Marriage · Refreshment in marriage

It’s a Wonderful…Marriage

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Aren’t the old classic Christmas movies special to watch?  A favorite of mine is It’s a Wonderful Life.  This sweet story reminds me of what every wife should be doing for her husband – showing unconditional love and support. If you’ve seen the movie, let me remind you of a couple times when the wife, Mary, displays that…

After George and Mary get married, they are on their way to their honeymoon when there is a run on the bank money. George spends the rest of the day caring for his customers, half forgetting that he has a new bride. Though they have no money for an extravagant honeymoon, he finds that Mary has taken an old run-down house that she’s dreamed about living in and prepared a beautiful dinner in it for him. She hung up posters of exotic places they’d dreamed of visiting and created the best atmosphere possible for their wedding night using her limited resources and her love.

The last clip of the film shows George returning to his home and family. He quickly learns that Mary that has informed their friends and family that he was in trouble. She organized their support in the form of financial help and their presence. People come pouring into the house with money for them. George is overwhelmed at their kindness. All through this last scene, there is Mary, smiling, supporting her husband, loving him – no matter what. Through good times and bad, she gave herself to be the best wife to him that she could be, both behind the scenes and in his presence. She never belittles him; never criticizes.

No marriage is without hard times. It comes in all different forms over the years, and there must be a resolve to support our husband. We must be willing to sacrifice, lend our help, and continue to love him through the toughest of situations.

What hard thing is your husband going through right now? How can you show your support of him?

Proverbs 18:22

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

If a husband has a wife who will stand with him and love him through the hard times. I believe he’ll know how blessed he is…and it will be a wonderful marriage (life).

Refresh your husband with your unconditional support.

Denise

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Best Friends in Marriage

The posts have been about friendship this week, we can’t forget our BEST earthly friend and the importance of maintaining  our relationship with him!

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Yesterday found my husband and me in the basement going through some boxes of “stuff.” Stuffed animals, old toys, pictures, school annuals, dolls, dishes, and books were sorted through. I was down there for several hours – not because I got so much accomplished, necessarily, but because when I go through old things it brings back memories and I have to stop and reflect! My husband and I passed many pictures back and forth to one another. “Oh, remember this?” “Look at us! How hilarious!” (You will not be seeing any of those pictures posted here!) Not only did we recall many special times from our past, but it was a sweet time together recounting good memories and numerous blessings.

I also leafed through a couple of the books that I hadn’t read in a while. One book was on marriage and there was a chapter on being best friends with your mate. The highlights were how important it is to spend time together having fun, talking, sharing your heart, and being open with one another. I smiled – we had done that even in a cool basement on Memorial Day when most of our neighbors were probably out at the lake or at the park having a picnic with their extended family. We had shared secret memories of times and places when notes were found written in our handwriting. We’d laughed. We’d talked about times when our girls were growing up. This is what friends do.

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After we’d had our grilled hamburgers later in the evening, we headed out for a drive through the countryside. Opening the sun roof on the car, the warm air blew through as we pointed at beautiful homes, the clouds over the mountain or a row of flags in a front yard. We even stopped for an ice cream at Dari ace – so cute! It was a great end to a fun day spent with my best friend.

Are you still best friends with your husband? Are you spending time together? I don’t mean time living – I mean time just being together. What tone of voice do you use when you speak to him or repeat an answer to his question? Is it the tone that one would use with their best friend? God gave Adam a wife so he would have a companion. Are you and I being the best kind of completer that we could possibly be? Best friends give each other the benefit of the doubt, love when no one else loves, and enjoy just doing little things together. Is your husband the one you spend that kind of time with? Don’t replace his companionship with that of your girlfriend, sister or parents. That is not God’s plan for a married woman.

I am planning on re-reading that book I found. It was a good reminder for me. We all need to be encouraged in what a godly marriage looks like. I’m thankful for a day in the basement that helped me to be refreshed in the friendship part of our marriage!

With love,

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P.S. I believe the book I was referring to is, The Ministry of Marriage, by Jim Binney.