Christian Life · temptation

Why I Choose Not To Drink Alcohol

Recently while exercising and watching some You Tube videos, I saw a favorite Christian comedian’s routine.  She was describing her relationship with her mother and the phrases she used to say while raising her children.  She said,

“Mother thought everything led to beer.  ‘Don’t dance – that leads to beer! Don’t watch that movie – it leads to beer.'”

The crowd was laughing along as she teased her mom for the strict guidelines and principles she adhered to in mothering. As I listened to her, though, I sadly remembered that the comedian’s spouse died an early death, and most of the decline of his health was caused from alcohol.  The use of alcohol did lead to something more, just as her mom had warned.

My heart breaks for this dear lady.  I respect her for her tenacity and am saddened with her at the grief of losing her mate.  But as I continued listening to the routine, I realized that he had allowed a little bit of drinking, as is anyone’s liberty to do, to become a master in his life.  In other words, he eventually lived to drink.  He was a slave to it.  Did he start out that way?  Of course not.  He made the choice to have a beer or drink wine, but soon it replaced the need for dependence on Christ, and he became dependent on the alcohol. I choose not to drink because I want to stay committed to a dependence on Christ alone – not a substance.

Scripture gives us the liberty to make choices as believers.  In 1 Corinthians 6, Paul quotes a popular slogan in Corinth. The slogan was: “All things are lawful for me.” All things are lawful for me. And Paul says, “Yes, but, I will not be enslaved by anything. Yes, I can do—as a Christian—I’m free to do whatever God gives me the direction to do, but I’m not going to be enslaved by anything.” We may decide to “take wine for our stomach’s sake,” but have no desire to become an alcoholic.  But it does happen.  I choose not to drink because I don’t want to give myself the opportunity to become a slave to alcohol.

Don’t taste what you don’t want to hunger for.

`Ravi Zacharias

Sadly, I also have seen the terrible affects alcohol can have on others.  It happened several years ago when my daughter and son-in-law were hit head-on by a drunk driver going the wrong way on the Interstate. The pictures above show the results of the cars – what you don’t see is the horror of that night and the terror it left in their hearts for months afterwards.  I choose not to drink because I don’t want to destroy someone else’s life because of alcohol.

It’s said that what we do in moderation, our children will do in excess.  In other words, if I moderately drink, my children will do more than that.  That’s scary.   I choose not to drink because I don’t want to destroy my testimony as a believer and lead someone else away from God.

Yes, you have the right to choose to drink, but you can’t choose the consequences.  Those are too steep for me.   I choose not to drink because the consequences can be severe.

This is my opinion – my standard – my conviction.  I’m sharing it because it has been heartbreaking to see the devastation of alcohol very near me.  I realize there are many vices aside from alcohol, and I want the Lord to keep me moderate in those areas, too.  I write this because I care.  If you choose to use it, be careful…it might lead to more than you anticipated.

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Home decor · seasonal decor

Pre-Spring Coffee Table Decor

Just a few pictures for today’s post about Pre-spring decor…

How can you get your house a little ready for spring?  It’s too early for tulips or bunny rabbits, but you have to change the decor from Valentine’s Day, right?

  1. First, go through the house looking for all the traces of hearts (or evergreen still lingering from Christmas!).  I used to leave my snowmen out for the winter months, but if you have any out they could be removed, if you’re wanting to prep your home for spring that will come!
  2. Find any florals you have that are greens.  These will work great!
  3. Look for colorful additions you could put out in the form of vases, candles, or even magazines.

Here’s my attempt at a little pre-spring decoration for the coffee tables…

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I love the colors of the jars, and they add enough touch of a spring colored sky!
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Scrabble tiles are always a way to speak your heart!  The little bird in its cage is a perfect addition to the phrase!

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My family room coffee table – I like to add old magazines that I’ve saved.  I can flip through and get inspiration for when it is time to get out all things spring!

 

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A candle that has a spring fragrance makes the house smell like spring, even if you still have snow outside!
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Silk herbs are a great in-between seasons floral!

There are a few ideas for you.  I’m going to be adding a wreath on the front door soon that will help anticipate birds and daffodils!  Is that a robin outside my window?!  Woohoo!

Anyone else waiting for spring?

Denise

Crock Pot · Dinner · main dish · Main entree

(L)Oven Monday – Sunday Dinner, Part 2

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Chicken Enchildadas!

Last week I began with sharing the three things that are essential to having a successful Sunday dinner.  You can go here to find the details of those  important ingredients –

  1. Ponder the needs
  2. Plan the menu
  3. Prepare ahead

After you have done #1, and you know your budget, the needs of your guests and any other needs, such as time constraint, you can plan the menu.  Today, I’m going to share a few menu suggestions and I’ll put them into a few categories to help you get started.

  • Low Budget, Large crowd – 
    • Pasta dishes are great.  Here are some of my favorites that are inexpensive, feed a crowd, and can be made ahead:
      • Spinach Lasagna – You can even make this with no meat
      • Spaghetti Pie – This recipe makes two pies!  It has all the flavors of lasagna with less prep.
      • Baked Pasta with Sausage, Tomatoes and Cheese – This link will not only show you the recipe, it will also tell you the whole menu I served on a Sunday when I made this, and the steps I took to get it ready for after church.
    • Chicken dishes, using roasted chicken done in the crock pot.  Here’s the method to cook the chicken breasts in the crock pot.
      • Chicken Enchiladas – This link will, again, show you my whole menu and method to serve this on a Sunday.
      • Savory Crescent Chicken Squares – To make these for a Sunday, prep the meat and cream cheese mixture and have it waiting in the fridge.  When you get home from church, put it into the crescent rolls and bake!
      • Hot Chicken Salad
  • Healthy Choices that can be made ahead –
    • Roasted Vegetable Frittata – Brunch food is great for Sunday!  Many restaurants are filled with church-goer’s looking for brunch!  Frittata warms up great.  I would bake the whole thing on Saturday and simply warm it up after church.
    • Baked Potato Soup – Make it ahead and keep it warm in the crock pot.  You can make this a hearty meal by serving a big bowl of salad and a light bread with it.
    • Katie Brown Chicken – This is a traditional kind of Sunday dinner, and soooo yummy!  It’s really my favorite meal!
    • Chicken Taco Salads – If the chicken is cooked, and the other salad ingredients prepped, you could put this together in minutes.
  • Crock Pot Recipes can be a life saver on Sunday! This is probably the best way to start out putting a great Sunday meal on the table.  Put everything in the crock pot and head to church.  There may be a little to do when you get home, but not much!  Here are some delicious main dish favorites:

I hope this second edition of Sunday Dinner will better equip you to put together a menu that fits your needs!  Give one of these recipes a whirl this Sunday and let me know how it goes!

Did you fix Sunday dinner yesterday?  What did you serve?

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home · Marriage

Family Friday – Marriage Advice from Two Seasoned Marriages

This week I have had the blessing of spending a few days in Kentucky with my parents.  Family time is always a blessing – even if it includes being here with them during a time of physical issues and tests, like this visit. I also got to see my twin sister and her husband – an added blessing!  We always end up having many long conversations – in the library, in the sun room, around the table at mealtimes and in the living room while we rest comfortably in their lovely and restful home.

Last night I asked questions to each of my parents, my sister and my brother-in-law after we finished supper.  I was thinking about the longevity demonstrated  in the marriages in that room.  My parents are approaching 62 years, my sister and her husband, nearly 39.  My question to each of them was,

What is one piece of advice you would give to married couples to help their marriage endure?

 

Here’s what they said,

Mom ~ “To young married couples, I would say to move away from your parents for at least the first year.  That way if something comes up between you two, you can’t go running home – you have to work it out together.
To  all marriages, I would say something that my mother told me – ‘Never make your children the center of your marriage, because if you do, when they leave home, you’ll be strangers to one another.'”

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Dad ~ “Each of you have to give 100%.  You can’t do what you think is ‘your part’ and think you’ve done enough.  Each has to give 100%.”

Jeff ~  “Learn to laugh and have fun.  Don’t take yourselves too seriously.  Remember, too, that you’ve made a covenant with God to stay together for life.”

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Dianne ~ “Leave your parents and cleave to your mate!  Also out-serve one another.  Rather than wishing he would do this or that, do for him.  Pray for one another!

That’s some good advice!  There’s lots more that all of them could add, but I just asked for one top thing they would tell marriages in order to go the long haul!

Which one of these comments struck a chord in your heart?  Why not ask the Lord to help you implement that characteristic into your marriage beginning today?

Refresh your marriage,

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God's character · Uncategorized · waiting

Lessons On Waiting

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I’ll never forget standing at my kitchen island with my grown, married daughter.  Her first Thanksgiving with her in-laws was coming up and she wanted to make a good impression with the pie she was contributing to the autumn feast.  She was sure about what the filling would be and how delicious it would turn out, but the crust?  That had her panicking, so she had come to my house to get some help.

Now, here we were, standing side by side at the counter.  We each had a bowl of flour, a due amount of Crisco and ice water to mix in, and a rolling pin beside, waiting for its time of duty.

Mom, why don’t you just make crust for me?  It will turn out so much better!

No, I’m sure you can do this.  Just watch while I do each step, then you do it.

Each step brought her closer to the desired result, and then after a little time, the crust had been rolled, picked up and placed into the pie pan.  With another bit of effort, the side crust was duly pinched and crimped, resulting in a crust that looked worthy of a state fair competition!  She was so proud.  It was completed because she was willing to wait.

As I was cleaning up the cloud of flour left on counter and floor, my daughter began talking to me about the desire of her heart, and the difficulty of waiting.  The wait was making her wonder if God was withholding from her because she had done something in the past, and this was her necessary punishment.

Have you ever wondered that?  Has the question of God’s seeming delay to answer made you wonder if He was perhaps angry with you?  We know He could do it, but when He doesn’t, wrong thoughts begin to creep in.

Pointing to the flour-covered rolling  pin we had just used, I said,

You came over here because you wanted the finished product of a pie crust, and you came to me to make it for you. Instead, I had you come near and learn from me.  After time, the result was your beautiful pie crust.

God is doing the same thing in your life, on a much higher plane.  Instead of just handing over to you what you’re asking Him for, He’s pulling you near Himself so that you can learn from Him what you would never learn otherwise.  In the right time, God will answer and provide, and you will be so thankful for the lessons you learned while you waited.

Friend, what are you waiting for today?  Whether it’s huge or small, remind yourself of Truth.  Just because it’s not happening right now, doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love you!  He cannot act outside of His character, and He loves you as much as His own Son!  There are lessons in waiting that will never be learned if God answered your request immediately.  He is a good Father, and He is pulling you close to Himself to teach you and instruct you, to comfort and to prepare you for when the time is just right and He will answer.

The joy on my daughter’s face when she saw her finished pie crust is nothing compared to what I’m seeing God do in her life right now!  I’m pretty sure if you asked her, she would tell you it was well worth the wait.

Maybe we should bronze that rolling pin.  It taught a tremendous lesson to my over-anxious heart.

Keep trusting.  Keep waiting.

 

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