Encouragement · faithfulness · friends · ministry

Stayers or Betrayers

You can listen to this post on Refresh Her Podcast.

It happens to everyone at least once in their lifetime – the betrayal of a dear friend. You thought they would stick with you through thick and thin, when the chips were down, or when you were the last person to be chosen when they were picking teams. When the betrayal comes, it’s a dagger in our heart and the loss is felt with a grief like death. I speak as one who knows…and you do, too. We read in II Timothy 1 that Paul did, too…

This thou knowest, that all they which are in Asia be turned away from me; of whom are Phygellus and Hermogenes.

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Discipleship · friends · Mentoring

A Paul, a Pal, and a Project

I just finished listening to a podcast regarding women having a friend with whom they can share their life, their burdens and their joys. As I sit here and ponder those truths, I think of the admonition I once heard…

Always have a Paul, a Barnabas and a Timothy.

What does that mean? We could put it this way – A Paul, a Pal and a Project. Let me explain…

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friends · ministry · Refreshment

Refreshing the Hearts of Others

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How refreshing it is to stand in a stream and hear its bubbling song.  There is just something about flowing, moving water that invigorates!  It refreshes! If you’ve ever stood at a stream’s edge in the countryside you know what I mean.  

Some time ago, I was given a handout entitled, Twenty Ways to Refresh.”  Due to the nature of my blog and my desire to refresh others in their heart, home and life, I gravitate to the word, “Refresh.”  Harold Vaughan, the founder of Christ Life Ministries, is the epitome of Encouragement and he is the author of this list I was given.  When we refresh others, we are pouring life into them, like that flowing stream does for us!  If you’re like me and you have difficulty thinking of ways to encourage others, this list will help you.

Here are the first ten:

  1. Greet people on Sunday mornings (at church) with a smile.  It is okay to let your face say that you are happy to be at church.  Go out of your way to say, “Hi.” Ask questions about the lives of others, and listen attentively.
  2. Visit the widows and shut-ins of your church.  Take an afternoon and visit three or four.  Sit, talk, listen and be willing to look at their photo albums – all of them.
  3. Have a mouth that is overflowing with grace and is slow to wander down any other road.
  4. Show up each Sunday morning with a mental list of three or four people that you are going to find and minister to.  Many of us walk into church with an attitude of, “I wonder who will minister to me today.”  Nothing can be as drastically encouraging to a local church’s membership than a people united in the understanding that they are there to serve and love one another.
  5. Be a Monday morning encourager instead of a Monday morning critic by sending your pastor an email detailing what you appreciated about his Sunday sermon.
  6. Don’t rush out of church on Sunday mornings.  Be one of the last to leave because you are taking the time to talk with everyone you can.
  7. Often remind others of the benefits of salvation and the graces that flow from union with Christ.  Let it season your conversations.
  8. Routinely have a crock-pot meal or roast cooking on Sundays and spontaneously invite a visiting family or family in need for supper following the service.  (See my Successful Sunday Dinner series!)
  9. Seek out those visiting the church, get to know them, and introduce them to others.  Find connections, and be a networker to the glory of God.
  10. Aim to remember people’s names and greet them by name each Sunday.  This takes work, but it can happen.  (I go to my seat and write their names in my journal, with a brief description of the person!)

This really inspired and refreshed me!  Which one of these points speaks most to you?

Lovingly,

Daily Life, · Family life · friends

Elevate Ordinary Days with Meaningful Connections

We’ve had a little time at home in between our meetings and we’ve stayed busy! But it wasn’t just busy for the sake of being busy. As I look back on the week, I see a definite theme.

I got to meet up and have lunch with my sweet friend. Days might be full, but we all need to make time for fellowship and friendship. I recently heard a message by Chuck Swindoll and he said,

“We come into church like marbles instead of grapes!”

In other words, we don’t let our lives mesh with others. I’m thankful for my grape friend who helps me not be a marble! Our time together enable us to connect far better than sending a text message! It was up close, personal and meaningful.

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friends · refreshing others

Refresh Yourself by Refreshing Someone Else

Do you ever just feel like you’re in a sort of slump?  It’s kind of a blah-ness about everything, if you will.  There are lots of reasons for the feeling, but there is one sure cure!  Proverbs 11:25 says,
 

He that waters shall be watered also himself. 

In other words, when you do something for someone else, you reap the benefit for yourself too! I’ve found that when I have the “blah” feeling, if I stop thinking about me and start thinking about someone else, I end up more encouraged than the person to whom I’m reaching out.

I love reading in Genesis 40 about Joseph who was locked up in prison after being wrongly accused, yet he noticed the sad faces of the cupbearer and baker one morning and stopped in inquire. That’s thinking of others instead of yourself! What a wonderful challenge it is to my heart that is often so selfish and self-focused!

Here are some suggestions of ways we could reach out to someone else this week:

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