After a two-day trip away, my husband returned home. It was a snowy, wet night, and because the garage was full with two cars inside – mine and our daughter’s, he parked in the slushy driveway and stepped inside. His shoes dripped with the remains of the winter weather, so he stepped across the hardwood floor onto the dining room rug…the “pretty” rug meant for covering the floor, but not necessarily for wiping wet feet. I inwardly cringed, then asked,
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Family Times Around the Table
You read the title correctly, we made family memories, not going around the globe, but gathered around the table. We had the blessing as a family to enjoy our third annual HamFamVacay! That simply means, Cunningham Family Vacation. We spent three nights in Sevierville, TN over the Labor Day weekend. We stayed at a Wyndham resort again. We were a little crowded in our two bedroom space, but everyone made concessions for one another, and we made it work just fine (we like each other!). Who could complain with a view like this…

Four Lies You May Be Believing About Your Family

One lovely evening we invited friends to come over after church. We sat around our fire pit watching the flames spit embers upwards and the smoke billow into the night sky. Then to get the group talking, my husband suggested we play a game called, Two Truths and a Lie. Each person has to come up with two truths about themselves that others might not know, and then throw a lie in there somewhere. We were to guess which one was the lie. Do you know what the hardest part of that game is?
It’s not hard to come up with a lie – it’s difficult to come up with two truths to share!!!!
Not only is that true in a game – it’s also true in real life! It’s just easier for us to listen to a lie than for us to listen to (and believe) the truth!
After our game was over, the fire put out, and my week got started, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve encountered someone believing a lie in their life! Could you identify one you might be believing about your family? There are many, but here are four lies I think are running rampant in our homes:
- This marriage is a mistake.
- Things will never change.
- My child will go through the typical phases (like terrible two’s and teen rebellion).
- This stage of life is going to last forever!
Let’s counteract those lies with Truth:
- This marriage is a mistake. Once you said, “I do,” you marriage became a covenant between you and your spouse and God. No matter the situation and happenings before you got married, God doesn’t want you to ditch this marriage – this covenant after you pledged your life and love! He wants you to stay married and display the Gospel – Forgiveness, mercy, and grace. When we promise to love ’til death, God desires we allow Him to work in our marriage because it IS His will.
So today –Commit yourself to this marriage and stop thinking about what it would be like to be with someone else, or in another circumstance. Pour yourself into this marriage like it was the first day you were married. Make a difference in your husband’s life today!Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (separate). - Things will never change. The previous truth about marriage isn’t meant to make you feel hopeless. To say, “Things will never change” is to doubt an omnipotent God! He is able to do MORE than we can ask or think. As long as you are living – there is hope, because God is also alive and on the Throne!
So today – Trust Him to answer and intervene in your life! Keep praying, believing and watching for what an all-powerful God can do!
Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible. - My child will go through all the typical phases. Your child was uniquely designed and created. They were born with an old sin nature that will need to be dealt with. A strong-willed child needs a different kind of approach than a child who is withdrawn. But with biblical guidance and prayer, they could completely bypass those “expected” kinds of behavior. Every child has a will and when that will is bent towards Christ and obedience at an early age, they won’t be little angels, but could avoid much heartache they could cause for themselves.
So today – Train your child in God’s Word and ways. Surround them with godly people, biblical discipline and teaching, places and activities that will be the Truth their young heart needs.
II Timothy 3:15 And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. - This stage of life is going to last forever! I know that when you’re changing diapers, chasing toddlers all day, caring for an elderly parent, or dealing with a hard season in your marriage, you think it’s never going to end, but I’m here to tell you there will could be day when you will look back and realize how quickly the time passed!
Think back to something you did two years ago. Perhaps it was a significant birthday, a special vacation or a wedding. Doesn’t that seem like FOREVER ago? Life is fleeting. Children grow up. Changes smooth out eventually. So what do we need to do? Learn to enjoy today. Look for the blessing in the opportunity before you.
When my mother-in-law had lung cancer, I cared for her in Hospice care in our home. During those long days, I was exhausted and felt very overwhelmed and wondered how I could keep going. But in six very short weeks, she was in heaven and I was thankful for each day we got to care for her and spend time with her. I look back on that time and it seems so short! I don’t remember the hard things nearly like I remember the blessings! I remember reading Randy Alcorn’s book, Heaven to my mother-in-law. I remember the night my husband and I got to go to a Bed and breakfast for a night away to rest in the middle of this time, and I remember the blessing of friends who helped by bringing meals, and came and sat with her so I could attend church. Nothing on this earth lasts forever.
So today – In the midst of long work hours that your husband is pulling, leaving you alone, or while you’re waiting for God to bring you a spouse, or while you’re cleaning up chocolate milk from the walls and floors, look up and find something for which you can be thankful! Look for the blessings and keep a mind on the truth that the clock is ticking! Remember, too, that Christ could come at any moment and it will ALL be over, and forever more we’ll be rejoicing!
James 4:14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.
Thinking the Truth takes intentional effort. Keep your heart focused on that which is right. As Jesus said, The truth will set you free!
Refresh yourself with truth about your family,

Happy Imperfections

I’ll never forget the day we moved into our country home where we are now. It had just been finished being built! We were moving into our very first brand new house!
It was surreal.
I wasn’t moving into someone else’s mess or used home that needed work – this one was new and perfect!
We had many strong men helping us on move-in day lifting, carrying and lugging all our possessions into our new abode. One kind man set down a box in my kitchen and I began to slide it closer to the place where it would be unpacked. His response echoes in my ears even today:
These hardwood floors will scratch up even by a box being slid across them; you better lift that instead.
I followed his wise advice, fearful of causing some imperfection to come to my new and perfect home.
Those words guided the careful application of pads to every chair, table, foot stool, and anything else that was going to be rubbing across the hardwood. I couldn’t stand the thought of a scratch ruining the looks of my perfect kitchen, hallway or living room.
But alas and alack, over the four years that we have been here, it has happened. What would that man say if he could see where a can of green beans fell in my pantry and dented the floor there on a day when I was preparing a meal? Or the heels that have walked across the planks causing scratches, or the other little nicks and bumps that have happened just because people live here, visit here, eat here, spill here, and do life here?

Perfection isn’t a word that would describe my home, but I’m good with that now. I’ve come to see those scratches as reminders that people are more important than my perfect standard. If we lived here alone there would be far less imperfections, but oh, the blessings of belly laughs, happy shedding of tears, playful frolic, nurturing visits, prayerful conversations and loving of souls that we would have missed!
Thank you, sir, for your good advice. I’m grateful you shared that with me – I really am. I’ll keep the pads in place and care for my home as a gift from the Lord, but when the marks are added to the hardwood, fingerprints to the glass, or smudges on the walls, I can smile instead of grimace at the happy remembrance of the people that have helped make memories – not imperfections.
Last week when I mopped the floor, I saw a scuff on the floor and started to sigh, but then was reminded of the truths that God has been teaching me about living more for people than perfection. Instead of sighing, with every stroke of that Swiffer, I thanked God – by name – for the different people who had been in our home. It made my heart so happy – happy for my perfectly wonderful memories made in my imperfect home.
Do you ever get caught up in wanting your home to look perfect, and feel frustrated that it isn’t? People are more important. Look at the people, instead of the imperfections, and you’ll have the freedom to use your home to glorify God!
Refresh your heart about your home.

The Healer of the Family

This coming Wednesday in Pioneer Club I get the joy of teaching a Bible lesson I’m not sure I’ve ever taught. As I’ve pondered this Bible passage, I’ve realized how important this little two-verse story is! It’s the story of Simon Peter’s mother-in-law being sick with a fever.
But Simon’s wife’s mother lay sick of a fever, and anon they tell him of her.
.And he came and took her by the hand, and lifted her up; and immediately the fever left her, and she ministered unto them.
Mark 1:30-31
So why would this be in the Scriptures? Why should we tell the children this story? Why do you and I need to read it? I believe it’s because it speaks volumes about the care we should have for our family. Just as this family looked after the needs of this mother who was sick, we need to put the same kind of efforts into our family relationships.
- They loved her.
- They wanted to do the best thing for her.
- They got the best care for her needs.
- She showed her gratitude by serving.
It’s so simple, yet so powerful a message of family life as God intended it.
Loving, caring, giving, gratitude – all attributes every Christian family should have.
But so many homes today are filled with fighting and bickering, bitterness and grudges. The thermostat in the home is set at the high temperature of STRIFE. Heated discussions., sassy children, and hot words of anger fill the rooms instead of love, forgiveness and kind deeds.
James 3:16 says,
For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.
Confusion.
Every evil work.
Is that what we want inside our home? If we allow strife, that’s what we will get.
I have a sad memory from years ago of a grieving family who were at the casket of their mother. She was now in heaven, and the family knew there were bitter feelings they had never reconciled. This family had “solved” problems with shouting matches, that of course did no good. Now their mother was deceased, and their hearts were hurting, filled with regret, and sorry they hadn’t taken care of it before she closed her eyes in death.
Standing at the grave of a loved one is not the time to make peace. It’s today. Don’t let strife and confusion and every evil work typify your family. Instead, allow your relations to enjoy the forgiveness you received at the cross. Life is too short and family is too precious.
Let’s be like Simon Peter and lovingly go get the best help we can for our family – let’s run and find Jesus! We must bring Him in on each situation and problem. We must care for the needs of our parents, siblings, and children, forgetting our own.
Does your family have a need? It can be met in Jesus.
(Tomorrow will be continuation of this post.)
