Recently in the late hours of the night, while a subdivision of residents was fast asleep, a thief entered the quiet of the street and began making his way up driveways looking for unlocked cars. All he was interested in was cash, and any he found was taken.
What the thief didn’t know was that a security camera was right on him, taking footage of his sinful deeds. Aside from seeing him enter unlocked cars, one thing noted on the security tape was that when he approached one vehicle that was locked, he simply moved away from it. There was no attempt at breaking in. The security of the car door locks, kept him from taking what was not his.
As I thought about the crime, the Lord brought a truth to my mind about my marriage. No one can steal away from our relationship unless we leave areas unlocked. So then, we must check to be sure that we’re keeping our marriage safe. Here are some security locks that need to be checked regularly:
- Keep your marriage vows.
- Love is a choice, not a feeling. If you’re not “feeling it,” pray and ask God to help you love your husband – He will. Keep praying about it and don’t quit!
- Love him thoroughly, the way you want to be loved. Accept him and don’t have any expectations of what he should be or should do. Would you and I want to be held to our husband’s list of expectations? We must accept him in the same way.
- Love him physically. Don’t withhold your physical love as punishment. Doing so could cause ramifications that could cause the thief to come in and steal what is supposed to be only yours.
- This is the same as respect. A husband doesn’t earn it as the world says he must – you give it because God commands you to. Eph 5:33 Honor him as unto the Lord, or as you would the Lord! Your words, your reactions, your decisions – your whole married life is to show the man you married honor – the highest esteem.
- He has ultimate leadership for your home. Whether you like his decision or disagree, God says the husband is the head, and unless what he is asking is sinful, then you must come under his authority. Period.
- ‘Til death do you part
- Never should we use the word, “Divorce.” Nor should we threaten to leave. Marriage is for a lifetime. Considering divorce is leaving an open door for the right situation to enter so we have an out. (I realize divorce for fornication is allowed, but often lesser things cause those words to be spoken.)
So, how secure is your marriage? Are you leaving an unlocked door in any of the areas above? There are many other safeties we could discuss, but I believe if we’re honoring our marriage vows, most of the other scenarios will be safe from danger.
Marriage is a gift from God that is a beautiful picture of our relationship with Christ. He keeps us secure for eternity. I’m pretty sure I know a subdivision of people who will now be locking their car doors at night. Don’t you wait until the thief comes to steal from your marriage before you do what is wise! Keep it secure all the days of our life, “so long as you both shall live.”
Happy Easter! Rejoice; He is risen, and that makes a difference in every area of life – even your marriage!