In a favorite episode of Andy Griffith, Aunt Bea goes out of town for a few days. While she’s away, Andy and Opie TRASH the house while living their bachelor days in her absence. When Andy tries to make Opie understand that their mess might be upsetting to Aunt Bea, Opie recalls the words he’s heard his great aunt say, and what he thought she might say when she returns to find the disaster –
Land sakes alive! Look at this mess; just look at it! If it weren’t for me, this house wouldn’t be fit to live in!
Most wives can probably relate in some way to that scenario. We dust, shine, mop, vacuum, and pick up – only to have to do it all again after the family has “lived” in it for a day!
But then we add into our busy worlds one word – HOLIDAYS -and we find ourselves with even more responsibilities than Dollywood has Christmas lights! It can be really easy to fall into the “Aunt Bea” mode and mumble under our breath and complain about the holiday tasks that fall into our already full laps.
Our mumbling might include statements like:
I have to shop for the gifts, purchase the gifts and wrap them.
If I don’t schedule a time for our annual Christmas card picture, it never would happen! Then I have to address the cards, seal them. and get them to the Post office.
I have eight different kinds of cookies to bake because everyone will expect them, and of course no one helps make them or clean up the mess, but they sure are there to eat them!
Then, of course, I have to buy the gifts and wrap the gifts!
If I left the tree decorating to my family it never would get done either!
Let’s face it – the whole Christmas celebration is up to me and I’m about worn out!!!!
It’s about that time that you can hear, instead of words, the honking sound, like Snoopy’s teacher:
No one wants to listen because of the terrible “sqwaking” that’s coming from our lips.
How do I know?
I’ve been there.
I was wrong.
Okay, so much of the doing of Christmas is up to us as the female in the home, but the attitude and heart with which it is done can make it either sweet or spoiled. How might we spoil it?
- Negative talk about our husband. This is simply wrong. He is the head of the home and is to be honored. Eph 5:33 Would we rather take on that responsibility? I wouldn’t! That’s a load every single day – not just at Christmas. Let’s let our husband lead, and let’s you and I help make him the best leader by lending a hand with all our feminine ways. That includes:
2. Not doing our work to glorify God. I Cor. 10:31 If we work ourselves to death and do it with a wrong attitude we shouldn’t be expected to be rewarded in heaven. We got our reward – everyone’s pity (and maybe their distance from us, too!). Let’s do all we do as unto the Lord. Oh, that we would make our efforts like the precious gifts brought to the Christ child by the wise kings!
3. Having an ungrateful heart. A thankful spirit will be grateful for the:
- Family we have to serve – I know some wives who have gone to heaven this past year. Their families will be missing them this Christmas. You and I are here; let’s make our families glad!
- Health with which we can serve – This can be taken in an instant. Be thankful you can walk, work, and think!
- Provision for the cards, gifts and foods to prepare – Everything we have is a gift from God, and we have far more than most!
- Reason we are celebrating!!! Don’t lose the focus of this celebration; it’s all about Christ!
Maybe we need to do as I suggested yesterday and simplify our Christmas; make it a little easier on ourselves! Our families would probably be fine with a little less decor, baked goods and gifts if it would mean we are sweeter and more fun to be near!
Have you been muttering under your breath? Ask God to forgive you, then when you get up off your knees, ask your family’s forgiveness, too. Start the day over with
- No more husband bashing,
- Work that glorifies God.
- A thankful heart.
Watch and see what a difference it will make in your Christmas preparations!
Who’s with me?