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The Bitter-sweetness of Mother’s Day

This weekend  brings a day of recognition for worthy people – mothers.  I am blessed to be a mom,

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and I have the blessing of having a terrific mother, but the Lord’s brought to my mind that Mother’s Day, though special, is a day that also brings a sundry of emotions.

If you had a wonderful, godly mom who created a childhood for you that is a sweet memory, there is the sentimentality of remembrances.  I love to reminisce about the fun we had in our home, the special things that were done on ordinary days, the traditions on the special days, and the love of my parents for each other and each of us girls.  I know that my mom was a gift from the hand of God and I am full of thanks.

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My mom – she’s always classy and pretty!

For some that had difficult homes, Mother’s Day is a hard memory.  It’s then that this person must look at the perfect Parent – God Himself.  Our expectation comes from Him, and we are never disappointed.  What a loving, faithful Father He is!

For a mother who has lost a child at any stage in their life – miscarriage, newborn, infant death, in childhood or later in their life, Mother’s Day is bittersweet.  If we know the Lord, and know that our child is with Him, we can be comforted that we will see them again.  I Thessalonians 4:16, 18  For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words.

I’ve shared a couple of times about our daughter, Ashley that was stillborn in 1987.  There will always be a tender place there as I remember her, but the Lord has been so gracious in that loss, and through the years of celebrating Mother’s Day.  But still I’ve shed many tears missing her.  It’s not a sorrow that has no hope!  I know I will see her in heaven some day.  Many times I’ve asked the Lord to tell Ashley I love her…I don’t know if the Lord does that, but she’s with Him, so I ask!

For women who are struggling with their singleness or with infertility, Mother’s Day is another harsh reminder that they are not yet a mother.  Questions of, “How could God keep this gift from me?” flood their hearts and must be answered with the Truth about our God.  He is not absent from my life, He is always at work in my life, and always wants what is best for me.  The absence of a child is still painful, but the reminder of God’s presence will be a comfort that none other can give.  He wants to fill the void, and is able to do that in ways we cannot understand or explain.

I have friends who have lost their mother recently, and surely this Mother’s Day will be different than any they’ve experienced before.  I have no idea what this must be like…but can only imagine the sorrow.  I know that God’s grace will be sufficient, however, for their need.  II Corinthians 12:9

See what a roller coaster of emotions Mother’s Day creates?  It can be a sweet day, but for many, it’s a very hard day.  I write this to say, let’s be on the lookout for those that need encouragement at this time – a hug, a card – perhaps with no words other words than simply, “I care and am praying for you.”  Sometimes just having someone remember our situation is a blessing in itself.

Who could you encourage this weekend?  If I can pray for you, I’d love to.  Leave me a comment or send me an email. refreshherblog@gmail.com

denise a

 

 

12 thoughts on “The Bitter-sweetness of Mother’s Day

  1. I always wonder how to encourage those who long to be mothers, but for whatever reason, God hasn’t given them children yet. This encouraged me to be more of an encouragement. Thank you!

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    1. I know what you mean, Bethany; it can be a sensitive subject, but I think most women in that position appreciate just the acknowledgement that they have a longing for a child. Having someone care enough to speak and pray with them/for them is a reminder that God is loving and caring for the pain in their heart.

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  2. My mother has dementia so I will be leaving her behind when our family goes out for brunch. (She is getting so she doesn’t like crowds.) I hate leaving her behind but my son wants to take me out and I am “his” mother. But I plan on picking her up later in the day to take her for a scenic drive and an ice cream cone.

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    1. Debbi, you’ll be doing what is best to honor your sweet mother. I love that you’re allowing her to do what is best for her in her condition and then taking her for a treat later In the day. So sweet. Happy Mother’s Day. 💕

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  3. Praying that your Mother’s Day is a blessed one! God has been so good to me, as well, as I have learned to embrace and celebrate this special day while missing my sweet Tyler as you do Ashley. Looking forward to that grand reunion makes all the difference here:)

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    1. Oh yes, Jennifer, looking forward to the reunion in heaven reminds me that this world is not my home and we will be joined together forever One Day! Happy Mother’s Day!

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  4. Denise, you express the sensitive issue of Mother’s Day so eloquently. In my May blog post, I address this very topic–remembering those who have mothers in prison, mothers who gave up a child, children who never knew their mother, and several other precarious situations that make Mother’s Day a difficult day. Thank you for bringing this to light.

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  5. Thank you Denise for always remembering your childhood in such a loving way. I have a heavy heart when I see so many children not being cared for properly, or spoken to lovingly. I see such harshness going on between parent and child so many times. I can imagine what the Lord feels when His children are not loving , grateful, and accepting of His Love towards them. You are right Mother’s Day is one with mixed emotions.

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    1. It’s not hard to remember my childhood as happy…it simply was. 💕 So blessed! I love your analogy about God’s love toward His children. May I always be grateful and realize the joy of Him being my Father!

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