When my husband and I got married 35 years ago, we had had no official premarital counseling. I did have the blessing of many talks with my mom beforehand, as well as my parent’s example, but not the kind of teaching that a pastor would typically impart today. I’ve remembered much of what I witnessed and have applied that to my married life, but through the years, I’ve found it so necessary to keep looking for wisdom to apply to my role as a wife. Anything left dormant is bound to get moldy after a while! I don’t want my marriage to do that!!
The Lord tells us in Proverbs 8:33 –
Hear instruction, and be wise, and refuse it not.
One way I’ve continued to get instruction is through reading Christian books on marriage. I’ve tried to read several a year by just reading little portions each day to keep my marriage healthy. A few of my favorites have been:
- Proverbs!!! I read it every month!!
- A Woman After God’s Own Heart
- Creative Counterpart
- What’s it Like to be Married to Me?
- For Women Only
- Love and Respect
- The Excellent Wife
- Praying God’s Will for My Husband – Praying for him changes me!
There are more, but those are some of my favorites that really helped me grow in my role as a wife.
Another way I’ve sought out wisdom is by listening to radio broadcasts and now podcasts. I started with Focus on the Family. That’s a no-brainer, right? They support the Christian marriage with topics that really help the couple!
Now my favorite podcast is Revive Our Hearts. I cannot tell you how refreshing their broadcasts are. Nancy has recently done a series on Titus 2. It has been so practical and full of truth! Just yesterday she shared a piece of advice that the late Vonette Bright shared with her on her wedding day. Let me close by sharing it with you.
She said, “Submit to whatever brings him (your husband)
pleasure in everything . . . and you’ll be just fine.”
Nancy went on to add –
By no means was she to encouraging me to satisfy any sinful, selfish desire my husband might have. She was not implying that I would be my husband’s slave, or that my role was merely to fulfill his every whim.
Here was a dear widow who had enjoyed a deeply loving fifty-four-year marriage, and who knew first-hand the joys of having a disposition—an inclination—to follow her husband’s leadership.
That is good advice!
What do you need to submit to that would bring your husband pleasure? Do it!
Your marriage needs the refreshment that daily wisdom will give it! Are you continuing to grow in wisdom regarding your role as a wife? What will you do as a result? Will you start a habit of reading and/or listening?
Refresh your marriage,