Family life · God's Will · Home making

Maytag, Messes and Meals

I have never built a home, yet I am a home builder. That doesn’t make sense? It’s true! As a matter of fact, if you live in a home with at least one other person, you are a home-builder, too.

Every wise woman builds her house,

but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.

Proverbs 14:1

That verse reminds us that we are either building up or tearing down.

Recently I have had a couple of conversations about what is expected as far as the condition of our homes. Women have wondered,

Does it really matter that my home is a mess?”
“How clean and orderly does a home really need to be?


The first place we run to for answers to these questions and for our building instructions is the Giver of the home…our loving God!

Titus 2 tells us…

3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home,


Wise home-building ALL starts with the condition of our heart. The verse above said, The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness. That simply means our behavior should mirror sacred character. You and I as home-builders should reflect the character of our God. That means…

  • We must spend time with the Lord in His Word so we will know Him. We must spend more time with Him than we do the world’s influence!
  • We must spend time in prayer so we will have the same heart for our home that He has for it! As we pray for those in our home, God can give us insight and wisdom about their needs that we would never understand otherwise.
  • We must have a heart of praise to the Giver of the home. Yes, praise Him for the laundry, the spilled milk and yet another meal we have to prepare. Let’s put it this way,

    We should praise God for Maytag, messes and meals!

    They all are from the Lord and He only gives good gifts!

It’s then that we build under God’s influence and guidance and we truly have a right heart for the home He has given us. Otherwise we will be confused by all the ideas the world shouts in our ears.

So my fellow home builders, make sure your heart is in the right place. Have a heart for your home. If you’re struggling with that, tell the Lord. Ask Him to give you His heart for this ministry. He will. His Word reminds us…

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. Psalm 127:1

You won’t be building and working with empty results! You’re going to see progress and blessing – yes, even with your Maytag, messes and meals!

If you could ask an older woman for help in one area of your home, where would it be?

Refresh your heart about your home-building!

God's Will · Proverbs

God’s Bulldozer

Can you think of a time that you were desperate to know God’s will?  I remember scenarios such as

my senior year of high school,

plans for college,

the matter of marriage,

where my husband would pastor,

a teaching job that I was offered,

opportunities to serve the Lord…

and on an on the situations go in which I needed to know what God wanted me to do.

Knowing God’s will seems so foggy.  I often wished the Lord would just write it in the Continue reading “God’s Bulldozer”

God's Will · Prayer

Make the Connections

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I’ll never forget the memory of riding in the car with my sisters and parents when I was a child. My parents were in the front seat of the car on our way to or from errands, and my two sisters and myself were seated in the backseat.  We took turns sitting on “the hump,” as we called it.  It was the middle seat, the one not quite as comfortable as the other two, but a seat, nonetheless.  As we traveled through town, one of us might speak up and ask where we were going, or perhaps request a stop at an ice cream place or White Castle Burgers.  Then as my dad drove, we were watchful.  We knew that if he turned his blinker on to go that direction, we were headed for a frozen treat.  If he turned that way we were stopping for lunch at White Castle, and if he stayed this way we were headed home – perhaps to something even better!  After we asked, we learned to watch our father’s movements – a turn on of the blinker or a change into a turning lane, to see the fulfillment of our request!  How wonderful it was to anticipate what he was going to do, then many times see him fulfill our greatest desire.  He was usually silent about the plan, but we knew He loved us and would make a right choice, based on that love.

When you and I go before the Lord, we need to do the very same thing.  After we have prayed and placed our requests before the Lord, we must get up off our knees, and connect the things that happen next with what we have just prayed.  We need to be on the lookout for God’s movements. Sometimes He makes a turn; connect it – He has a different plan.  Sometimes He turns things in the direction we were praying; it’s a fulfilled plan.  Then other times He is silent; and we must wait and trust.

All the while, we need to keep praying, and then connecting what happens next, if we truly want His will.  It may take us a direction we hadn’t planned, but He is our Father,  He loves us, and He will do what is right, based on that love.

As you have connected the next thing that happens after you pray, what have you seen the Lord do?