Pastor's Wife

A Peek From My Porch

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Last weekend I had the privilege of speaking at a Pastor’s Wives retreat on Roan Mountain. There were 15 of us there; a perfect size group to fellowship and have our hearts knit together. As you already know, pastor’s wives are far from perfect! Though people often have really high expectations for their pastor’s wife, we are all just like you with the same struggles and challenges in both our spiritual lives and day to day relationships and activities.

Some of the ladies came with cool hearts due to not being in the Word of God on a personal basis each day. Does that shock you? While it may be disappointing, we have to remember that it’s just as much a challenge to be faithful in their daily Christian walk as it is for you. The purpose of this retreat was to get back to where they needed to be. Praise the Lord, I think there were several that have determined to change their priorities and make it a daily habit to spend time with the Lord each day.

A couple other women admitted after a session on marriage relationships, that their marriages were weak and had some struggles. Changes needed to be made there. Praise the Lord for hope and Truth to help from the Word of God!

Retreating is what we all need to do from time to time so that we might take a little inventory of our lives. We need to look and see where the weakness are and be reminded of the truth! It’s just as easy for pastor’s wives as it is for you to let things slide. We let the things that are best slip by and get lost under the busyness of our crazy lives and schedules. The well-meaning intentions are only memories of what we used to do instead of the best part of our day.

So with that being said, be sure to pray for your pastor’s wife to stay on track. It only takes a matter of days of slacking off to turn a person who was once was on fire for God to now become a smoldering ember. Just keeping it real here, folks. Being a ministry wife is no substitute for a vital relationship with the Lord! I ask your prayers for me and other pastor’s wives you know. Pray that our lives will count for God – not simply as a pastor’s wife, but also as a Child of the King.

Pastor’s Encouragement: Pray that your pastor will be courageous in proclaiming Christ from the pulpit and confident in his use of the Word of God. Ask God to help him preach with insight, transparency, and humility.

Husband Encouragement: Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26 suggests? As you continue in your 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman encourages her husband.

Is your husband a wise man? Does he have a godly perspective that comes from knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for his life and vision for your home? Tell him how much this means to you. If your husband is not walking with God — or perhaps, does not know the Lord — you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God. Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum.

I forgot the challenge yesterday! Sorry!

With love from my country porch,

Christian Life

It’s Done!

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A little peek inside MY kitchen!
(Well, it’s mine and God’s!)

Yesterday was a big day for the Cunningham household, because WE CLOSED ON OUR HOUSE! This was huge because there were little issues that only the Lord could answer – getting the correct paper with the correct insignia on it to the right person at a specific office. Sounds like I made that up, right? Um, nope. It was so detailed it was that ridiculous. We had 30 days from the time we signed the contract for it to close and our mortgage rate not go up. Yesterday was the 30th day!

I had determined that our builder was going to hear at closing my story of how God answered my prayer for a house. Of how He answered in the perfect time and brought us to the perfect house for us. I shared my story and he graciously rejoiced with us.

What details are you looking to the Lord to take care of today? It’s not so hard that it’s beyond His reach, nor is it too simplistic for Him to care about. He is involved and at work, and He will do it in His time so that He will get the glory. Don’t try to figure it out yourself. Keep waiting. Keep trusting. He is at work.

Oh my soul, wait thou only upon God, for my expectation is from Him.  
Psalm 62:5

Bread

What’s Cookin’ in the Country?

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Happy Fall!  The temps yesterday and even the blue sky and fluffy clouds made clear the realization that Fall is here.  It’s time for some pumpkin recipes and comfort foods, don’t you think?  We don’t often think of brunch as a time for comfort foods, but an egg dish full of roasted vegetables is truly comforting and is a perfect start to a cool day!  
 
I recently had a couple friends over for a mid-morning meal- brunch.  It’s the perfect time of day for a filling dish.  I found an Ina Garten recipe –  Roasted Vegetable Frittata that I  wanted to try; this was my opportunity to make it!  Yep, I experimented on guests again!  I don’t do it intentionally, really!

 

My menu:
Roasted Vegetable Frittata
Canadian Bacon
Fresh Fruit
Pumpkin Scones with Berry Butter
Coffee
These scones were soooo yummy!
The Berry Butter that accompanies them is what puts them over the top!
These were a winning recipe on Taste of Home’s site.

 

Pumpkin Scones with Berry Butter Recipe
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Pumpkin Scones
Ingredients:

 

BUTTER:
2 tablespoons dried cranberries
1/2 cup boiling water
1/2 cup butter, softened
3 tablespoons confectioners’ sugar

 

DOUGH:
2-1/4 cups all-purpose flour
1/4 cup packed brown sugar
2 teaspoons baking powder
1-1/2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 cup cold butter, cubed
1 Eggland’s Best Egg
1/2 cup canned pumpkin
1/3 cup 2% milk
2 tablespoons chopped pecans, optional

 

Directions:
For Butter:
Place cranberries in a small bowl; add boiling water. Let stand for 5 minutes; drain and chop. In a small bowl, beat butter until light and fluffy. Add confectioners’ sugar and cranberries; mix well. Cover and refrigerate for at least 1 hour.

 

For Dough:
In a large bowl, combine the flour, brown sugar, baking powder, pie spice, salt and baking soda. Cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. In a small bowl, whisk the egg, pumpkin and milk; add to crumb mixture just until moistened. Stir in pecans if desired.

 

Turn dough onto a floured surface; knead 10 times. Pat into an 8-in. circle. Cut into eight wedges; separate wedges and place on a greased baking sheet.

 

Bake at 400° for 12-15 minutes or until golden brown. Serve warm with berry butter. Yield: 8 scones (about 1/2 cup butter).

 

Roasted Vegetable Fritatta
Ingredients
1 small zucchini, 1-inch-diced
1 red bell pepper, seeded and 1 1/2-inch-diced
1 yellow bell pepper, seeded and 1 1/2-inch-diced
1 red onion, 1 1/2-inch-diced
1/3 cup good olive oil
Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
2 teaspoons minced garlic (2 cloves)
12 extra-large eggs
1 cup half-and-half
1/4 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese
1 tablespoon unsalted butter
1/3 cup chopped scallions, white and green parts (3 scallions)
1/2 cup grated Gruyere cheese

 

Directions
Preheat the oven to 425 degrees.
Place the zucchini, peppers, and onion on a sheet pan. Drizzle with the olive oil, sprinkle with 1 1/2 teaspoons salt and 1/2 teaspoon pepper, and toss well. Bake for 15 minutes. Add the garlic, toss again, and bake for another 15 minutes. Remove from the oven and turn the oven to 350 degrees.

 

Meanwhile, in a large bowl, whisk together the eggs, half-and-half, Parmesan, 1 teaspoon salt, and 1/2 teaspoon pepper.
In a 10-inch ovenproof saute pan, melt the butter and saute the scallions over medium-low heat for 1 minute. Add the roasted vegetables to the pan and toss with the scallions. Pour the egg mixture over the vegetables and cook for 2 minutes over medium-low heat without stirring. Transfer the pan to the oven and bake the frittata for 20 to 30 minutes, until puffed and set in the middle. Sprinkle with the Gruyere and bake for another 3 minutes, until the cheese is just melted. Cut into 6 or 8 wedges and serve hot.

 

Do you enjoy fixing brunch?  What do you serve?

 

Encouragement Challenges:

 

Pastor Encouragement:  Praise God for your pastor’s leadership and pray that he will make godly decisions.  Pray that he will lead with a shepherd’s heart, and that he will always speak the truth in love.

 

Husband Encouragement:  Seek your husband as your life companion. Share the little things and the big news with him first. Make a point to plan time together, whether that’s an outing or time alone together at home. Affirm the ways that he is your best friend and how you are happy God has given him as your life companion.

 

With love from my country kitchen,

Home decor

Freshen Up Friday

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I showed you my entryway on Wednesday’s Peek from my Porch, but at night, it takes on a whole new look.

Here’s what it looks like in the daytime…

But look at it at night…

I added a battery operated twig of bendable lights inside my lantern so I can have a soft light on when my guests come in. It adds so much to the porch when it’s dark outside!

Inside the house you’ll see just inside the door is a nightlight. It’s an adorable little tea cup light, 
but it’s not just pretty; it provides light in the that long hallway when it’s dark AND
it adds a touch of warmth when you enter.

What kind of lights do you have outside? Freshen up your entryway by adding some battery operated ones. Gracious Designs has a battery operated candle that looks like a real flame. You can even put it on a timer! There are tons of these battery operated branches at places like Big lots, Michael’s and TJ Maxx. Why not add some sparkle and ambiance to your front door this fall? It will welcome your family and friends with a touch that says, “We were expecting you! Reminds me of that motel ad – “We’ll leave the light on for you!” It’s welcoming and inviting to see a light at the door. Pull yours out, or be on the lookout for one this weekend and come up with a clever way to add it to your decor.

Pastor’s Encouragement: Pray that your pastor will focus on the Word of God and walk in the fear of the Lord, rather than the fear of man as he prepares his messages. Pray that he will seek to please God rather than men, and pursue holiness rather than the praise of men.

Husband Encouragement: Is your spouse a man of integrity? Is he fair in his dealings with people? Does he understand the meaning of justice? Is he honest in business? Genuine in his faith? Consider all the ways a man can live in integrity, and praise your husband for one of them.

See you in church!

Be refreshed,

Parenting

But I Don’t Like This!

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I have an adorable picture of my kitty, Liza, sitting in front of a door, staring at it, just like the picture above. It was taken just this past weekend. You see, she spends her nights in the laundry room. On Sunday morning, I let her out and then she happily followed me into the bathroom  while I got ready for church. She was delighted to be out of the laundry room and with someone! She purred and could have done a commercial for Happy Cat, until I closed the door to keep her inside. When she realized that she was now behind another closed door, she began meowing, and peeking under the door. Then sat down and stared, as if her gaze alone could magically cause it to open.

What would have happened if I would have let Liza out and then closed the door behind her? Yep, she would have wanted back in. I think it’s called discontentment! It’s one thing in a pet, it’s a whole other monster when it is seen in a child!

Description of a discontented child:
  • If they’re at home, they want to go somewhere.
  • If they’re in the car traveling, they want out.
  • If it’s summer vacation they want to know when school will be back in session.
  • If they’re in school, they begin counting down the days until vacation.
  • If you fix spaghetti, they want hot dogs.
  • If you grill out at the picnic, they want Italian food.
On and on it goes until a parent can be driven to locking themselves in the laundry room with the cat! What is a parent to do?

  1. Stop the child when they begin to complain. Tell them they can say good things about what is happening right now, but if they complain, they may not talk for a certain time limit, say ten minutes. Then they may only speak again if they can do so without complaining. Stick to your guns!
  2. Ask the child to tell you three things they can thank God for about their current situation of  staying home, being in the car, being on vacation, etc.
  3. Have them memorize verses on complaining and thankfulness. Phil. 2:4, I Thess. 5:18, Psalm 100.
  4. Teach songs about thankfulness. If the child starts to complain, have them go to their room and sing your thankfulness song out loud. (They’re spreading their complaints out loud, why not share the song too?!)
No one enjoys being around a complainer. Adults, we need to make sure they’re not hearing complaints from us. The weather, having to go to work, how long the church service lasted…all need to be met with a heart of gratitude that our child can learn from. Let’s set the example!

Do you have a method you use to curtail discontentment?

On to today’s Challenge:

Pastor Encouragement: Pray that your pastor will make wise lifestyle choices in order to protect his health, especially in areas of exercising, eating moderately, and getting sufficient rest. Pray for times of relaxation and renewal to balance the stress of ministry.

Husband Encouragement: Let’s get practical here. Is your husband a good lover? Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage. Realize that your husband wants intimacy with you . . . his desire is toward you.

Thanks for stopping by today!

With love,