Marriage

The Best Gift for a Husband

I have a husband that loves cars.  He doesn’t spend money on them, but he’s always looking at them on the road.  He listens to the quiet hum of their motors.  He admires the sleekness of the body and the speed as one passes our family car.  As much as I know my husband would love it if I bought him a Mustang, I gave him something this weekend I know he loved even more.  All it cost me was my pride.

We  had the privilege of going to a couples’ retreat last Friday through Sunday.  We heard good preaching about forgiveness.  When I first heard the topic of the messages, I had a thought of relief, you know, like – “Oh good.  This isn’t going to be an issue for us.  We’re up to date with all offences.”  Do you know that feeling of relief that I’m referring to?  It kind of takes you off the hook.  At least I thought I was.

We were given time to be alone with one another and the Lord after the preaching session, so that issues could be handled.  When my sweet mate lovingly told me that in a certain scenario, in my desire to help him, he feels I’m mothering him, my heart wanted to argue his honesty.  “I’m only looking out for you.  I want to help you.” was my reply.   It stung.  I didn’t like it, but it was the truth.  I was doing to him what a mother would do to her child.  That is not my role.  I am his wife – not his mother.

I have to admit that it took the next session at the conference for the Lord to speak to me and tell me what to do to get it right.  Immediately after the session, I asked if we could go outside and talk.  When we stopped, I looked at my husband and said,
 “I need to tell you that I won’t mother you in this any more. I’m truly sorry. If you need my help, will you just let me know?” 
I’m not sure I’ve ever seen such tenderness in my husband’s eyes. My simple response to his honesty touched his heart so deeply.

 “Yes, I will” he replied. “Thank you.  You don’t know how much I love you.” 

Oh yes, I do, and I know I am blessed.

 I was reminded of two truths from this:

  1. All a husband really wants is the respect of his wife. 
  2. Her respect will do more for him than anything else in this world.

The good news is, I was going to buy him a Mustang, and now I know I don’t need to!  Just kidding!  I am  pretty sure, however, that he would tell me my respect is what he’d rather have any ol’ day! 

Have you given your husband the gift of your respect?  It’s all he really wants.

With love,

dessert · main dish

What’s Cookin’ in the Parsonage?

Meals at home are a quick and fresh tasting option from fast food. Even when there’s little time, there are lots of options for good food in your own kitchen.  Filet chicken pieces are a great choice for quick-fix meals.  Here’s a great example…

I found a recipe for a quick-cooking chicken dish that is broiled in the oven, then covered with sauteed’ vegetables.  Hubby loved this!  He and I are Jack Sprat and his wife – he eats white meat; I like dark meat, so when I do a dish like this, I make a piece for each of us.  I buy boneless thighs at Ingles when I make this recipe.  For a Sunday dinner, cook the chicken on Saturday, then saute’ the veggies when you get home from church.  That way they’ll be crisp and not mushy.  Here’s the recipe:

Broiled Chicken Breasts with Vegetable Saute’

1 tsp garlic powder
1/2 tsp salt, divided
1/4 tsp black pepper, divided
4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves – or thighs
Cooking spray
1 T olive oil
1 8oz. pkg  mushrooms, sliced
1 small zucchini, sliced
1 cup chopped plum tomato
1/2 cup chopped red onion
1/2 cup chopped fresh basil
4 tsp balsamic vinegar
1/4 Cup grated fresh Parmesan cheese

1.  Preheat broiler
2.  Combine Garlic powder, 1/8 tsp salt, and 1/4 tsp pepper in  a small bowl; sprinkle chicken with garlic mixture.  Place chicken on a broiler pan coated with cooking spray, and broil 6 minutes on each side or until done.  Remove chicken from pan; keep warm.  **Or at this point refrigerate it until you’re making the rest of the meal the next day.
3.  Heat olive oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium high heat.  Add remaining 1/4 tsp salt, mushrooms, zucchini, and minced garlic; saute’ 2 minutes.  Add remaining 1/8 tsp pepper, tomato, onion, basil and vinegar; saute’ 3 minutes.  Serve vegetable mixture over chicken; sprinkle with cheese. 

I made dessert for this meal – Warm Gingerbread.  This recipe brings back childhood memories for me.  My mom used to make gingerbread and serve it with a dollop of Cool Whip on top.  I can still remember the pan she used to bake it in.  This is a great fall or winter dessert, and with less than 300 calories and 6.5 grams of fat, you can’t go wrong!  Here’s my recipe for Gingerbread Cake with Lemon Glaze from Cooking Light.

1/3 cup butter, cut into small pieces
2/3 cup hot water
1 cup light or dark molasses
1 large egg
2 3/4 cups all-purpose flour
1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
1 1/2 teaspoons ground ginger
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
 Cooking spray
1 1/2 cups powdered sugar
6 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
1 cup frozen reduced-fat whipped topping, thawed
Ground cinnamon (optional)

Preparation

Preheat oven to 350°.

Combine butter and hot water in a large bowl, stirring with a whisk until the butter melts. Add molasses and egg, and stir with a whisk until blended. Lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups, and level with a knife. Combine flour, baking soda, ginger, cinnamon, salt, and cloves. Add flour mixture to the molasses mixture, stirring just until moist.

Spoon batter into a 9 x 9-inch cake pan coated with cooking spray. Bake at 350° for 30 minutes or until a wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool gingerbread in the pan on a wire rack for 15 minutes.

Combine sugar and lemon juice, stirring until well blended. Pierce top of gingerbread liberally with a wooden skewer. Pour glaze over gingerbread. Cool completely.

Top each serving with the whipped topping. Sprinkle gingerbread with cinnamon and garnish with lemon slices, if desired.

Take the time to cook in your kitchen this week…and why not go for dessert too?  Make some memories!  Tell me, what’s been cooking in your kitchen lately?

From my parsonage kitchen,

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Freshen Up Friday

Some days when I’m at the grocery store I enjoy meandering and just looking at the other things that aren’t on my list.  I look at the gourmet food section, the stationery, cards, books, fresh flowers, exotic fruits, jellies and jams, all the ice cream flavors in the freezer…you get the picture.

Everyone has to go grocery shopping, and sometimes it can be less than my favorite job.  Want a way to refresh this mundane task?  How about looking for a $5 splurge to spend on something you love?  We all have a budget for groceries, and have to stick with that, but every now and then it’s fun to splurge just a little – even at the grocery store.  And you know what?  It’s really okay.  What little splurge would you enjoy?  Why not treat yourself to a $5 splurge the next time you go to the grocery?  It could buy something really special.  How about…

  • A bouquet of daisies. You might even have a dollar or so left over!
  • A small bottle of good Olive Oil
  • A block of specialty cheese
  • A crafting or decorating magazine
  • A special card to send to a friend
  • A package of seasonal paper napkins
  • A gourmet coffee – okay, $5 would only buy 1/2 or 1/3 of a pound, but still…
  • A couple new flavors of coffee creamer
  • A fall mum

Yesterday at our local Ingles store, I saw all of the above.  I didn’t do my splurge yet…but I will!
What would you buy if you could splurge $5?  I’d love to hear!

See you in church Sunday!

Be refreshed,

Godly Character Traits

A Woman of Excellence

There are some really special verses that I pray for people on my prayer list.  Two verses are in Philippians one. Paul says in verses 9,10,

And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ.

After I memorized that chapter last year, the Lord has often brought a phrase from those verses to my mind – that ye may approve things that are excellent.  Something that is excellent is “possessing outstanding quality or superior merit; remarkably good.”  Do you ever find yourself, as I do, wasting time on things that are not excellent – things that are just mediocre?  I get frustrated at how easy it is to waste time and  energy on unworthy things.

A godly woman needs to make excellence a trait that she exemplifies.  What would excellence look like in a woman’s life?  Perhaps we first need to note that excellence is not perfection

A woman of excellence will:

  • make it a priority to do her best at whatever she attempts to do – I Corinthians 10:31, Eccl 9:10
    • If she’s making a meal, she’ll not just throw something together, but will think ahead and make it tasteful and appealing.
    • If she’s preparing a lesson she is to teach, she will study well and be as prepared as is possible, realizing that God is her Enabler.
    • If she is getting dressed for the day, she will choose clothes that will give the right opinion of her God, will suit the occasion, and will be tasteful and attractive.
  • spend her time wisely Psalm 90:12
    • If she’s reading or watching a form of media, she will only allow material into her heart that is excellent. 
        • This would eliminate
          • books/movies that use the Lord’s name in vain or contain cursing
          • books/movies that give the wrong view of husband/wife relationships
          • books/movies that teach a wrong view of God
          • books/movies that turn her heart from loving God
    • If she’s using the computer, she will watch her time so that she isn’t spending more time than necessary staying in touch with her friends and family through email or Facebook
    • She will make sure she saves time to accomplish that which would help her husband, children or home
  • seek to improve herself  James 1:23-25
    • Through the study of God’s Word
    • Through memorization of the Bible
    • Through learning new skills – see side note on this blog =)

A Patch the Pirate song comes to mind here…”Only my best will do for you, only my best will do.  Not second or third – that’s quite absurd, only my best will do!  That is the mindset of a woman of excellence.

I desire, and I’m sure you do too, to be a woman of excellence.  I’m praying Philippians 1:10 for myself now too.  I need the excellent things added to my life; mediocre just won’t do for my God.  We don’t desire excellence to be snobbish, but because we have a God of excellence and He deserves no less from me as His child. I have several specifics the Lord has shown me that I need to improve.   What areas of excellence do you need to work on? 

With love,

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A Peek Inside the Parsonage

Sometimes refreshment in the parsonage comes from a day away from the parsonage.  Jesus told his disciples to come apart and rest a while.  We all have to do that from time to time.  Last week we headed to the Blue Ridge Parkway.  It was restful.  It was beautiful.  It was refreshing!
You pass through many tunnels on the parkway.  They add to its beauty!

The higher we got, the more vivid the color became.
My companion…through life and the parkway (Good thing!  I’d get turned around up there in a minute!)
 Oh, the vastness!

We went up on Mt. Mitchell.  This is a view from the restaurant window.
We walked up on the overlook.  Can you tell it was COLD?  =)  It was 45 degrees with a windchill that dropped it into the 30’s!
The clouds and sky made the views even more spectacular!
This just makes me want to say…

Come quickly, Lord Jesus!
What do you do to be refreshed in the busyness of life?

From outside the parsonage window,