Christian Life

None To Help

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When I think back to some of the hardest times in my life, I cannot say that I ever felt alone.  As far as I can remember I’ve always had someone alongside me to encourage and pray for me.  But yesterday as I was reading II Timothy 4, I read that Paul had been forsaken by Demas.  Alexander had done him much evil.  He then adds,

“No man stood with me; all men forsook me.”

I think it’s notable that he said all MEN forsook him.  For even when we do feel like we are alone, we have to realize the truth that Paul states in the next verse…

Notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, and strengthened me;

In other words, Paul says, “No matter that men may have forsaken me, the Lord never left me!  He gave me strength!”  He says that the Lord delivered him out of the mouth of lions.  He’s likely referring to Nero and his wickedness.  God protected Paul, even though there was no human help in sight!

What are you facing right now that makes you feel so alone?  Don’t keep your mind there.  Move on to this truth – the Lord is standing with you if you know Him as your Savior.  He will give you strength!  If you don’t know Him, then allow this trial to run you to Him as your Savior, then your Anchor in this trial!

We are never alone; the Lord is always present to help!  Acknowledge Him and see watch what He will do for you!

Lovingly,

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Christian Life

When Your Tinsel Loses its Twinkle

Tinsel a.jpgWe’ve all probably experienced it – you drag the Christmas boxes out of the attic or basement so you can decorate the tree. After what seems like forever, the tree is finally upright and standing proudly in the middle of the room. Now it’s time to load it down with strands and strands of Tinsel and Twinkling lights. You open up the box with last year’s light strands and sadly realize two things very quickly:

  1. The strands of lights are twisted together like spaghetti noodles in a stock pot.
  2. Half of the lights aren’t even lighting up.

Your tinsel has suddenly lost its twinkle.

But there’s another kind of tinsel that loses its twinkle in our lives, and that’s just the spark that gives us the desire to put our feet on the floor each day; the zest for life and what we’ll be facing today. All we want is peace – peace in our heart, our home, our life, yet it seems unattainable, and darkness has filled our life, as much as we hate to admit it.

Our quest for peace can make us turn in several directions – looking for a new strand of “tinsel,” if you will. We lay down the darkened strand and pick up a new one that might include:

  1. Preoccupation – We may decide that if we just do something we’ll feel better. So we fill our calendars with every activity and party we’re invited to, yet the end result is more stress, rather than peace!
  2. Prescriptions – Our doctor may suggest a little energy boosting pill that will help put a spring in our step. Or perhaps the temptation to take prescription meds that will numb us might present itself, but that only brings a whole new set of problems, and simply masks the turmoil and darkness that is hidden below.
  3. Position – The temptation to pour ourselves into our career is another route to hide the darkness of our heart. We wonder if advancing our position at work, or increasing our financial status could help, but it, too, reveals more knots in the “tinsel.”

Sounds pretty discouraging, doesn’t it? But wait! Jesus Christ, knowing our hearts and the darkness of our lives, came to this earth to bring to us exactly what we need. Right before He was going to the cross, He said to His disciples in John 16:33

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

Let’s think about how to address the darkness that you may be experiencing. To do that, we’ll make analogies with strands of Christmas lights that are dark and what we have to do to get them to light correctly.

  1. Read the directionsWith Christmas lights you may need to read to see what the directions say to do. You may have missed something. You may need the reminder that the directions have in writing. “Oh, these aren’t meant for outside lighting…” We then must obey the instructions!

As a believer, our “instructions” are in God’s Word. Have you neglected God’s Word recently? Is that what is causing your lack of enthusiasm for your Christian life? Often the thing we know we need to do is the last thing we actually do. We must give it more than just a glance. Spend time pouring into Scripture and listen to what the Lord is saying to you.

Psalm. 119:130 – The entrance of God’s Word gives light. The Spirit of God speaks to us through His Word. He’ll tell you what you need to hear – it will be what no one else can say into your heart.

Psalm 43:5 Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God

Casting off our miseries often only requires remembering God’s mercies.

  1. Change the bad bulb. One DIY site said, IF YOU’RE LUCKY, SIMPLY PLUGGING IN THE MINI LIGHTS WILL REVEAL A BAD BULB. Change the bad bulb and boom – you’ve got lights!

In a believer’s life, a “bad bulb” is unconfessed sin. Is there sin you need to confess?  I John 1:6 says to believers,

If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:

An unbeliever out of fellowship with God is a poor testimony! Our words and our life don’t match up!

Sometimes the reason for the darkness is due to the fact that we’re out of fellowship with God. The farther we get away from God, the darker our world gets. Pray – plug into the Source and ask God if there’s something burned out – sin in your lifeCall it what God calls it. Is there something you need to obey? Do it. Are you doing something that is directly against Scripture? Stop it. Confess it. I John 1:9

  1. Get a right perspective. In a month, will one dead strand of lights really matter to you? Will the dark strand be your outstanding memory next year? I seriously doubt it. Let it go; it isn’t that important.

Realize that for a believer, this hard situation you’re dealing with is as bad as it will ever get for you. “In this world you will have tribulations – reminds us that this world is fleeting. One day we’ll be with Christ, and trouble will be over.

Revelation 21:4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

  1. Perhaps you need to simply exchange the strand of lights! If the strand is dead, it’s never going to have light. Take it back to the store and exchange it for good lights!

Friend, Are you sure you’re God’s child? Eph 2:1 And you hath he quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins; You cannot have light (peace and joy) outside of Christ! If you’re trying to get through on your own, you’re never going to get there!   

Years ago when our daughter was still hoping for Santa to come visit her on Christmas, my husband thought it would be great fun to take her little jingle bells outside her bedroom window after she’d gone to bed, and give his best, “Ho! Ho! Ho!” to make her think Santa was passing by.

She was tucked in bed tightly and I was seated in the living room across from her bedroom door, watching with anticipation as my own “Santa” slipped into the darkness. He gave it his best with a few shakes of the bells and roof-lifting Ho, ho, ho’s. In a matter of seconds, our three year-old was in my lap screaming at the top of her lungs in sheer terror.  #goodideaturnedbad

We tried to console her by telling her it was just her daddy. He even dressed her in her coat and took her to the spot where he had stood outside her window. She was not buying that! Nor was she buying sleeping in her room that could at any moment by visited by Santa! Instead, what she had to have was her sister’s company. Her toddler bed was moved into “Sissy’s Room”…for the next two months.  #parentfail

It seemed ridiculous to us because we knew that in that darkness, her father was just outside the window. He knew what was in the darkness.  He wanted to comfort her in the darkness, but she refused.

Oh, that story reminds me of myself! How often in “dark times” the Lord, my Heavenly Father, was just outside “my window,” yet my terror or wrong perception of the darkness drove me from Him, when what He wanted was for that to drive me TO Him.

God allows the darkness so that we might understand that He is very near, that He loves us and desires that we come to Him in our darkness and exchange it for His light!

 John 8:12 Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying,

I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.

For an unbeliever, this life is as good as it will ever get. These hard days are the best you’ll have if you don’t trust Christ as you Savior, but Jesus said, In me ye will have peace. The only way we have peace is in the PERSON of Jesus Christ!

Jesus told His disciples to “TAKE COURAGE!” Why? He has defeated the world! Christ died on the cross for you because He loves you! He wants to give you eternal life.

Think of exchanging out your tangled, dark Christmas tinsel, which represents your lack of peace, and exchanging it for the Person of Jesus Christ – the Light of the World! No more confusion! No more darkness!

So what do you need to do…

  1. Read the directions?
  2. Change the bad bulb?
  3. Get a right perspective?
  4. Exchange the strand?

Let Jesus Christ bring the light back into your life!

Lovingly,

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Marriage

When Your Marriage Feels Like a Roller Coaster

No one wants to be forced to ride a roller coaster – especially when it’s an emotional one caused by stress in a marriage.  But, if we’re honest, we’ve all been there at one time or another.  We feel like life is spinning and twisting out of control and all we can do is hang on and hope for a safe and eventual landing.

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That Marriage Roller Coaster ride can also make you feel helpless, alone, and desperate. In the middle of a marital crisis, you can “feel” like you will never be happy again, that there’s no hope for your relationship, or that it would just be better if your marriage was over. These can all be dangerous emotions/actions, if not handled biblically.

How about if we just stop together and get a biblical perspective for those kinds of days?

  1. Realize that your spouse is not your enemy.  Satan is the one attacking your home.  But the biblical perspective is, “Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world.”  (I John 4:4) God is stronger and greater.  He can get you past this hurdle, and that’s all it is – a hurdle.  The good news is that hurdles are meant for jumping over!
  2. Struggles are not a sign that your marriage is done.  Jesus told us, “In this world you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer – I have overcome the world.” John 16:33  Since He has overcome, so can we!  When two sinners live together, there’s bound to be difficulty at times.  Add to the mix, children, who are also sinners, and you can have a house full of struggles!  But, as in the roller coaster analogy, you don’t just jump off when you’re climbing the steepest incline of the ride!  You sit tight, hold on (to the Lord and one another!), close your eyes (in prayer), and do the next right thing.  Soon you’ll be pulling into the very place the ride started, renewed in your love and softer and gentler with one another.
  3. Ending the marriage is not God’s answer to the struggle.  Seek for restoration. Humble yourself and do what is necessary to obey Romans 12:18.  Sincerely ask the Lord to show you if you are in the wrong.  Seek the biblical advice of a godly friend who will love you enough to be honest with you and tell you what you need to hear – not what they know you want to hear.  Lovingly talk to your spouse, when the time is right.  Share your heart.  Ask if you can get down on your knees and pray together.  It’s pretty impossible to pray as a couple and stay angry.  Again, humility is necessary on your part!  You can’t change him, but with God’s help, you sure can change the girl in your shoes!
  4. Believe the truth that the best is yet to be.  Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us that God has a plan to give us a hope and a future, and that includes your marriage!  You can both learn from this experience and enjoy greater days in the future, because of the restoration and reconciliation that has taken place.

Proverbs 24:10 says,

If thou faint in the day of adversity,
thy strength is small.

Let the Lord be your strength, and climb down off that roller coaster, straighten your wind-blown hair, and don’t faint!  Believe the biblical truth and press on for God’s honor!

Lovingly,

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Before your Blessing, First This

A Peek at my week will reveal…

Without six weeks of classes, cooking and hard work, there would have been no celebration dinner like we had last Saturday night! All the husbands were invited to join their wives in celebrating the completion of the Six-week course of Apples of Gold. We had seventeen in attendance and had a really sweet time together!

I used fall colors and apples as my theme for the tables as you can see on this one.

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Without a job, there would not be the need for rest on Labor Day! I’m thankful for the Monday we were able to spend at a park with views of the mountains and a lake! It was gorgeous. We had KFC grilled chicken and I brought Mason jars of sweet tea to cool our parched throats. How pretty is a jar of tea at a picnic?!

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Without dark nights there would be no joy of morning! The picture below was taken from my rocking chair at around 7:00 a.m. It was so special to sit there and watch the sky go from black night to the wonderful colors of the morning!

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After our picnic on Monday we headed further up the mountain to get fresh South Carolina Peaches! These were about the size of baseballs! Without the further drive up the mountain and enduring some steep curves and slopes, we wouldn’t have had the blessing of peaches in our yogurt yesterday morning! It was worth the trip!

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Liza surprises me sometimes and enjoys being in my lap while I work at the computer. She’s not really a lap cat, so I’ll take all the attention she’ll give me! Pets are work and take special care, but without them, life wouldn’t be nearly so sweet! She’s a faithful companion!

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I hope you see where this post is going. Without hard things there’s no blessing – no reward. Whatever hard thing you’re enduring right now – like

  • early mornings because of job schedules
  • sleepless nights because of a baby
  • interruptions in life because of illness
  • waiting instead of possessing whatever it is your heart wants right NOW

remember that it will be worth it to receive the blessing – and it will come eventually. Don’t give up. One day you’ll be posting a picture on Instagram or writing an update in your status about God’s answer and how much better it is than you ever imagined! Keep waiting.

Lovingly,

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Overruled for Good!

It was Sunday morning and all the “normal” stuff was happening at our house. I had finished curling my hair and dressing and was headed down to get some breakfast then head out the door for prayer before the service. My husband had already kissed me and was headed to go on before me. A few minutes later I walked into kitchen and saw his suit coat hanging on the back of one of the kitchen chairs, revealing that he was still home. “Hmmm, that’s odd,” I thought.

Walking down the hall, I could hear unpleasant sounds coming from the half bath where he was losing whatever was on his stomach. I helped as much as I could, wiping his brow, holding his head, and then stopping to pray over his shoulder. He made his way on wobbly legs to the sofa, where he gingerly laid back and explained to me that his vertigo troubles had hit HARD.

The next couple of hours repeated our earlier positions and I could only pray for him and wonder why we were hindered from attending church. He had prepared to preach from Revelation 2 and was so excited about the message. He was eager to baptize the new converts and see another family join the church. Why this sickness? Why now?

He was finally able to slowly make his way upstairs and situate himself on the bed to rest. I took my Bible and went to one of the other bedrooms nearby where I could read and not disturb my patient. I opened to Proverbs 12 and began meditating on the passage. When I got to verse 21a my attention was halted. It reads:

There shall no evil happen to the just:

I knew it couldn’t mean that nothing bad or hard could happen to a believer – look at today. But what does this mean? I looked it up in a commentary and here’s what I found out – For the believer, even evil things have been allowed through God’s sovereign hands and He decrees that evil to happen, but then he overrules the evil and turns it into something good!  When we see it from that perspective, it won’t be evil at all! 

I had wondered if it was Satan hindering my husband from preaching the truth of Revelation. It made me scowl, but now in my mind I could just see my Righteous Judge hitting the gavel on the table of His justice and saying, “Overruled! I will see to it that this is for good!”

I heard of some wonderful things that happened at church yesterday as our son-in-law preached.

  • One young man visiting told us, “That message was EXACTLY what I needed to hear!” That is GOOD!
  • I got to spend that time on my knees praying for the preaching while it was going on. That is GOOD! 
  • While resting, we spent some time evaluating changes that need to be made so my husband will be rested and more refreshed for Sundays. That is GOOD!

My husband was feeling better Monday morning, and though we still don’t know exactly what the Lord was up to, we know that is was overruled for OUR GOOD!

What is going on in your life that seems to be evil? Listen for the gavel on the table and God’s words, “Overruled for good!” That will remove the scowl off your face and replace the joy in your heart!

With love,