communication · Dates · Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry, Part 2

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I watched the sweetest couple get married last weekend.  It was precious to observe.  I saw heads bowed together, hands clasped, endearing looks and tears at the vows shared.  One word you couldn’t use to describe the wedding would be dry.  No way!  It was flowing with love!

No one gets engaged with the thought, “I wonder if my wedding day will be dry and boring?”  But how many couples end up eventually looking at one another and sensing a dryness?  Too many.  Sometimes it comes in spells.  Sadly Continue reading “Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry, Part 2”

Proverbs · Refreshment in marriage

Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry

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I’m no farmer, but I do know that a dry well is not a happy thing.

I”m no marriage expert, but I do know that a “dry” marriage is also not a happy thing.

Let’s get the picture of that dry well in our head.  You go to the facet to get a drink and you notice some problems –

  • The taste of the water has changed.
  • The water is murky instead of clear.
  • The pump on the well is turning on and off more frequently.
  • The faucet is sputtering.

These are all signs that the well is going dry!

Now let’s get the picture of that dry marriage in our head ~

  • Marriage isn’t as sweet as it used to be!
  • Spouses hearts (one or both) are working out of the flesh instead of the Spirit)
  • There isn’t a steady outpouring of love and commitment – it’s on and off.
  • Communication is lacking.

These are all signs that the marriage well is going dry!

Wells are not meant to go dry and neither is marriage! Continue reading “Don’t Let the (Marriage) Well Go Dry”

Coronavirus · Refreshment in marriage

Improving Your Marriage While Staying Home Together

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nug·get
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noun
plural noun: nuggets
a small lump of gold or other precious metal found ready-formed in the earth.
A small chunk or lump of another substance.
Valuable items don’t have to be large to be worth much, and the same goes for pieces of advice.  Even little nuggets of advice can be valuable.  That’s exactly what I want to share with you today…some nuggets of marriage advice.
I’ve heard (and also witnessed myself!) that spending so much time at home together during these Coronavirus and Safer At Home days, is causing marriage relationships to be strained at times. We love our spouse and love being with them, but due to stress, added meal prep, extra dishes and a change in our normal routines, the difficulty of it all is often played out in our relationships.  
I’m going to share five nuggets of truth that could help ease the stress!

In this post I talked about appreciating the differences between ourselves and our husbands.  My little preference was about the shower bottles’ lids being closed.  I even said that my husband had no idea that that bothered me!  Every day when I cleaned the shower, I would simply snap his shampoo and body wash lids back down, but I never said anything to him about it.

Guess what?

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Ever since then his bottles have been shut tighter than a toddler’s teeth at supper time!  Yep, he read my post and took it on himself to take care of that tiny issue! (How sweet is that?!) What did it take?  Communication.

Nugget #1 ~ When there are things that bother you, lovingly speak up. 
I’m clearly not talking about little pet peeves like mine; I’m talking about things that would really cause a rift in your relationship.  Many times things go on and on simply because we don’t share it with our spouse.  Either we think he should know it (!) or we’re afraid to tell him.  Sharing what’s on your heart might not remedy the issue immediately, but at least you can get it out there where it can be discussed and prayed about, and possibly have a conclusion decided upon very quickly.

When I was changing our sheets this week, I noticed that the top hem was really wrinkled.  I started to continue to make the bed and then I remembered that I usually always iron the guest bed.  Then I had another thought I needed to make our sheets pretty, too.

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Nugget *2 – Never do for others and neglect your husband.
If he’s our priority (and he should be), we won’t want to forget to show him the special kindness that we do for other people. Right now perhaps we’re thinking of thoughtful things we can do for our friends and family, but have you considered what special gesture you could do for your husband?  Need a few suggestions?

~Be quick to respond with a positive word when he suggests taking a walk, a drive in the country or doing a project in or around your home. 
~Make meal time special by setting the table and/or fixing one of his favorite foods.
~Look your best by simply getting ready each day.  That doesn’t mean you have to dress to the nine’s, but put on a little make up and put on real clothes – something as simple as jeans and a cute shirt with the addition of a necklace or earrings.

Continue reading “Improving Your Marriage While Staying Home Together”

Dates · Marriage · Refreshment in marriage · The Scenic Route

Compromise On the Scenic Route

The scenic route is usually the long way to get somewhere.  However, it’s usually the most beautiful and adventurous way to travel!  Enjoying marriage on the scenic route means taking the time to invest into your marriage.

The truth is, marriage can be a bumpy ride.
You might get lost, wondering why you ever got on the road in the first place.
You might be looking for an exit when there isn’t one. Continue reading “Compromise On the Scenic Route”