Aren’t the old classic Christmas movies special to watch? A favorite of mine is It’s a Wonderful Life. This sweet story reminds me of what every wife should be doing for her husband – showing unconditional love and support. If you’ve seen the movie, let me remind you of a couple times when the wife, Mary, displays that…
After George and Mary get married, they are on their way to their honeymoon when there is a run on the bank money. George spends the rest of the day caring for his customers, half forgetting that he has a new bride. Though they have no money for an extravagant honeymoon, he finds that Mary has taken an old run-down house that she’s dreamed about living in and prepared a beautiful dinner in it for him. She hung up posters of exotic places they’d dreamed of visiting and created the best atmosphere possible for their wedding night using her limited resources and her love.
The last clip of the film shows George returning to his home and family. He quickly learns that Mary that has informed their friends and family that he was in trouble. She organized their support in the form of financial help and their presence. People come pouring into the house with money for them. George is overwhelmed at their kindness. All through this last scene, there is Mary, smiling, supporting her husband, loving him – no matter what. Through good times and bad, she gave herself to be the best wife to him that she could be, both behind the scenes and in his presence. She never belittles him; never criticizes.
No marriage is without hard times. It comes in all different forms over the years, and there must be a resolve to support our husband. We must be willing to sacrifice, lend our help, and continue to love him through the toughest of situations.
What hard thing is your husband going through right now? How can you show your support of him?
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
If a husband has a wife who will stand with him and love him through the hard times. I believe he’ll know how blessed he is…and it will be a wonderful marriage (life).
Refresh your husband with your unconditional support.
Recently at a marriage conference my husband and I were privileged to do, he preached a message that had some really great points that are just too good not to share! If your marriage is struggling (and we all struggle at one point or another!) these are great truths to tuck away and preach to yourself! Ready? There are seven of them…
- My past doesn’t define or confine me. Are you guilty-ridden? Have you messed up as a wife along the way and regretted your behavior, or attitude? Those things don’t define you – nor do they keep you from changing!! Old things are passed away and all things are become new! II Cor. 5:17
- We can live free from sin, guilt and condemnation. Remember point #1 when you might have thought about something hard? There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1
- Nothing done against me compares to my sin against God. When we feel we’ve been done “dirty” by our spouse, this truth is so crucial to remember! Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed. I Peter 2:24
- I’m not dependent on my spouse for what I am or need. A husband can do lots of things, but Christ is ALL I need. Psalm 62:5 Oh my soul, wait though only upon God, for my expectation is from Him.
- I can obey all God has called me to do regardless of any situation. Submitting is hard. Asking forgiveness is difficult, but…It is God who works in us, both to will and do of His good pleasure. Phil. 2:13
- I can endure any suffering or hardship with the assurance that God is working all to my greatest good. God can take even ugly situations and turn them into blessings! Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
- God is always with me and always at work in my marriage, even when progress is imperceptible. Though I may feel alone, I am not. Isaiah 65:24 Before they call I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear.
After I got these truths home, I asked myself, “Where does the Bible tell me that?” then I found a verse that is the backbone of each of those truths. I would encourage you to do the same thing. Find Scripture verses that will remind you of God’s forgiveness, presence, work, plan and help for your marriage. Write it in your prayer journal and thank God for the fact that He cares more for your marriage than you even do!! God wants your marriage to succeed and bring glory to Him! You have His Word on it!!
Do those Truths encourage you like they do me?!
Refresh your marriage so you can refresh others!
Like any relationship, marriage can get into a rut. It sounds the same as when you hit those rumble strips on the interstate. It’s irritating, and it makes you move over, but often it’s not long before you hear that roar again. Why? Because you’re kind of daydreaming your way through your marriage.
It’s easy to “fall asleep at the wheel” and not make the efforts in your relationship that you used to make when things were new and fresh. But I have good news for you today! If you’re still breathing and your husband also has breath, things can change TODAY! Let me make three simple suggestions – all that are doable today and cost nothing except your intentionality!
- SMILE DAILY (use your lips and your eyes to smile!)
When he walks in the door. Smile.
While you’re listening to him. Smile.
When you’re telling him about your day. Smile.
When you see him across the room. Smile.
It’s easier to be too busy to even look up at one another. It’s easier to furrow our brows and scowl. SMILE instead.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine. Proverbs 17:22
- MAKE MORE DEPOSITS INTO YOUR MARRIAGE THAN WITHDRAWALS EACH DAY
Deposit a compliment instead of criticism. Instead of fussing about the negative thing you’re thinking about, give a compliment of something in which he made you proud.
Deposit help instead of looking to receive help. I believe husbands should help their wife, but what would happen if we volunteered to run an errand, lift a load, or do a chore for him? Would we look like Christ in our sacrifice?
Deposit affection instead of pulling away physically and emotionally. Put away that cold shoulder, little peck, or icy back. Pull the wall down with the warmth of your affection.
Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.
- PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND FOR AT LEAST FIVE MINUTES EVERY DAY.
Pray about the things that irritate you.
Pray about the weaknesses in your relationship.
Pray for his burdens, pressures and obligations.
Pray for your hearts to be knit together stronger than ever.
Luke 18:1 – Men (women) aught always to pray and not to faint.
Dear wife, I’m convinced that if we would practice these three initiatives DAILY we would have happy husbands, which would equal happy wives, and that boils down to a happy marriage! Try it and tell me about your results!
Refresh your marriage TODAY!
My husband has an affinity for back roads. He loves to find out where those side roads venture to and what is on the other side of the hill or mountain before us!
These back road trips are known as The Scenic Route. You can’t imagine the beauty and fun we’ve found on those roads! Bridges, old general stores, streams, historic homes, Continue reading “Follow Us On the Scenic Route!”
Some years ago my family had pictures taken by a wonderful photographer. We spent the morning having our pictures taken at a location near us, as well as in our own backyard (such is the one posted here).
The photographer told us to bring whatever props we wanted in the picture. We rode our bikes, added Alli’s guitar, a bike basket with daisies, and an old quilt. I also created a little scene in our yard with my things to make a beautiful backdrop for the pictures.
The pictures, were, of course loaded onto Facebook so we could share them with our family and friends. The comments they generated were interesting. One friend said, “It’s like capturing a secret rendezvous. You all had some really great shots and no doubt you enjoyed every minute of this.” A great part of that was that the photographer, but the Continue reading “Family Friday ~ Rendezvous Moments”
Refreshing the decor in my home seasonally is one way I show my love for my husband. Does that seem strange? What I mean is I want our home to be inviting – not just to our guests, but to HIM! I want him to feel that happy sigh when he walks in the door and finds things welcoming and comfortable. It’s never going to be perfect, and we don’t strive for that standard. We just want it to be a place that draws us and others in, has a cozy warmth, and extends the love of Christ to any who walk in our doors.
Continue reading “Decorate Your Home To Show Your Love”
After a lovely week’s vacation, a stroll in my yard brought sights like this…
Weeds! It’s amazing what just a little time away will do to a summer yard!
Proverbs 10:4 reminds us ~
He becometh poor that dealeth with a slack hand:
but the hand of the diligent maketh rich.
My hand had been idle, while on vacation, but when the temperatures had cooled off some and the humidity was in breathing range, I donned my garden gloves and headed out to give this poor Dianthus some badly needed attention. My hand was diligent to take care of the neglected landscape.
While I was tugging and pulling at the stubborn intruders, the Lord brought to my mind a simple truth: neglect in any area of our lives spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e! You name it – if you neglect your health, your work, or your spiritual walk, it’s an invitation to disaster.
Let’s think about another area in which neglect is deadly…a marriage. It’s so easy to Continue reading “The Cost of Neglect in Marriage”