Marriage

Calming a Marital Storm

Back to back.  That’s how most couples sleep who have had a disagreement.  Don’t you hate it when the devil slides in a blow that causes discord between you and your spouse?  It happens at my house, too, because there are two sinners living together that fight their flesh and the devil every day.

I hate to bring this up, but did you read my recent post about my not-so-sweet words that I spoke to my husband?  Immediately after that happened, I apologized because I saw in his eyes the pain it brought to  his heart.  I knew I was wrong.  He acknowledged my apology, but things didn’t seem right.  We were sitting in a restaurant at a small table.  It was at that moment that the Lord brought to my mind something we had read in our couples’ devotional recently.  It suggested that when you’re having any kind of disagreement, one spouse should reach out and initiate you holding hands – both hands.

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So, I reached across the table with outstretched palms as an invitation to hold his hands.  We clasped our fingers together, looking eye to eye.  It did something.  It brought us back together as one.  It calmed the storm.  It unified us once again.

God had prepared me for that moment, and it changed the situation.  I later made sure that I apologized for being disrespectful to him and I also asked my Heavenly Father’s forgiveness.  Things were right, but it really started with one literally reaching out to the other.

The next time there’s an issue between you and your mate, I’d encourage you to initiate holding both his hands in yours and looking him straight into the eye with a loving heart.  Someone has to be the first to reach out.  Why don’t you make it YOU?

Refresh your marriage,

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baking · Uncategorized

Cranberry-Chocolate Chip Biscotti

Are you a dunker?  I not asking if you put people under water when you’re swimming, or if you can put a basketball through the hoops; I’m asking if you like to take a crisp cookie and dunk it in coffee, tea or milk?  If the answer is “yes!”  then you will love this recipe today!

Biscotti means – Twice baked.  This is a simple rolled out type of cookie that gets baked two times.  Let me give you a visual of how to make them, then I’ll share the recipe.

First the dough is mixed together.  It is dry and crumbly!  Press forward.  “Mush” it together.  That’s my not-so-technical word for “do whatever you need to do to make it into a ball of dough.  Then press it into two logs on a baking sheet.  Press down to make one-inch high rolls.

Bake those rolls for 30 minutes.  Let them cool for ten minutes.

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Slice the rolls into 1/2 inch pieces and lay on a baking sheet, flat side down.

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Put them in a lowered temp oven for 10 minutes.  Flip them over and brown the other side for 10 more minutes.

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Cool on baking rack.  They will harden up as they cool.  The crunchiness makes them perfect for dunking in that cup of coffee, because little pieces don’t fall into the cup!

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I’ve made all sorts of different kinds of biscotti and I love them all!  I hope you’ll try making a batch.  They make great gifts! Take some to your hostess, or make some for a coffee-loving friend for Christmas.  Fill a tin with the cookies or fill a cellophane bag and tie it with a ribbon, and you’ll have the perfect gift for the coffee drinkers on your list!

Here’s the recipe:

Cranberry-Chocolate Chip Biscotti

Ingredients

2 3/4 cups all-purpose flour

1 cup sugar

1/2 cup dried cranberries

1/3 cup semisweet chocolate chips

2 teaspoons baking powder

1/8 teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon vegetable oil

1 teaspoon almond extract

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

3 large eggs

Cooking spray

Preparation

Preheat oven to 350°.

Lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups, and level with a knife. Combine the flour and the next 5 ingredients (flour through salt) in a large bowl. Combine oil, extracts, and eggs; add to flour mixture, stirring until well-blended (dough will be dry and crumbly). Turn the dough out onto a lightly floured surface; knead lightly 7 to 8 times. Divide the dough in half. Shape each portion into an 8-inch-long roll. Place rolls 6 inches apart on a baking sheet coated with cooking spray; flatten each roll to 1-inch thickness.

Bake at 350° for 35 minutes. Remove rolls from baking sheet; cool 10 minutes on a wire rack. Cut each roll diagonally into 15 (1/2-inch) slices. Place the slices, cut sides down, on baking sheet. Reduce oven temperature to 325°, and bake for 10 minutes. Turn cookies over; bake an additional 10 minutes (cookies will be slightly soft in center but will harden as they cool). Remove from baking sheet; cool completely on wire rack.

 

Enjoy!

With love from my country kitchen,

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cat · Home decor · Marriage

Friday Favorites

The first week of September has been a good start to the month!  These are some of my favorite things that happened this week.  (From top to bottom, left to right)

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  1.  My flower boxes were looking a little weary, so I refreshed them with mums, rosemary and Asters.  This is the first time I’ve added rosemary, but I’m hoping since it’s so hardy it will do well all winter!
  2. If you follow me on Instagram (denisec_refreshHer), you saw this picture on my #Mondaymarriagematters.  I drew this little picture on the bathroom mirror the night before my husband jumped back into preaching after sabbatical.  I wanted to remind him I was praying for him and behind him!
  3. Sunday morning our dear Rod Carter, 90 years old, was so happy to see his pastor at the door.  We missed every member while we were gone, and Sunday was quite the reunion!
  4. My husband ran in a 10K on Saturday!  I’m so proud of him for staying fit and active!  I am NOT  runner, so I went to stand on the sidelines and cheer him on!
  5. This sunrise was September first.  What a glorious reminder that my God is in control and will give grace and glory for each day ahead!
  6. The mornings have been so cool and refreshing that one morning I sat in a rocker on the front porch and had my Bible reading.  It was so beautiful, quiet and refreshing in every way!
  7. My kitty Liza does so many funny things.  She is not one to jump on the counters, or furniture, so the morning I found her like this was quite hilarious.  I had used the tub to fill my water pitcher to water the flower boxes and she jumped in to get a drink of the droplets that were still in the tub!  How would you caption this picture?

Then to end the week we have our really special ladies’ event at our church!  If you’re in the area, I invite you to join us for our Ladies’ Event. Our Theme is, “When God Writes Your Story.”

Carol Trahan is our guest speaker tonight and tomorrow morning.  Carol is a Word-filled speaker whose story is not what she would have chosen, but she has allowed the Lord to take the tragedies that have touched her life to refine and mold her into the image of Christ.  She is a Word-filled speaker who exalts her Savior with her testimony of His goodness in her times of brokenness.

Friday night begins with a fashion workshop, some fun skits, then a time in God’s Word with Carol. Then we go home and sleep in our own comfy bed and return the next morning.  Saturday will be filled with helpful workshops you can choose from, and two more sessions with Carol.  Breakfast starts at 9:00 and the day moves on from there. I pray you’ll come and bring a friend!

Praying you have a great weekend of spiritual encouragement!

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You May Have to Eat That!

I saw a little sign in a store recently that said,

Make sure your words are sweet. For one day, you may have to eat them.  A perfect lesson for children of all ages ...:

Not long after reading that, I was eating some not-so-sweet words that I said to my husband.  He had been talking to me, and I had a thought about what he was saying, and then I let those thoughts come out.

I spoke too quickly.

As soon as I said it, I knew it should never have come out of my mouth.

Have you ever been there?  It’s awful.  There’s no way to take those words back.  I had to eat them, and it was no meal I want as leftovers!

Proverbs 29:11 says,

A fool utters all his mind; but a wise man keeps it in till afterwards.

A wise woman realizes that just because she’s thinking it, doesn’t mean she needs to say it.  Here’s a good test as to whether or not that thought should come out as words:

  • Is it true?
  • Is it kind?
  • Does it need to be said now?

All three questions need to be answered affirmatively before you should speak it, and even then it might be best not to let it from your lips.

Remember, what you say, you may have to eat.

Lovingly,

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Home making · Uncategorized

Clever Uses for Jars

I love finding simple organizing solutions to little frustrations in my routines. One area was cupcake liners.  It seems that once the packaging for Cupcake/muffin liners are opened, they’re history!  If they didn’t come in a hard plastic covering, I find them crumpled and useless, like our morning newspaper that didn’t make it into the box (bless our carrier’s heart!)!

However, I recently found a clever idea for storing them.

Pop them into a little jar!

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I already had this one on hand, so I grabbed the loose and straggling liners in my cupboard and popped them into this little jar.  I love how it has dressed up my pantry shelves!

Jars have become my best friend when it comes to kitchen organization!  Look…

I also still love the jar I store Corn Starch in.  No more corn starch showers all over the counter when I’m baking!  Not sure why I didn’t do  that YEARS ago!

Other things I have stored in jars are:

  • granola
  • pastas
  • brown sugar
  • powdered sugar
  • croutons
  • pretzels
  • popcorn kernels
  • oatmeal

Whatever you have that won’t stay fresh once it’s opened is a great candidate for a jar.  Those cellophane bags for pasta, croutons, pretzels are all frustrating if you try to clip them shut.  I’ve seen jars at The Dollar Tree, Dollar General and TJ Maxx that are so affordable and they make life so much easier AND prettier!

What do you store in your jars?

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