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Family Friday – Be Kind!

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Sometimes all it takes is a simple request to repeat what I just said to my husband that will do it.  I make a statement, he doesn’t hear and he says,

“What did you say?”

So, out it comes again, only this time it has a razor-sharp edge to it that would make Floyd the barber flinch!

Do I think he purposefully cannot hear me?  Do I really believe his diagnosis of hearing loss was an intentional  plan just to get under my skin?

How ridiculous, yet, sadly, that’s occasionally how I respond!

Why is it often easier to be really kind to people we barely even know than to our spouse?  He’s the one to whom we pledged to love until death, yet we kill him with our sarcastic responses, glaring looks and deathly silences.

 

There are kinder, nice ways of saying something and there are words or tones of voice that I could use that would upset someone.  Your husband is a person, too.  There are kinder, nicer ways of communicating with him and there are ways of setting him off, just by your choice of words or tone of voice.

Today’s encouragement for your family, your marriage, is just this –

Be Kind.

  • There are two ways to say something.  Choose the kinder way.
  • Show him even greater kindness than you would a friend who you love dearly.
  • Smile at him.
  • Forgive him.
  • Listen.
  • Look in his eyes when he speaks.
  • Lend him a hand.
  • Do a favor.
  • Oh, and repeat yourself with the softest tone when he cannot hear you (said Denise to herself!)

Do you find yourself being kinder to others than you are your spouse?  What will you do today to fix that?

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Christian Life · God's character · Godly Character Traits · trials

Jesus Sees You

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The picture above is Mt. Arbel in Israel.  We had the privilege to drive up most of the way, then hike up to a high point when we were there recently.  As you can see, the views are incredible.  As I stood looking out towards the Sea of Galilee, my mind went to the passage in Mark 6 –

45 And straightway he constrained his disciples to get into the ship, and to go to the other side before unto Bethsaida, while he sent away the people.

46 And when he had sent them away, he departed into a mountain to pray.

47 And when even was come, the ship was in the midst of the sea, and he alone on the land.

We don’t know what mountain Jesus went to to pray, but it could have been this one.  I pictured Jesus coming up to a place like this to talk to His Father, perhaps about the miraculous feeding of the 5,000 that had just taken place, and then also praying for the disciples, who were at that time out in the boat, getting ready to encounter a storm.

No matter if it was this mountain or another, Jesus could see them because He is God.  He knew they were rowing as it says in verse 48 –

And he saw them toiling in rowing; for the wind was contrary unto them:

Last week when I was on Mt. Arbel, I could see the water, but it was too far away for me to see people and they certainly couldn’t see me.  When the disciples were on the Sea of Galilee, they couldn’t see Jesus.  I wonder if they asked themselves where Jesus was?  Did anyone say, “Why didn’t He come with us?!”  It doesn’t matter, because

He saw them.  

He cared about their storm.

He came near.

When He came, He revealed Himself as Who He was – the One who had power over the storm.  He was the only One that could help them and He did, at just the right moment.

Do you feel today as though you’re in a storm-tossed boat?  Are you wondering where Jesus is?   Are you wondering if He’s forgotten you?  He hasn’t!  He cannot!  He is God.  He sees, He cares, and He is nearer than you even understand.

And immediately he talked with them, and saith unto them, Be of good cheer: it is I; be not afraid.

51 And he went up unto them into the ship; and the wind ceased: and they were sore amazed in themselves beyond measure…

Jesus comforted the disciples with His voice.  He encouraged them by telling them He was there.  You have His Word on it too – Hebrews 13:5  I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. See also  Isaiah 43:2 Joshua 1:9.

The world and your flesh may say that Jesus doesn’t care, but you must turn a deaf ear, and listen to the Truth of His Word instead.

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Acknowledge His presence and watch to see what He will do as the God Who is able to do exceeding, abundantly above what you may ask or think.

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Traveling

Staying Organized On a Trip

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Digging through a suitcase looking for a belt, or your facial wipes, or your contact case is not the way to end a long day of travel!  When I began packing for Israel, I carefully loaded my carry-on and my one large suitcase so that I would be able to find everything easily and so that everything would be ready to use and wear.  I never had to search or dig for one thing the whole time I was gone!  Here’s how I did it:

 

  1. I packed minimally.  Not that I didn’t have a full suitcase – I did, but I had clothes that would coordinate and I could wear the tops and pants interchangeably.
  2. Before I packed, I laid the outfits on my bed and took pictures of them so I could get dressed quickly each day.  All I had to do was look at my photos and I knew what I needed to pull out of the suitcase.
  3. After packing, I made an inventory list of each item and exactly where it was located. For example, Front Zipper of Large suitcase – Leopard shoes, Face wipes.

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Then to stay organized on the plane ride, I had a medium sized drawstring bag in my carry-on.  After going through security, I filled that bag with what I needed for the night flight.  I put in these items:

  1. Glasses
  2. Contact Solution and case
  3. Makeup bag with a little makeup and some meds
  4. Comb
  5. Toothbrush
  6. Hair spray
  7. Ear buds and Ipod
  8. Flannel Scarf (used as a blanket)
  9. Small flashlight
  10. Snacks

This bag was tucked into the pocket of the plane seat, right in front of me.  It made getting to those items very simple.

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Extra Packing Tips:

  • To keep clothes fresh in the suitcase, put a couple of dryer sheets in-between the clothes.  During the second week when I reached that part of my clothing, they smelled sooooo good!  This was a really great tip!
  • If you have room, tuck in a small blanket from home.  Being in another country for 12 days can make you feel a bit homesick, but having a comfort from home like a soft blanket, is a blessing!  Sometimes the heavy comforters on the bed was too much, and my blanket was just what I needed, both in weight and for the touch of comfort from home!
  • Packing cubes are great, but I didn’t want to make that investment.  Instead, I put all my tops into a canvas bag, then put that bag in the suitcase.  When I needed  a top, it was easy to just pull out that bag and get one out without disturbing the whole suitcase.
  • Put everything back where it goes when you are finished with it.  Don’t assume you’ll remember where you put it!  Take the time to follow your inventory and return it where it came from!

I haven’t always been able to say that I never lost an item or couldn’t find something I needed while on my trip…until this time!  I did lots of researching and reading before we left, so I could enjoy the trip without the frustration of tearing the suitcase apart looking for something!

I hope this helps you to be more organized the next time you travel!

Tell me what you do to keep yourself sane on a trip!

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Christian Life

Close To God

 

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There is really no feeling like walking in the places where Jesus walked during His life and ministry on this earth.  While I was in Israel this month, I sought to let my mind go back to the times when Jesus walked the same paths I was walking.  As in the picture above, I touched the water he walked on, and imagined His sandaled feet passing over the road where I was stepping.  There’s nothing mystical or magical about it – I think the word would be sobering.  

It sobered me to think that He came.  He left heaven for a life that would be mocked, disbelieved, and misunderstood.

He came to heal, raise to life, provide bread miraculously, to touch, to care, and to love so much that He would be crucified for my sin.

That is a sobering thought that made me love Him even more.

As I walked through the Garden of Gethsemene and saw the Olive trees, I imagined Him praying for the cup He was about to drink while His disciples slept.  As I looked at Golgotha, I envisioned Him dying on the cross.  When I entered the Garden before the tomb, I saw Mary looking for her Lord and I heard Him call her name.

Does it take a miraculous meeting in the Garden to be close to God?  Does it take a trip to Israel to experience the blessing of His nearness? Of course not! Even when I am home in the states, He calls my name as I open His Word, just as He called Mary’s name in the garden.  He speaks to me.  He cares for me.  He provides for me.  He lives for me.

That is a sobering thought that should make us realize that He is near to us every single day as we walk in His Word, as we pray, as we think on Him and invite Him into every situation we face. This very same Jesus lives to change each of our lives!

Acts 1:11 Which also said, Ye men of Galilee, why stand ye gazing up into heaven? this same Jesus, which is taken up from you into heaven, shall so come in like manner as ye have seen him go into heaven.

Even if you never travel to Israel, He longs to be close to you, Friend.  Open His Word.  Talk to Him.  He is right there with you.  You don’t need an experience, all you need is a relationship with Him.

(Go here and click on “you can have a relationship with God.”)

This same Jesus wants to walk and talk with you today.  Are you listening?

When do you feel closest to God?

Lovingly,

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Traveling

(L)Oven Monday – Enjoying Food in Israel

Hello Friends and Happy Monday!  I returned this past Friday from a two-week trip to Israel!  This was our second time to visit and tour this beloved land, and it was incredible!  I feel like a little more light of understanding was able to peek into my mind and heart, giving  me an even greater love for my God and His Word!

Since I was away, I haven’t had anything going on in my oven, but I thought I’d share a little of my food diary from our trip to the Middle East.  The food there is good, just different.  The places where we stayed tended to have the same kind of foods available, with a few exceptions.  Let me give you a visual of what we ate:

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There was always a buffet for breakfast and supper at the places we stayed.  Believe it or not, you will always see a salad bar at breakfast time.  They have lots of wonderful cheeses, spreads, olives, and greens, vegetables and other salads made up.

That wasn’t exactly my style for the first meal of the day, so I usually had some type of egg.  Most places offered  an egg station where they would make you a fried egg, scrambled egg, or omelet.  It was important to get protein for the long days of hiking and traversing, so I usually always had an egg of some sort.  Often there were egg casseroles, as well.

There is no bacon, but there is fish, and I learned that pickled Herring is really good, plus it’s another source of protein!  It’s surprisingly good with breakfast!

The produce there is amazingly fresh and delicious!  Their avocados were huge and delicious, and made a great accompaniment to the eggs! I had an orange almost every day- they were so flavorful!

Coffee was a “Cappuccino,” unsweetened, but made from a real cappuccino machine, it had frothy milk and caffeine. I just added artificial sweetener and it was perfect!

Lunchtime didn’t offer a great deal of variety.  We usually heard that there were two choices – Falafel and Schnitzel.  Here they are:

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In case you’re not familiar with falafel, it is made up of pureed chick peas and herbs and deep fried.  It’s usually served in a pita bread and accompanied by lettuce, salad and sweet peppers.  Sometimes there is a Tahini Sauce to add, which is made from Tahini paste (Middle Eastern sesame paste), lemon juice, olive oil and a few spices.

The other choice is Schnitzel (bottom right picture), which can be made from chicken, pork or veal.  It is pounded thinly and fried and served the same as the falafel.

One day we were offered a “Quesadilla” – a large “tortilla” spread with goat cheese and herbs and olive oil and grilled (Top right picture).  It was good and a nice change.  We found out that the herbs that are spread on each of the lunch choices really didn’t settle well, so we opted out of lunch most days, eating the snacks we had taken with us.

The other choice that was on a menu board was a “cheese stick.”  It wasn’t really flavorful, but the cappuccino that accompanied it made up for its lack of taste!

Now for supper in Israel:

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There was always an incredible choice of salad options.  I loved the olives, cucumbers and peppers added into my lettuce.  Also, the olive oil and vinegar option for dressing was a light way to enjoy the salad.

Bread and hummus were present always, as well as a variety of hot dishes with meat or fish.  Rice, Couscous and potatoes were sides offered.  Then the desserts were many and delicious.  Thankfully, they were small portions, so you could try a few different ones without feeling too guilty!

So, we definitely didn’t starve, but at the same time, do you know how good a Longhorn steak and baked potato tasted the night we returned??!!!!  My taste buds love the American cuisine!  I look forward to stirring up some things in my kitchen and warming up my oven for some of our favorite dishes this next week!

Have you traveled outside of the US?  What foods did you love?

Happy to be home!

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