leading a child to Christ · salvation

How To Tell if a Child is Ready to Be Saved

Trusting Christ as a little girl has created in me a love for talking to children about God’s gift of salvation.  I can relate to them because I remember how it was for me all those years ago when I knew I needed to receive God’s gift of salvation for my own!

Here’s what I remember about myself at that time

  • I was a sinner.  Oh, I was a “good girl.” You see I wanted to please and obey my parents and others in authority.  But even at seven, I remembered lying, disobeying, being sassy or disrespectful.  All that was sin, and I knew I was guilty.
  • I knew I wasn’t going to go to heaven because of my sinful heart.  It had separated me from God.
  • I knew Jesus loved me so much that He took my punishment on the cross, and that what He did made it possible for me to be forgiven by God.
  • I knew that all I had to do was receive God’s free gift of eternal life by calling on Him to save me.

That’s pretty much it.  There was a TON I didn’t know.  But I knew enough about salvation to do the calling. Along with my love for telling children about Christ, I’m also passionate about us as adults not making it hard for a child to be saved.  It’s as though we feel they have to be on an adult level of understanding before they can really trust the Lord. I heard a preacher say recently something like this,

Often when a child talks to us about salvation, we ask adult questions they cannot answer,

and we say they’re not ready to be saved.

Then when an adult needs to come to Christ we tell them to just have

childlike faith!

There was so very much I DIDN’T know about the Lord, His Word or my eternal destiny.  But you know what?  That didn’t change my decision to receive Christ that day!

I hear many adults wonder about their child and say, “What if they’re not ready?”  Then don’t push them, but if they’re asking you questions, just lead them to Jesus!  Will you regret that they came too soon, or that they needed to make it sure later on?  No!  Bring them to Him!  Then continue to guide them and teach them.  Make it easy for them to find Christ!  Don’t put them off because you wonder if they are really ready.

Another question is, “What if they don’t really understand?”  I ask a child questions.  Here’s what I may ask:

  1. Why did you raise your hand in class?  Even if the invitation was so very clear – “Come see me if you want to know how to have Jesus as your Savior and have your sins forgiven.”  Sometimes a child will shrug their shoulders and not have a clue.  Maybe they came because a friend came up.  I’ll just pat them on the shoulder and say, “That’s okay.  Thanks for coming to see me!”  End of discussion.
    If they say, “I want to talk about Jesus…” then we go forward.
    If your child is talking to you and others about needing to be saved, then it’s obvious the Holy Spirit is working in their heart.  You might ask them, “Why do you think you need to be saved?  When should a person ask Jesus to save them?”  As a parent, use every discipline time as another reminder of their sinful nature and their need for Christ.
  2. Have you ever sinned?  If they say, “yes.”  I’ll ask what sin is and why is it a problem.  If they say, “No!!!!”  It’s usually also the end of the discussion.
  3. What did God do for us because we have sinned and we cannot enter heaven with sinful hearts?  I have them read with me John 3:16 and Romans 6:23.
  4. What do we have to do to receive a gift?  What do we do to receive God’s gift of eternal life?
  5. Are you ready to pray and receive God’s gift of salvation?
    I have them pray out loud – not so I can grade their prayer, but to make sure they’re not praying for their Papa’s surgery or their gold fish that died.  (Trust me, it can go there if the child isn’t really serious about salvation at this point.)

If you can keep a child on point through those brief questions, that in itself is also a good indicator that they’re really thinking about their need for Jesus.  Once I had a child respond at an invitation and when I started asking them questions they went off on conversations about their toys, their dog and vacation time.  It was obvious to me they didn’t come because they were wanting to receive Christ.
If, however, the child prayed and admitted they were a sinner and asked Jesus to come in their life, then rejoice with them and remind them that the angels in heaven are also rejoicing!!!

It grieves my heart to hear a parent say to me that their child has been asking to be saved, but “We don’t feel he’s ready.”  To me, that’s a scary place to be.  Don’t stand in front of the cross and hinder them; move aside and join them on your knees as they, in their childlike faith pray to be saved!

My girls were saved at a very young age, and both have said they never doubted their salvation.  Neither have I.  I knew God would keep His promise when He told me I would have eternal life!  I believe that’s the very essence of child-like faith!

How about you?  Do you have a certainty that you will go to heaven when you die?  This is an excellent video  (right side of screen, click to enlarge) about how you can have a relationship with God and eternal life with Him.

Because Jesus loves the little children,

P.S. I got saved while attending Sunday School. You might like to read this post about the value of Sunday School and what it did for me!

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A Peek from my Porch

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Last week found us – not on our our porch at all, but in California for a conference!  It was a great week away hearing from the Lord, being encouraged in ministry and getting to tour a little of the southern California area.

One of the many blessings of the week was visiting the Ronald Reagan Library.Let me give you a peek…

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This is an exact replica of the Oval Office when President Reagan was in office…

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I love this plaque that was on his desk.  It was a reminder of the humble man he was.

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The gardens and the views around the library were breathtaking!

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I would NEVER want to be president, but it was fun having this photo made.  =)

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Air Force One.  Really incredible to get to walk through it!

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Another outdoor view…

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I think my favorite part of the tour was hearing President Reagan’s speeches being played.  He was such a true American who loved his country, and it came through every time he addressed the people .  I can’t say that I didn’t cry as I was reminded of what he brought to our nation during his time as president.  It’s reminded me of the HUGE need for us to pray for the 2016 election and God’s mercy on our country.

Who else has visited the Reagan Library? What was a highlight for you?

With love,

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Worthless or Worthwhile Things?

What have you been looking at today?  Recently as I meditated on Psalm 119, this verse has come back to my thoughts again and again.  I know it’s the Spirit of God, reminding me of the need to obey this wise example.  It reads:

Worthless things.  What “worthless things” might we be looking at?  I can’t really answer for you, but for me, it’s Instagram or Facebook – time that could be used for more worthwhile things. For others it might include television viewing or the kind of movies they allow, excusing profane language or that which is contrary to the holiness of our God.  It’s not really that we must always be doing something spiritual, but it should be valuable. I been trying to ask myself, “Is this a worthwhile activity?” AND  “Is this the best time to do this?”  I try to reserve idle time for viewing Instagram or Facebook, like while I’m a passenger in the car, or waiting for an appointment.  

It’s so easy to get caught up in looking that we lose track of not just time,

but of worth.

Could I encourage you to pray this verse this week?  Ask the Lord to help you to keep your eyes from looking at vain (worthless) things.  Then ask Him to direct you to worthwhile things.  How could you best use that time?  Could you:

  • Work on a Scripture verse to memorize?
  • Write a note of encouragement?
  • Start early on the supper meal?
  • Do an activity with your child?
  • Pray?
  • Finish folding the laundry?
  • Study your upcoming Bible lesson?

God’s Word isn’t about a guilt trip;  it’s about making our time profitable for eternity. To do that we must Keep our eyes from looking at worthless things.  Guard your eyes today.

With love,

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Freshen Up Friday

Manicured and Polished fingernails can help you feel pulled together, but it’s hard to keep painted fingernails pretty when you do routine household jobs. I recently stumbled across a nail polish that is both long lasting AND cheap!  These are about $2!
Pretty incredible.

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This Wet and Wild megalast does what the name implies – it really stays on!

I put on only one coat of color, then top it off with a clear polish and it will stay looking good for a better part of the week!

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I love these two colors for summertime – Warm Filter and Candy-luscious Rose. They’re perfect for those bright colors of this fantastic season!

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Freshen up your look with a nice, summer manicure that will last. You don’t have to go to the salon to have pretty nails!

Anyone have another polish that lasts and doesn’t cost a fortune?

Stay refreshed,
Denise

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Criticize or Pray

I read the sentence in my book, The Kneeling Christian, and it seemed to jump off the page and wave its arms in front of me to be sure it had gotten my attention. It had. The sentence read,

Perhaps we would criticize less if we prayed more.

I couldn’t get that quote out of my mind, nor did I want to because my thoughts tend towards criticism. Like:

Why don’t they paint that fence?
Who would want a barking dog?
Why is the service at this place so slow?
Why is the driver in front of me stopping at a green light?!

On and on I go with my list of logically critical thoughts and words, until that quote entered my heart.

Now I’m asking the Lord to help me turn that critical statement into a prayer:

“Father, I don’t know what is going on in that car of front of me, but if they’re having trouble seeing, give them strength and safety. Help me to treat them the way I would want to be treated.”

“Maybe the waitress of my table has lots of people to wait on. Lord, help me to show her your love.”

On through the day I go, turning my ugly, judgmental thoughts into prayers. And you know what? It is changing me! It gets my focus off of myself and on to others. It keeps my heart tender instead of harsh and demanding. It gives me compassion rather than condescension.  And the best part, it keeps me in close communion with my heavenly Father.

I challenge you to try it – turn your criticism around and make it a prayer. See what happens to your heart and your day!

With a prayer,
Denise