Godly Character Traits

Availability

I had an interesting conversation recently with a young woman who works in a store I frequent. 

“My friend is having difficulty in her marriage.  I told her it was because she was always trying to do for her husband.  She has always been there for his every wish!” 

She only shook her head when I tried to explain that as a Christian wife, we are helpers to our mates, and we should enjoy doing for our husband the things he needs.

This isn’t called slavery – it’s called AVAILABILITY- It is making a conscious decision to put other’s needs first, and make my own needs secondary.

We see Isaiah the prophet beautifully portray a man who was available.  Who would go and deliver the difficult message to the people?  Because Isaiah had seen his own miserable condition and the glory of God, he could only say, “Here am I; send me.”

In our desire to develop godly character, we must prioritize, lest we feel that we have to be running from pillar to post being available to anyone at any time!

It’s crucial that we put the Lord first in all things. He must be first in time, in devotion, in service.  Once we have that settled in our hearts, there’s no question if I’ll be in church for services or if I have time in the Word each day. We won’t allow being available to others to interfere with this first priority.   If we, like Isaiah, see our condition before salvation, and the glory of our great God, it will be our greatest desire to be available to Him Who holds the first place in our heart.

Our next priority, if we’re married, is to be our husband.  Being available to him means that his needs are more important than mine.   I’m afraid my store clerk friend would gasp here, but this is what true love looks like!  Running an errand, making sure the shirt he needs is washed, fixing a food he enjoys, and even being available in the physical aspect of the marriage are all part of being available. “How can I help you today?” would be a good question to get into the habit of asking your husband.

Let me offer a caution here – It’s only after the first and second priorities are taken care of,that we’re free to be available to our adult children, our friends or other associates our lives touch. We will often have opportunities to serve others, to babysit, to fix a meal, etc. and it will bless your life and those you serve.  But take a look at the priorities first, then agree to help out.  Jesus did only those things that the Father willed.  We are wise to check with our Father too!

Prioritize and then make yourself available.  It will be a blessing – not a chore.  It will strengthen your marriage – not destroy it!

With love,

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A Peek Inside the Parsonage

This picture, taken at Whitney’s wedding is really special to me.  She and Allison are sitting at the piano; this has great significance for our family because there is an element that has been a part of our parsonage home since the very beginning of our marriage – music.  My husband and I sang to each other at our wedding.  I remember singing to both of our girls when they were tiny babies (and even while in the womb).  I taught them all the little children’s songs and we would sing them together – “Jesus Loves Me, Oh, Say but I’m Glad, I’ve Got a Mansion, Jesus Loves the Little Children of the World, Into My Heart, Trust and Obey”, and the list goes on. 

We also played music in our home.  I have the first Patch the Pirate Album (yeah, it was a long time ago!), Patch the Pirate Goes to the Jungle, that I played when Whitney was just a baby.  Both our girls grew up listening to Ron Hamilton’s music and stories that touched every area of their lives.  They learned about obedience, sharing, loving good food that mommy fixes (even broccoli!), being a wiggle worm, being selfish, having a happy home and best of all, salvation – all from the songs on the Patch the Pirate albums, tapes and Cd’s. 

It was after listening to a Patch the Pirate CD of a little child being saved that Whitney began to enquire about salvation and then trusted Christ as her own Savior one evening in our home. 

I’ll never forget carrying Allison into surgery when she was three.  Dressed in surgical clothes, I was allowed to escort her to the operating room where they placed her on the operating table.  As the anesthesiologist  placed the mask over her nose to put her to sleep, I sang to her –When shadows fall, and the night covers all, there are things that my eyes cannot see.  I’ll never fear, for the Savior is near, my Lord abides with me.  How can I fear, Jesus is near; He ever watches over me.  Worries all cease, He gives me peace.  I’ll never fear with Jesus. Neither one of us sing that song now without remembering that time all those years ago.  I sang the song for her, but it ministered to my own maternal heart so sweetly that I always tear up when I hear it.

My husband and Whitney have had “their song” too – a special one for daddy’s and their daughters. 

Our girls were both gifted with musical abilities at the piano, and their music filled our home all the years they were growing up.  That was one thing about them leaving home that I really missed.  I love it when they are here and sit down at the piano and play.

Music is a gift from the Lord, and I’m thankful for the way that gift graced our parsonage over the years.  It knit our lives together, it turned hearts to salvation, it taught of our great God, it comforted, it praised, it encouraged, it blessed…and it still does!

Does your family sing together?  Does your family have a song that brings special memories?

From my parsonage window,

Marriage

Stop Staring at the Ink Spot

An ink spot on a shirt…how tragic!  When we see a stain like this, our eye automatically goes to the ink spot, doesnt’ it?  Though 90% of the shirt is still white, all we see is the stain. 

I recently heard an illustration shared on a radio broadcast that I just had to share with you.  In our marriages, it’s easy to focus on our husband’s one or two faults or habits that irritate us – their “ink spots” if you will.  We get our eyes fixed on hubby’s negative traits, and that’s all we choose to see.  It glares at us and brings bitterness and resentment to our hearts and homes, instead of the loving relationship the Lord intended.

Why not resolve today to begin taking a long, hard look at the things that you love about your husband (the 90% pure white shirt he is wearing) instead of staring at the ink spots?  I am sure it will refresh your marriage and your love for your husband as it did mine!

Time to go do some laundry…there are a few ink spots of my own I need to work on!

With love,

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What’s Cookin’ in the Parsonage?

My menu:
Herb-roasted Chicken
Roasted Potatoes
French Peas
Parmesan Garlic Knots

I love, love, love roasted chicken. I think my posts here have proven that!  If I could eat fried chicken and get away with it, that would be my recipe of choice for this little bird, but roasted comes in at a close second.  I have always put herbs inside the cavity of the bird, but recently I read about making a mixture of herbs and rubbing them on the skin of the bird.  So…

I mixed:

  • 1-2 Tablespoons of chopped herbs – Fresh rosemary, sage and thyme
  • 1 Tablespoon of salt (kosher is best)
  • 1 Teaspoon of pepper

Add 2-3 tablespoons of olive oil and then rub the mixture over the entire cleaned and dried chicken.

Place on a roasting pan and roast at 375 – 400  degrees until the meat thermometer registers 165 degrees.  Let the chicken rest 10 minutes before slicing. 

This makes the skin golden brown and crispy and really flavorful!  Okay, so it’s not the healthiest part of the chicken, but if you’re not going to fry it, you might as well enjoy the flavor baked into the skin!  Yum!

I also put potato wedges in another pan, tossed them with olive oil and roasted them for about 50 minutes in the same oven where the chicken was roasting.  This makes the potatoes crispy instead of soft like when you roast them with the chicken.  I liked them better this way!  Add a little fresh parsley when you take them out of the oven.  I added them to the platter with the chicken. 

I posted about these little rolls once before, but if you haven’t made them yet, you are missing one of the quickest and tastiest little breads.  These are Parmesan Garlic knots.  So simple and so good!

A whole roasted chicken is a lot of meat just for two people, but the blessing is having lots of LEFTOVERS!  If you can get a good sale on roasting hens, roast a couple at a time so you’ll have the meat to use in other dishes.    I disguised used the white meat for chicken quesadillas.  Does this look like leftovers?  I don’t think so.

Chicken Quesadilla
Tortillas shells (size of your choice)
Chopped chicken
Tomato, diced
Black beans
cheese

Spray pan with cooking spray.  I also like to spray the tortilla shell – it makes them nice and crispy.  Place in skillet on medium heat.  Add ingredients to one half of the quesadilla, then fold over.  Cook until lightly browned.  Flip over and brown other side.  Serve with sour cream.

One more recipe – a breakfast one to share from the past week – Blackberry French Toast.  ~Sigh~ this is heavenly.  French toast is my favorite breakfast food, and I had the delight of having this blackberry version while on vacation a couple of years ago.  Here’s the way I make it:

2 eggs
Enough milk added to make a batter for dipping – maybe 1/2 cup
Dash of vanilla
Mix eggs, milk, and vanilla in a shallow bowl. 

Slice French bread into 1 inch pieces.  Dip bread in batter; flip bread and then lay blackberries on top of the bread slice.

Place second piece of bread that has been soaked with the egg mixture on top. Press bread together. Place in a skillet with cooking spray and/or canola oil.  Brown on both sides.  Sprinkle with powdered sugar and garnish with more berries.  Serve with syrup. 

That’s what’s been cooking here.  What have you made lately, and how do you disguise leftovers?

From my parsonage kitchen,

Refreshment

Freshen Up Friday

I learned a good lesson from my mom – If you don’t have exactly what you need, improvise.  I think I’m still learning how to do that, but have found that it’s getting easier as I’ve gotten older.  The other day I was making a microwave mug chocolate cake and had just used the last of my milk.  I only needed 3 tablespoons, so I improvised with Peppermint Mocha Cream.  It worked fine (though I didn’t think the cake recipe was worth repeating).

Another area of improvising is in decorating.  I’ve watched my mom take a picture of a mantle or tabletop in a magazine and go around the house finding things to mimic the look.  She didn’t always have exactly what she needed, so she improvised.

Yesterday I did the same thing in my kitchen.  I’d seen a really pretty table scape and did what I could to copy it.  Here’s the photo from Better Homes and Gardens Magazine:

Here’s my improvised version:

Of course I left the baskets of silverware and linens off because I only wanted to use this as a centerpiece.

It really does refresh me to add something pretty and something different to the kitchen table.  It can be easy to just plunk the same centerpiece down.  Why not look in a magazine (or Google images on-line) and find something you love, then try to mimic it on your kitchen table? Remember to improvise on the items you don’t have.   Add some sparkle and beauty to the place your family gathers for mealtime, and I just bet you’ll be refreshed.

See you in church Sunday!

Lots of love,