When I read in Scripture about some of the men having multiple wives, my heart cringes. I can’t even imagine the rivalry between “tender-eyed” Leah and lovely Rachel, sisters who both married Jacob. There’s enough right there for all kinds of trouble, right?!
But let’s set all that aside and look at one thing – Jacob noticed that Rachel was beautiful. He had eyes to see that she was lovely. Men are visual. Period. That is how God made them. When your husband chose you, he liked – no, he loved what he saw! What did he see? Think back to your introduction, or the time when his heart began to be drawn to you. How did you look to him?
I remember when my husband and I began to date seriously, he would come visit his parents for the weekend, which also happened to be the city where I lived and worked. Before he left very early on Sunday morning to head back to school, I would get up and get ready for church- shower, hair fixed, and dressed for the service. I wanted to look my best so he’d remember me that way in the weeks we were apart! Now obviously, since we’ve been married, he’s seen me LOTS of mornings before makeup and hair and he loves me. But I would be foolish to remain the plain, unkempt look for the rest of the day! After I add a bit of makeup and curl my very straight hair, it might not improve much, but it’s better than when I started, and my husband notices! Why do I do it? Because my husband is worth it!
I can get a bit weary of the girls on Instagram or blog world who say,
“Here’s my Momiform. This is just the way it is, folks!”
The caption is under a picture of her with leggings and a baggy t-shirt, hair pulled back in a pony tail and no makeup. Her message is that life is just too busy, too demanding to do anything else but pull this on and live in it until it’s time for bed.
No one has to be outfitted in finery, or look like a model, but putting on a pair of comfy jeans or pants, a top with some form, a pair of earrings, and five minutes at hair and at least some mascara and lip gloss, would not only make her husband smile, like Jacob looking at Rachel, but would probably also make her feel more energetic and ready for a day of demands before her! Seriously, getting ready for the day – even if you only have 30 minutes, will make you feel more like some body and doing something! Why do we do it? Because our husband is worth it!
Show your husband that he is worth it by gussying up a bit each day before he comes home. Wear something he loves to see you wear. Put on a necklace or scarf with those jeans. Add a little blush, mascara and lip gloss. Stop making excuses and just do it. Our husband sees all kinds of women every day that did take the time to look their best…we should too. Our marriage is worth it!
Is this a difficult assignment? I Corinthians 13 reminds us not to “seek our own.” If you were going to put his needs and desires before yours, how would that change your attitude even about your appearance?
Refresh your marriage,