Who Me? Respect Him? Part 3

In the last two posts about how to respect our husbands, we learned we must:

  • Make the choice to think on those things for which I can respect him
  • Consider my own sinfulness, rather than his
Erik Weihenmayer lost his vision at the age of thirteen.  However, this handicap has not stopped him from accomplishing unbelievable feats.  In 2001, he became the only blind climber in history to reach the summit of Mt Everest!  For some wives, showing respect to their husband is as much of a challenge, because the sins committed against her and the Lord are gargantuan.  Adultery, pornography or abuse might be a part of their marriage history.  They might ask – would climbing over those issues be blindly ignoring what should be exposed?

First, let me say, If a husband is continuing in these sinful issues without confession or repentance, then a wife needs to seek godly counsel.  Her husband needs to be confronted in a biblical fashion.  Galatians 6:1 She can remain a godly woman, showing Christ-like love, and if she is in danger, then she needs to take necessary precautions that a godly advisor would recommend.

If, however, a husband has recognized his sin, repented of it, and is seeking restitution, then she must forgive. Of course, one doesn’t respect a man for his sin any more than we would respect a woman for hers.  We look above that and press on, with God’s grace and strength, recognizing, as I stated last week, our own propensity towards sinful choices.  We can’t dwell on it or rehearse it in our husband’s ears or even our own heart.  A wife can respect him for his confession.  She can respect his desire to be right before God.  She can respect him for choosing her instead of the sinful lifestyle. 

The world and Satan will tell women in this situation that respecting some men in certain situations is a mountain too hard to climb, so they never strap on the boots and helmet. They stay on level ground and they miss the wonder of what only God can do, and the blessing of taking the next step – the one of obedience.  Obey?  Obey what?

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:33

Remember that blessing never precedes obedience.  You obey and see what God will do.  The view from the mountaintop is breathtaking.

With love,

P.S.  Did you hide your turkey today?

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