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Homemaking – A Tapestry of Beauty

If you’ve ever done cross stitch, or embroidery you know that to create  anything that turns into something beautiful takes planning.  It takes time.  It takes instruction.  It takes intentionality. So when we think about weaving a tapestry in our home, we know that none of these steps can be avoided.  The ultimate Guide is God’s Word.  He tells us what it should look like.  Then it’s up to us to take the needle in hand, and begin the tedious day-to-day work that is necessary.

Let’s look into God’s Word to get more instruction.  Titus 2 says 

Admonish the young women to be homemakers.  (Verse 5)

If that word brings to mind the dull, boring task of mundane chores, I ask you to read carefully and let your heart be encouraged about this important role.

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Refresh Your Family By Being the Homemaker

She riseth while it is yet night and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. Prov. 31:15

The memory is so clear in my mind, even though the event took place when I was only eight.  My mother had gone to the hospital for surgery, requiring her to be away from home for a week. She left plans for our meals, school outfits, and personal needs in the careful hands of our loving dad.  He did all she had instructed him, and we had no immediate wants unmet. However, her very bodily absence left such a void in my young heart that I felt desperate for her presence. Having no way to remedy the situation, I made my way to the front closet where all our coats were hung. Finding my mother’s coat sleeve with the fur cuff, I buried my face in its soft comfort and cried tears of longing for the one who made our house a home.

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A Heart To Serve

Lesson 5 in our review of A Woman After God’s Own Heart, by Elizabeth George.

I remember as a young girl, looking at myself in the mirror and thinking, “Why am I here? What is my purpose?”  I think most of us have pondered that question at some time or other.  But as a follower of Christ, it’s narrowed that question to, “What does God want from me as a Christian?”  God doesn’t snatch us up out of this world and take us to heaven (as wonderful as that would be!) the moment we get saved.  Why not?  What purpose does He have for leaving us here?

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Easter · Women's roles

The Women That Followed

There is no day so solemn as Good Friday. No day with such mixed emotions of sorrow and gladness as this day. I love to read in Luke 23 and 24 of the crucifixion and think about the details of that day. There is one particular detail that grabs my attention. In verse 27 it says,

“And there followed him a great company of people, and of women which also bewailed and lamented him.”

Who were these women and why did they take the risk of following Jesus right to the cross where He was nailed to die for their sins and mine? They were of the few that lingered still near the Savior. They followed, though there was great risk.

In verse 49 we read,

“And all his acquaintance, and the women that followed him from Galilee, stood afar off, beholding these things.”

The crowd has thinned even more as Jesus’ acquaintance and these women stand from a distance and watch Him suffer, ask His Father to forgive those that crucified Him, speak with the thief who believed, and then bow His head and die. They followed, though on their part there was great remonstration. I’m sure at this point they still couldn’t understand the whys to His death; yet they followed.

The next time we read about these women it is in verse 55,

And the women also, which came with him from Galilee, followed after, and beheld the sepulchre, and how his body was laid.”

They followed Joseph of Arimatheaea to the place where he laid Jesus’ body. These women continue to follow, though there was great remorse. I can’t imagine them just watching without weeping and mourning His death. How they missed Him already, but they’ve come through their tears to see where He was buried so they could come back and anoint His body with spices.

Lastly, we see in chapter 10 verse 24 a group of women at the tomb.

“It was Mary Magdalene, and Joanna, and Mary the mother of James, and other women that were with them, which told these things unto the apostles.”

The things they told the disciples were the words, “He is risen!” They followed the Lord to the tomb, and now there is great rejoicing!

May you and I as women be willing to follow the Lord though
there is risk (what will people think?),
remonstration (why is this happening, Lord?)
and remorse (we aren’t promised a life with no suffering),
because at the day when we see Him face to face there will be great rejoicing!

When I traveled to Israel some years ago, I will never forget visiting the empty tomb. As I stood there in the garden area, I thought of that group of women that came to anoint Jesus’ body with spices early Sunday morning. I could picture myself with them there. Can you see yourself gathered and huddled with sorrow, then being overcome with such joy? Let’s be counted with that group of women that clung together. They had tremendous love for their Savior that kept them close. Look into His lovely face this week as you consider Easter, and refresh your love for such a Redeemer Who would die in your place.

If you need some ideas for celebrating Easter, you’ll find suggestions here.

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Your Modeling Career

(Lesson 4 in the Adorned Study)

Being only 4’9″, I never had any aspirations that I would ever be a model, but now that I’m an older woman, I’ve learned that a modeling career is indeed a part of my life! Unlike those who walk the runways, my modeling has absolutely nothing to do with physical beauty. Sound impossible? That’s what our God is all about – doing the impossible!

Paul wrote in Titus in chapter 2 –

But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:

That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.

When older women model the beautiful, winsome spirit of a woman who is filled with the Spirit of God, we also know that this did not happen overnight. This has come as a result of years of walking with the Lord.

What kind of things will we be modeling if we’re this kind of woman? What kind of woman will we be? Paul gives us six characteristics here in Titus 2.

Is this what you think of when you think of a woman who is “grave?”
  1. Sober – The first literal application that comes to our minds is being free from the intoxicating influence of alcohol.  But being sober-minded in a biblical sense is broader.  It involves not becoming drunk on any of the many excesses available to us in the world.This woman has learned what really matters and leans her heart in the eternal satisfactions instead.
  2. Grave – This means to be discreet and reminds us to be honorable and appropriately serious about life. Sounds boring, right? A woman like Katherine Brooks in Anne of Green Gables comes to my mind (see picture above). But this doesn’t mean we live life without joy, because joy is a fruit of the Spirit.  It means we see the seriousness of living with an awareness of eternity.  We realize that heaven is nearer, that our days to live for Christ are shorter and that gives us an appropriate seriousness about how we live out our days. We live out our life with dignity and that is always a lovely thing to behold!
  3. Temperate – This comes from sophron, two Greek words, one meaning saved or sound and the other, meaning a mind. Being temperate is to live out life with a sound mind. Phron is related to the modern Greek word for brakes.  The self-controlled person knows when to stop.  The Holy Spirit controls her.
    What do we need Him to stop?  
    Our words.
    The poor use of our time.
    A relationship headed in the wrong direction.
    Anything we might want to do in excess. A temperate woman will put on the brakes.
  4. Sound in (the) faith – The word sound implies health.  This is so encouraging when it is applied to our lives as older women who are experiencing declining health and strength!  Even as our bodies are slowing down, we should be (and can be!) in the best shape of our lives, spiritually speaking!
  5. Sound in charity – Love – This is having a great capacity for love.  We don’t just have this head knowledge of God and His Word.  We demonstrate it with His love.  This will show itself in how we live out the Gospel.  We will show kindness, sacrifice, and forgiveness. 
  6. Sound in patience – steadfastness

I’ve heard so many older people say, “The golden years are not golden!”  Their reason for saying that is because they are experiencing hardship.  Scripture doesn’t say we won’t have any trouble as we age – as a matter of fact, Psalm 90:10 says, The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labor and sorrow; for it is soon cut off and we fly away.
To be patient is to abide under this heavy load.  We’re not going to cave in under this hardship that might be coming.  We won’t just be gritting our teeth and squeezing by, we will bear up and glorify the God we love and trust.

Sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, charity and patience – what a beautiful model for younger women to watch and imitate. Who comes to your mind when you read those characteristics? Would YOU come to another woman’s mind? These attributes can be a part of our lives as we walk with God, study His Word, and learn His character.

You will become like the One with whom you spend time!

Walk the walk. You are the model younger women need to see in this upside down world.