Back to back.  That’s how most couples sleep who have had a disagreement.  Don’t you hate it when the devil slides in a blow that causes discord between you and your spouse?  It happens at my house, too, because there are two sinners living together that fight their flesh and the devil every day.

I hate to bring this up, but did you read my recent post about my not-so-sweet words that I spoke to my husband?  Immediately after that happened, I apologized because I saw in his eyes the pain it brought to  his heart.  I knew I was wrong.  He acknowledged my apology, but things didn’t seem right.  We were sitting in a restaurant at a small table.  It was at that moment that the Lord brought to my mind something we had read in our couples’ devotional recently.  It suggested that when you’re having any kind of disagreement, one spouse should reach out and initiate you holding hands – both hands.

So, I reached across the table with outstretched palms as an invitation to hold his hands.  We clasped our fingers together, looking eye to eye.  It did something.  It brought us back together as one.  It calmed the storm.  It unified us once again.

God had prepared me for that moment, and it changed the situation.  I later made sure that I apologized for being disrespectful to him and I also asked my Heavenly Father’s forgiveness.  Things were right, but it really started with one literally reaching out to the other.

The next time there’s an issue between you and your mate, I’d encourage you to initiate holding both his hands in yours and looking him straight into the eye with a loving heart.  Someone has to be the first to reach out.  Why don’t you make it YOU?

Refresh your marriage,