Godly Character Traits

Cut Down the Tree

“I’ll forgive, but I’ll never forget what you did to me!” 

“What he said to me was unthinkable.  I could never forgive him for that.”

 “She’s never even told me she was sorry for the way she treated our family.  When she does, then I’ll consider forgiving her, but not until then.”

We may not be so bold as to speak the statements above, but we’ve all probably at one time or another at least felt that kind of unforgiveness.  What is a Christian woman to do with all the hurtful things that pierce our hearts – the words, the actions, the accusations, the insults?  Do we just stuff them down somewhere and try to move on?  This question was answered so well at the conference I attended last weekend.  It’s also such a part of godly character, that we have to include this in our list and pray the Lord will help us add it to our lives.

Forgiveness – (Forgiveness is huge in more ways than one!) – Releasing another from my right to punish him for hurting me; Clearing the record of those that have wronged me, and allowing God to love him through me.

Luke 17:3 – Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.  The teaching in this verse is that we lovingly rebuke someone who has sinned against us so they can make it right.  If he repents, we are to forgive him – no matter how awful, no matter how long it went on.  Forgive.  Period.  End of discussion.  Don’t bring it up again. 

Psalm 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.  East never meets west.  Our sin will never be brought before us again.  Praise the Lord!  God’s forgiveness toward us is our example.  He forgives and chooses never to remember our sin.  We have been forgiven much, so we must forgive much.

After the Civil War, Robert E. Lee visited a Kentucky lady who took him to the remains of a grand old tree in front of her house. There she bitterly cried that its limbs and trunk had been destroyed by Federal artillery fire. She looked to Lee for a word condemning the North or at least sympathizing with her loss. After a brief silence, Lee said, “Cut it down, my dear Madam, and forget it.” It is better to forgive the injustices of the past than to allow them to remain, let bitterness take root and poison the rest of our life.

Is there a tree you need to cut down?  Be a woman of character and forgive as Christ forgave you.  If there’s a dagger in your heart at the mention of a certain person, this is a good indicator that bitterness and unforgivness is growing.  It’s time to take action – get out the ax and remove it!

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:32

With love,

P.S. Next Thursday we’ll talk about how to forgive someone who hasn’t asked to be forgiven.

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A Peek Inside the Parsonage

I recently stumbled across an old video of our youngest daughter when she was about three.  On this tape (yeah, it was a long time ago!) she was reciting the books of the Old Testament.  I smiled as I listened to her little voice saying the names of the books in her three year-old way.  So sweet.

That triggered another memory in my mind.  As soon as my girls could read, since they’d already learned the books of the Bible, I would challenge them as we sat and listened to their daddy preaching, to try to find the Bible references he used as he preached.  We would race to see who could find it first (quietly, of course).  The winner would gently elbow the other person, to signify that they had found the right book, chapter and verse.  Once there, a mark was made on the bulletin; that person had earned a point!  We’d keep score to see who had won at the end of the service. 

We had lots of fun with this over the years.  At first I would go slowly and give them a chance, but it wasn’t long until they got really fast and kept me on my toes!  It was a friendly competition that did several things.

  1. It kept them listening
  2. It sharpened their Bible reference skills
  3. It kept them interested in what was happening during the service
  4. It kept them out of trouble (for the most part)

What’s funny is that this friendly competition often continues when one of the girls is home.  We just can’t help ourselves!  So if you see us in our seat elbowing one another, you’ll know that we’re not angry, there’s just a long-standing competition going on!

What tactics did/do you use to keep your children attentive in church?

From my parsonage window,

Marriage

The Best Gift for a Husband

I have a husband that loves cars.  He doesn’t spend money on them, but he’s always looking at them on the road.  He listens to the quiet hum of their motors.  He admires the sleekness of the body and the speed as one passes our family car.  As much as I know my husband would love it if I bought him a Mustang, I gave him something this weekend I know he loved even more.  All it cost me was my pride.

We  had the privilege of going to a couples’ retreat last Friday through Sunday.  We heard good preaching about forgiveness.  When I first heard the topic of the messages, I had a thought of relief, you know, like – “Oh good.  This isn’t going to be an issue for us.  We’re up to date with all offences.”  Do you know that feeling of relief that I’m referring to?  It kind of takes you off the hook.  At least I thought I was.

We were given time to be alone with one another and the Lord after the preaching session, so that issues could be handled.  When my sweet mate lovingly told me that in a certain scenario, in my desire to help him, he feels I’m mothering him, my heart wanted to argue his honesty.  “I’m only looking out for you.  I want to help you.” was my reply.   It stung.  I didn’t like it, but it was the truth.  I was doing to him what a mother would do to her child.  That is not my role.  I am his wife – not his mother.

I have to admit that it took the next session at the conference for the Lord to speak to me and tell me what to do to get it right.  Immediately after the session, I asked if we could go outside and talk.  When we stopped, I looked at my husband and said,
 “I need to tell you that I won’t mother you in this any more. I’m truly sorry. If you need my help, will you just let me know?” 
I’m not sure I’ve ever seen such tenderness in my husband’s eyes. My simple response to his honesty touched his heart so deeply.

 “Yes, I will” he replied. “Thank you.  You don’t know how much I love you.” 

Oh yes, I do, and I know I am blessed.

 I was reminded of two truths from this:

  1. All a husband really wants is the respect of his wife. 
  2. Her respect will do more for him than anything else in this world.

The good news is, I was going to buy him a Mustang, and now I know I don’t need to!  Just kidding!  I am  pretty sure, however, that he would tell me my respect is what he’d rather have any ol’ day! 

Have you given your husband the gift of your respect?  It’s all he really wants.

With love,

dessert · main dish

What’s Cookin’ in the Parsonage?

Meals at home are a quick and fresh tasting option from fast food. Even when there’s little time, there are lots of options for good food in your own kitchen.  Filet chicken pieces are a great choice for quick-fix meals.  Here’s a great example…

I found a recipe for a quick-cooking chicken dish that is broiled in the oven, then covered with sauteed’ vegetables.  Hubby loved this!  He and I are Jack Sprat and his wife – he eats white meat; I like dark meat, so when I do a dish like this, I make a piece for each of us.  I buy boneless thighs at Ingles when I make this recipe.  For a Sunday dinner, cook the chicken on Saturday, then saute’ the veggies when you get home from church.  That way they’ll be crisp and not mushy.  Here’s the recipe:

Broiled Chicken Breasts with Vegetable Saute’

1 tsp garlic powder
1/2 tsp salt, divided
1/4 tsp black pepper, divided
4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves – or thighs
Cooking spray
1 T olive oil
1 8oz. pkg  mushrooms, sliced
1 small zucchini, sliced
1 cup chopped plum tomato
1/2 cup chopped red onion
1/2 cup chopped fresh basil
4 tsp balsamic vinegar
1/4 Cup grated fresh Parmesan cheese

1.  Preheat broiler
2.  Combine Garlic powder, 1/8 tsp salt, and 1/4 tsp pepper in  a small bowl; sprinkle chicken with garlic mixture.  Place chicken on a broiler pan coated with cooking spray, and broil 6 minutes on each side or until done.  Remove chicken from pan; keep warm.  **Or at this point refrigerate it until you’re making the rest of the meal the next day.
3.  Heat olive oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium high heat.  Add remaining 1/4 tsp salt, mushrooms, zucchini, and minced garlic; saute’ 2 minutes.  Add remaining 1/8 tsp pepper, tomato, onion, basil and vinegar; saute’ 3 minutes.  Serve vegetable mixture over chicken; sprinkle with cheese. 

I made dessert for this meal – Warm Gingerbread.  This recipe brings back childhood memories for me.  My mom used to make gingerbread and serve it with a dollop of Cool Whip on top.  I can still remember the pan she used to bake it in.  This is a great fall or winter dessert, and with less than 300 calories and 6.5 grams of fat, you can’t go wrong!  Here’s my recipe for Gingerbread Cake with Lemon Glaze from Cooking Light.

1/3 cup butter, cut into small pieces
2/3 cup hot water
1 cup light or dark molasses
1 large egg
2 3/4 cups all-purpose flour
1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
1 1/2 teaspoons ground ginger
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
 Cooking spray
1 1/2 cups powdered sugar
6 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
1 cup frozen reduced-fat whipped topping, thawed
Ground cinnamon (optional)

Preparation

Preheat oven to 350°.

Combine butter and hot water in a large bowl, stirring with a whisk until the butter melts. Add molasses and egg, and stir with a whisk until blended. Lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups, and level with a knife. Combine flour, baking soda, ginger, cinnamon, salt, and cloves. Add flour mixture to the molasses mixture, stirring just until moist.

Spoon batter into a 9 x 9-inch cake pan coated with cooking spray. Bake at 350° for 30 minutes or until a wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool gingerbread in the pan on a wire rack for 15 minutes.

Combine sugar and lemon juice, stirring until well blended. Pierce top of gingerbread liberally with a wooden skewer. Pour glaze over gingerbread. Cool completely.

Top each serving with the whipped topping. Sprinkle gingerbread with cinnamon and garnish with lemon slices, if desired.

Take the time to cook in your kitchen this week…and why not go for dessert too?  Make some memories!  Tell me, what’s been cooking in your kitchen lately?

From my parsonage kitchen,

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Freshen Up Friday

Some days when I’m at the grocery store I enjoy meandering and just looking at the other things that aren’t on my list.  I look at the gourmet food section, the stationery, cards, books, fresh flowers, exotic fruits, jellies and jams, all the ice cream flavors in the freezer…you get the picture.

Everyone has to go grocery shopping, and sometimes it can be less than my favorite job.  Want a way to refresh this mundane task?  How about looking for a $5 splurge to spend on something you love?  We all have a budget for groceries, and have to stick with that, but every now and then it’s fun to splurge just a little – even at the grocery store.  And you know what?  It’s really okay.  What little splurge would you enjoy?  Why not treat yourself to a $5 splurge the next time you go to the grocery?  It could buy something really special.  How about…

  • A bouquet of daisies. You might even have a dollar or so left over!
  • A small bottle of good Olive Oil
  • A block of specialty cheese
  • A crafting or decorating magazine
  • A special card to send to a friend
  • A package of seasonal paper napkins
  • A gourmet coffee – okay, $5 would only buy 1/2 or 1/3 of a pound, but still…
  • A couple new flavors of coffee creamer
  • A fall mum

Yesterday at our local Ingles store, I saw all of the above.  I didn’t do my splurge yet…but I will!
What would you buy if you could splurge $5?  I’d love to hear!

See you in church Sunday!

Be refreshed,