It feels like I am in a constant state of purging. As I wipe out a drawer, straighten a closet or decorate for a holiday, I’m forever finding things that need to be tossed. But there are some things in a family that will be kept forever, and those are the memories of times together. Those days that maybe were ordinary, but made just a little more extraordinary by doing something a little special.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, I’m reminded that over the years we have had some special days in our home on February 14th. We always did something as a family first. Of course our girls received a card from us and often a little box of Whitman’s chocolates too. I usually fixed a special dinner and set the table in red or pink. We would have a dessert together as well, then it was bedtime for the girls so Mommy and Daddy could spend time together.
Our girls grew up knowing that we loved each other. I had heard that the best thing a wife could do for her children was to love their daddy. I had witnessed this in my own home when I was growing up, and I know very well the security it gives. My daughters might not have particularly liked going to bed early, or not being included in the evening’s plans, but they grew to appreciate why those things were so.
As you implement your Valentine’s plans for next weekend, I encourage you to plan for time together as a family, AND be sure to set aside time for you and your husband alone. It is the biblicalthing to do. My husband would always tell our girls when we went away for a date, “Your mom and I are going out to make a better home for you.” Your children may not like it now, but they’ll be glad for the sweet memories of a happy home that you’re creating. Those are the best kind of memories because they can’t be put in a box and sent on their way to the trash or to the Goodwill – they’ll be in their hearts forever!
Needs some ideas?
Here’sa post about some simple chocolate and sweet treats!
You can find some budget-friendly gift ideas here.
Valentine’s Day is next week and you have little money to celebrate! What do you do?
All is not lost! There are a ton of ideas to make the day special for you and your spouse! Let me give you a few affordable suggestions:
Get a pad of sticky notes at the Dollar Tree. On separate pages, write
attributes you love about your spouse
a memory of special events/happenings in your relationship over the years
clues to find a hidden gift (more on the gift below)
Put the notes
All over the inside of his car!
All over the house
Inside the shower
In his daily path –
inside his Bible
on the bathroom mirror
on his coffee cup
in his closet
in his shoes
on the computer screen
Give a loving gift
Fill a box with little things he loves
His favorite candy bar
A favorite pen
$5 gift card to favorite fast food or coffee place
A favorite movie dvd (even checked out from the library!)
A favorite Bible verse printed out from the computer
The favorite cookie or brownie you make
A favorite picture of the two of you in an inexpensive frame
Get him a small journal where you can record your dates and what you do in the next year!
Go to a used book store and find a great book he’d love.
Dress up for an evening at home.
If you have children, make dinneritme a time for the family. Set the table with red and white. Add conversation hearts scattered on the tablecloth (yes, add a tablecloth), burn some candles or votives. Serve salad first, then clear the dishes and serve the main course. Dessert idea below.
Give the children little heart boxes of their own chocolates – if Whitman’s is too expensive, they have cute boxes at the Dollar Tree!
To make a heart shaped cake, mix up a box of cake mix and pour half in a round pan and half in a square pan. After baking and cooling, cut the round cake in half. Put the square cake on a platter so it looks like a diamond shape. Put half of the round on the top right and the other on the top left – voila! It’s a heart! Cover with pink or white icing.
Give the children their dessert after supper. Save yours and your husband’s for later.
After the kids are in bed, serve dessert by candlelight in your bedroom. Serve it on your good dishes. If you need to bring in a small table, do so. Make it special! Light candles in the room. Turn on some soft music.
If you need a chocolate dessert idea, here’s a favorite of mine!
So, is there an idea here you think you could use? I hope so! I also hope you take these ideas and implement them into every day of your marriage! Valentine’s Day isn’t the day to get caught up or to make up for what you should’ve been doing. Make the day special, then keep it going all year!
Looking for some ways to express your love to your husband this Valentine’s Day? Here are 26 ways to love him all year long.Admire his physical characteristics. Buy him his favorite candy bar, snack or treat. Call him on the phone while he’s at work just to tell him you love him and are thinking about him. Dress up for him – look your best when he comes home! Express the reasons why you love him – write it on the bathroom mirror in dry erase marker. Find a picture of the two of you when you were dating. Write a note on the picture and post it where he can see it. Greet him at the door each night when he comes home. Have your own signal to say “I love you.” A tug of the tie, a secret number code, etc so you can express your love even in a crowd.
Initiate a date and take care of all the details. Joke and tease with him like you did when you were dating. Kiss him before he leaves the house! Leave notes for him – in his car, on his pillow, in his brief case, in his Bible… Make his favorite dessert and serve it by candlelight in your bedroom after the kids are in bed. Note on a large-blocked calendar things your husband has done for you. Keep track all year, and then give the calendar to him as a journal of sorts. Openly share your love for him in front of your children. They need the security that Mommy and Daddy love each other! Poems are creative ways to tell your husband how you feel. If you can’t write one, find one that says what’s in your heart. Quips and cartoons are fun love notes to leave. Read the comics and the “Love is” cartoon in the paper and cut out one that is appropriate for him. Run an errand for him – even if it’s out of your way. Share a special treat together – a milkshake or a small personal-size pizza. Tell him what you admire about him – this is different than why you love him…this is about who he is – not what he does. Understand his need for space. Vanish away together! Plan an overnight trip and surprise him. Wash the car for him Xtra loving care…give him all he needs. Your attitude can change his bad day. Make sure your heart is right with the Lord so you can encourage him! Zest for life can make a boring marriage an exciting one. Do something new together!
Share your ideas of ways you express your love here in the comment section.