Like any relationship, marriage can get into a rut. It sounds the same as when you hit those rumble strips on the interstate. It’s irritating, and it makes you move over, but often it’s not long before you hear that roar again. Why? Because you’re kind of daydreaming your way through your marriage.
It’s easy to “fall asleep at the wheel” and not make the efforts in your relationship that you used to make when things were new and fresh. But I have good news for you today! If you’re still breathing and your husband also has breath, things can change TODAY! Let me make three simple suggestions – all that are doable today and cost nothing except your intentionality!
- SMILE DAILY (use your lips and your eyes to smile!)
When he walks in the door. Smile.
While you’re listening to him. Smile.
When you’re telling him about your day. Smile.
When you see him across the room. Smile.
It’s easier to be too busy to even look up at one another. It’s easier to furrow our brows and scowl. SMILE instead.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine. Proverbs 17:22
- MAKE MORE DEPOSITS INTO YOUR MARRIAGE THAN WITHDRAWALS EACH DAY
Deposit a compliment instead of criticism. Instead of fussing about the negative thing you’re thinking about, give a compliment of something in which he made you proud.
Deposit help instead of looking to receive help. I believe husbands should help their wife, but what would happen if we volunteered to run an errand, lift a load, or do a chore for him? Would we look like Christ in our sacrifice?
Deposit affection instead of pulling away physically and emotionally. Put away that cold shoulder, little peck, or icy back. Pull the wall down with the warmth of your affection.
Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.
- PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND FOR AT LEAST FIVE MINUTES EVERY DAY.
Pray about the things that irritate you.
Pray about the weaknesses in your relationship.
Pray for his burdens, pressures and obligations.
Pray for your hearts to be knit together stronger than ever.
Luke 18:1 – Men (women) aught always to pray and not to faint.
Dear wife, I’m convinced that if we would practice these three initiatives DAILY we would have happy husbands, which would equal happy wives, and that boils down to a happy marriage! Try it and tell me about your results!
Refresh your marriage TODAY!
After a lovely week’s vacation, a stroll in my yard brought sights like this…
Weeds! It’s amazing what just a little time away will do to a summer yard!
Proverbs 10:4 reminds us ~
He becometh poor that dealeth with a slack hand:
but the hand of the diligent maketh rich.
My hand had been idle, while on vacation, but when the temperatures had cooled off some and the humidity was in breathing range, I donned my garden gloves and headed out to give this poor Dianthus some badly needed attention. My hand was diligent to take care of the neglected landscape.
While I was tugging and pulling at the stubborn intruders, the Lord brought to my mind a simple truth: neglect in any area of our lives spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e! You name it – if you neglect your health, your work, or your spiritual walk, it’s an invitation to disaster.
Let’s think about another area in which neglect is deadly…a marriage. It’s so easy to Continue reading “The Cost of Neglect in Marriage”
plural noun: nuggets
a small lump of gold or other precious metal found ready-formed in the earth.
a small chunk or lump of another substance.
Valuable items don’t have to be large to be worth much and the same goes for pieces of advice. Even little nuggets of advice can be valuable. That’s exactly what I want to share with you today!
- Do you remember this post from last week? I talked about appreciating the differences between ourselves and our husbands. My little preference was about the shower bottles’ lids being closed. I even said that my husband had no idea that that bothered me! Every day when I cleaned the shower, I would simply snap his shampoo and body wash lids back down, but I never said anything to him about it.
Ever since last Friday, his bottles have been shut tighter than a toddler’s teeth at supper time! Yep, he read my post and took it on himself to take care of that tiny issue! (How sweet is that?!) What did it take? Communication.
Nugget #1 ~ When there are things that bother you, speak up.
I’m clearly not talking about little pet peeves like mine; I’m talking about things that would really cause a rift in your relationship. Many times things go on and on simply because we don’t share it with our spouse. Either we think he should know it (!) or we’re afraid to tell him. Sharing what’s on your heart might not remedy the issue immediately, but at least you can get it out there where it can be discussed and prayed about, and possibly have a conclusion decided upon very quickly.
- When I was changing our sheets this week, I noticed that the top hem was really wrinkled. I started to continue to make the bed and then I remembered that I usually always iron the guest bed. Then I had another thought I needed to make our sheets pretty, too.
Nugget *2 – Never do for others and neglect your husband.
If he’s our priority (and he should be), we won’t want to forget to show him the special kindness that we do for other people.
Continue reading “Family Friday ~ Marriage Nuggets”
I go to clean the shower and find his bottles of shampoo and body wash with lids open like soldiers saluting their Sargent. It’s a tiny pet peeve that he knows nothing about. I snap the lids in place.
There are whiskers in the bathroom sink…again.
Continue reading “Family Friday – Enjoy the Differences!”
Spite the fact that it’s hard for me to do, yesterday I posted some recent outfits that I’d worn. I hate putting myself out there. I’d rather stay behind the camera. So why do I do that? To help inspire other women. In a world that says we should just be comfy in our leggings and long t-shirts, I think it’s important that we “bump it up a notch.” I think this Continue reading “Family Friday ~ Dressing For Him”
What a blessing it is to stand alongside, before and behind my husband as he serves God. Last weekend I had the blessing of encouraging him as he ministered to many different people.
At a couple’s retreat he challenged couples in biblical marriage principles. I sat in front of him, prayed for him and smiled at him when he looked my way.
After the retreat when we had the fun of enjoying an Amish bakery, I laughed with him as he enjoyed his ice cream-filled donut! I also enjoyed two bites!
When he preached all day on the Sunday of that busy weekend, I devoured his message, nodded encouragement, and told him what a blessing it was to watch him encourage that flock of people.
When we got to stop at an old home place where we lived many years ago, we reminisced over memories made there – some good, some bitter sweet. We held hands and wept, and also thanked God for His blessings.
When he got to encourage a group of young believers, I rejoiced in my heart for his love for people. He has a shepherd’s heart that longs for Christians to stay close to the Good Shepherd,drink from His cool waters and feed on the grass of God’s pasture.
Ministry can be hard some days…some months even, but how grateful I am for the times when we can serve together and I can do my first calling – support this man that God has given as my life’s mate. I’m so proud to call him my husband. He has told me
As long as you’re behind me, I can withstand anything.
What has God called your husband to do? Stand behind him and encourage him in whatever that calling is. You and I will never do it perfectly, but the important thing is that we keep on encouraging. It’s what our husbands desperately need from us!