • Withhold criticism about him – Keep it from your thoughts, conversations to others or him.
  • Touch him – No one else but you can.
  • Respect him – To his face, behind his back, tell others why you respect the man you chose to marry.
  • Affirm him – Remind him that you’re on his team, no matter what.
  • Forgive –Call a truce in a disagreement – Hold out both your hands to him, look him in the eye and say what you would want to hear…”I’m sorry. Let’s make up.”
  • Be cheerful – Be the reason he’s glad he came home!

You may have screamed, “He doesn’t deserve __________.”  That’s why it’s called grace.  Do it for him like God does it for you.

As I close out this blogging week, I’m going to share with you the first broadcast from Refresh Her that aired on WHCB Radio last Saturday.  You can hear the broadcast live each Saturday at 3:45.  This is 15 minutes long, so  find the best way to take the time to listen – perhaps on your phone while you’re doing another task or getting ready for the day.  Click below to listen!

Is this broadcast something you might like me to post each week?  I’m curious if there would be enough interest to find a way to post the broadcast after it has aired on the radio station.  Let me know your thoughts in the comments!

Also, how will you show grace in your marriage today?

denise a

Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

When Your Marriage Hits “Hopeless Highway”

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I’ll never forget one of the first big disagreements my husband and I had shortly into our marriage.  I truly don’t even remember what the issue was over, but I do remember that my heart was crushed.  I was sure we were in a desperate state.  It seemed like we were miles apart. Icy words had been spoken.  A wall had been erected and I wondered if Continue reading “When Your Marriage Hits “Hopeless Highway””

Dates · Refreshment in marriage · The Scenic Route

Another Date on the Scenic Route

Back in October, I introduced you to a blog idea that I want to share from time to time – it was called, Follow Us On the Scenic Route.  I am married to a man who likes to have adventures.  He enjoys scouring out new back roads, new restaurants, quaint areas of town in which to drive and activities that we would enjoy sharing together.  The holidays kept us pretty close to home, but now that the new year is upon us, we took the time for a date recently to a place not too far from home.  Come along and I’ll show you where we went!

We live in the Tri-cities area of Tennessee – meaning we’re in the Bristol, Kingsport, Johnson City area.  All three cities are really ramping up their towns and there is more and more to enjoy in each place!

Last Thursday morning I was headed out the driveway when my husband motioned for me to roll down my car window.  He said,

Be ready at 4:30 this afternoon.  We’re going to dinner and a movie.

I love it when he tells me ahead of time that he has made plans for us!  I can anticipate and look forward to that date and it makes any difficult day easier to bear with that in my view!

At 4:30 we loaded up and headed towards Bristol via I-81. I had no idea where we were going for dinner, but when we pulled up to to 620 State Restaurant, I was sure it was a good choice!  Before going into the restaurant, we were lured into an adorable shop on the left.  It was full of handmade items, very reasonably priced.  We had a fun time browsing before we ventured over to 620.

Once we were seated and began looking at the menu, we learned that this place is known for their sushi.  My husband ordered a small plate of salmon/cream cheese sushi for us to enjoy before our dinner.  It was very good!!

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Sometimes just doing something fun like learning how to use chopsticks can make a date night memorable! I was impressed by Dale’s skills!

We tried to just chat about casual things and not talk about serious matters.  We needed this time together to get refreshed maritally, physically and emotionally.  What a blessing our time together was!  Going to a new place for dinner is such fun – you get stretched out of your normal routine and get to try new menu items and surroundings!

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For dinner we ordered Shrimp and Grits.  We always share an entree’ when we go out and I’m sure glad we split this meal!  It was absolutely delicious – maybe the best shrimp and grits I’ve ever had!  There was plenty to share!

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We left with full stomachs and an absolute intention to return!

Bristol has lots of history with it being known as the Birthplace of Country Music.  You’ll see lots of interesting memorabilia along the streets.  The nighttime view was so pretty!

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One side of the street is Tennessee and the other side is Virginia!

Following dinner we headed to the theater to see Mary Poppins.
I’m a HUGE fan of all things Mary Poppins…(remember this from this past October?)

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so I was super-excited to finally get to see this new movie!

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Who else is always sad to see Mary flying away?  Her mission is accomplished and she must go.  **Sigh** It was a sweet movie and I was smitten with it!

More than that,though, I was smitten with a sweet husband would make the plans for a Scenic Route local adventure that could refresh our marriage and our hearts and give us another memory of roads traveled together!

If you’re in this area, you need to visit 620, and if you haven’t seen the new Mary Poppins, make plans to see it! Oh, and take a kleenex with you…just saying!

What adventures and scenic routes have you taken recently?

Refresh your marriage by taking a scenic route,

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