As of TODAY I have been blogging for 16 YEARS! 🎉I well remember sitting at my computer and publishing my very first blog post. I was unsure of what to write, yet I had so much in my heart.
I first began this blog as an extension of the ladies’ ministry at Boones Creek Bible Church, then later made it my personal ministry/outreach to women. That’s always been the burden of my heart – to refresh women as they live their lives for Christ. I just wanted to share simple helps, tips and ideas to refresh them with the practical things that touch our lives each day. I pray that I’ve done that in some small way in your life!
Blogging has opened so many doors for me. While my blog has remained small-ish, it has broadened my world in huge ways! I have met so many wonderful people who have stopped to leave a comment, and then we become Internet friends over a period of time.
Many of you who read my posts here on RefreshHer have also followed my daughter, Whitney at Come Home for Comfort . Her content on her blog and in her personal life are always a joy. I’ve missed reading her posts, and I know you have, too, but we all have to know when to step back even from something we love so we can give greater attention to that which is a greater priority. I admire Whitney for that! I’m also super blessed to be a part of her life and have the opportunity to spend time with her and her husband, when he’s not working!
I had that blessing this week as my other daughter, Alli and I hosted a 40th birthday celebration this week in Pigeon Forge with just the three of us! Her birthday isn’t until September, but this was the best time for us to get away. We spent three nights and nearly four days together, chatting, laughing, eating, cooking, shopping, reminiscing and also making new memories! It was the BEST time!
This is the series, Adorned. We are highlighting the book, Adorned, by Nancy Wolgemuth. You can listen to this post here on the Refresh Her Podcast.
Did you go to church last Sunday? Did you read your Bible today? Did you treat your neighbors kindly or go out of your way to make things right after you and your spouse were at odds? Why did you do those things? Because of the soil in which you are planted. Let me explain ~
I love having raised beds in my backyard. In them I grow a variety of herbs and vegetables. When we first added the beds to our backyard, my husband made sure to get the right kind of potting soil so that the plants would grow. We know that all plants have to have some kind of dirt to grow in, and while I don’t know all the scientific facts about my garden, I do know that my plants need good soil that is full of rich nutrients. A pile of dirt, or a ton full of sand won’t work. Having a good harvest starts with good soil.
When we talk about being a mentor or a discipler of a younger woman, we understand the “what” of our task. The Lord has told us to teach – that’s what we are to do. However, the next question is What are we to teach? Usually older women ask that with a fearful look on their face, because they don’t think they have anything to tell a younger woman, but be relieved, Paul gives clear direction in Titus 2 –
But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine.
We are to teach sound doctrine.
You may ask, “Woah! Wait! Doctrine? Isn’t that some deep, theological word preachers use? What does that have to do with teaching a younger woman?”
Let’s start by defining the word. Doctrine is simply What we believe.Everyone lives by some sort of doctrine. Even an unbeliever in Christ has doctrine that they live by. In her book, Adorned, Nancy Wolgemuth quotes a man who said,
“At our church, we don’t preach doctrine. We just love Jesus.”
Perhaps this man’s church doesn’t teach doctrine, but they do have some, and they are living it out, as each of us is. Nancy says,
“Doctrine is the soil that provides the context for growing character.”
Just like the soil in my raised beds enables my herbs and vegetables to grow and be beautiful, right doctrine will enable us to adorn the Gospel that saved us. We will be able to show a watching world how wonderful it is to know Christ’s character and to live a life following His Word.
It’s important to remember that Paul says we need not just any doctrine, but sound doctrine. We must be planted in the Truth. That Truth is found in God’s Word and it must be the foundation that gives us deep roots as a believer.
If the doctrine is bad, what kind of fruit will it produce? Bad fruit.
Let’s answer two big questions in this post ~ Let’s answer the “Why?” and “How?”
#1 Why do we have to teach doctrine? What’s the big deal about teaching sound doctrine? Why is it important? Can’t we just jump to how I’m supposed to love my husband? Can’t we just talk about how to be a Christian woman? Doctrine is important because all the things we think and do are connected to what we believe about our God.
Wrong thinking and behavior all stem from wrong thoughts about God. That means if we can help a woman have the RIGHT thoughts about her God, her thinking and her behavior will both change!
Our feelings aren’t the boss of us; our Bible doctrines are!
If a woman believes that after she’s saved she’s on Easy Street, how will she survive when hardships come?
If a woman believes that she needs to work to stay saved, she’ll come close to dying an early death trying to do enough to please God.
If a woman fails to understand that Christ lives in her after salvation, she will fail to see that she can have His victory over the sin to which she feels in bondage.
If a woman doesn’t know that she’s secure in Christ, she will live a life of fear and insecurity.
If a wife doesn’t feel in love with her husband any more, she will think the best thing is to leave the relationship.
However, when women learn Bible doctrine that applies to their lives and to their roles as women, they live lives that show the beauty of the Gospel! When we do this, we will be living lives that are radically different from the unsaved world.
Question #2 – How will we learn Bible doctrine? We learn it as we read God’s Word. We learn it as we sit in a church that teaches sound doctrine. This is the watering of the soil. We must put ourselves in places where we will learn the solid meat of what the Bible says, rather than the fluff that sounds good but has no substance.
When we don’t act on the Bible’s solid foundation, it’s because we have either not been taught it, or we know it and are not living accordingly. When either one of those are true, we will have wrong thinking and wrong actions. However,
Right doctrine is so freeing! Right doctrine is applicational to our everyday lives! Right doctrine is beautiful because it reflects the nature of our God.
Nancy says, “Our ultimate purpose is to make much of God. We do that as we experience, enjoy and reflect the loveliness of Christ, making Him known to a world that is starved for true beauty.”
Do you know Bible doctrine? Do you know what the Bible teaches about salvation? Eternal security? Forgiveness of sin after salvation? A short study of four essential doctrines of salvation is The Exchange. This would be a great place to start!
Friends…
We need to know sound doctrine so we can grow.
We need to know sound doctrine so we can think and react biblically!
We need to know sound doctrine so we can teach it to another woman.
If you want to go a little deeper in this study…
Start keeping a notebook: What I know about My God. Every time you read a verse that tells about God’s character, write down the character trait and its reference. For example, God chooses not to remember my sin. Psalm 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath He removed our transgressions from us.
Memorize Titus 2:3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
Now that you’ve read/listened, does teaching doctrine still sound intimidating?
Refresh you life and the life of a younger woman with the solid truth from God’s Word.
I’ll never forget having dinner with Dale and his parents before we got married. It was a summer day in South Carolina and the fresh vegetable stands were brimming with fresh sweet corn from the fields. When we sat down to eat, there was no meat – there was a HUGE bowl of corn and another large platter of cantaloupe. Coming from a family of girls, and also parents
You can listen to this post here on the Refresh Her Podcast.
Years ago when I left home and stepped out on my own, there was no one to whom I spent time asking questions and being taught. I had had the privilege of a Christian home and godly parents, but as far as someone sitting down to teach me my role as a Christian woman, I had no type of discipleship. I think part of that was that in those decades, the idea of mentoring and being mentored was a quiet subject. Not many addressed it.
Today that is not the case. There have been many authors and speakers who have reminded us of our role in Titus 2 – that the older are to teach the younger. I’ve been blessed now to have been on both ends, and I know the joy and blessing of learning and also of helping a younger woman to grow in Christ.
One newer book that is that is a wonderful teaching tool isAdorned, by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. The emphasis of the book is that as believers, we are to adorn the beauty of the Gospel and live it out before the world, and we are also to teach it to the younger women in our lives.